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Although it is the eve of my youngest's birth I will blog about my 1st,my comforter,my miracle child. The ex had put me through hell and I took him back. I was young late teens almost 20 and I wanted to believe love would conquer all( Boy was I deluded). He had sent me through so much drama and pain but for the sake of my unborn I said fuck it and forgave him. We started making plans to move in together and then a month later we did. I was just making 7months in my pregnancy(Maybe I will blog the pre-quel soon. This is like StarWars I'm telling it backwards)

My doctor had taken a sono when I was 6months and said my placenta looked a little low to come back and the date was pretty far off. So 2 nights after we moved in we were intimate. I sat up on the bed in pain and my ex was upset b/c I would not confide in him my pain and then something went splat....My ex screamed "Oh shit" and jumped off the bed. It was covered in blood and the splat was part of my placenta on the floor. We were not even fully moved in yet and since this was night our new bedroom had no main light and needed the lamps he had already purchased but not put in the room. He jumped up and half way put on his shirt rapping the other side around his neck. With one boot on and the other in hand he ran downstairs to a payphone outside in the rain. I was upstairs crying and praying for the life of my unborn child.

It was too soon...could he or she survive? I'd fallen in love with someone who was still very much apart of me and not in actual existence yet. And I had fought so many and for so much to make this child's life everything that I thought it should have. The police and fire department  reached 1st had me lay on the bed and shined flashlights up my hole( No lights in the bedroom where I was remember), and realizing I had a ruptured Placenta.

They carried my fat Pregnant butt down 3 flights of steps strapped to a board. The ambulance had come and taken me to the nearest hospital and since my nice private insurance covered my private doctor they took me to the public hospital right around the corner believe it or not. So anyway fastforward to the doctor examining me and telling me the placenta ruptured you need emergency surgery b/c you have something called Placenta previa( Low lying placenta that can partially or wholly in my case, completely covering my cervix) Yes no exit for the baby 1or both of us would be maget food. So they allowed me to be up for it but they did a c-section.

He was strong at 4lbs8oz. By the2nd day he was breathing on his own( yes oxygen was administered) That was a scary time though, he was as small as a football with wires attached at every angle. It wasn't until 2 weeks after I came home that little O joined me. He had no handicaps, he had his vision,wits, oxygen didn't cause anyother problems and he was my miracle baby.........



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  • Lucytorial said on Feb 20, 2007....
    Very moving... as a childless women I still understand this kind of love you speak of and you haev written your life here beautifuly.  HH {{hugs for a healthy baby}}
  • queenparanoia said on Feb 21, 2007....
    what a nice story! yup he really is a miracle. what happened to your ex??
  • husbandhater said on Feb 21, 2007....
    He decided that this was not the life he wanted and that was all too much for him so when miracle boy reached 2 and the night he found I was pregnant with the2nd child he walked out on me. He then proceeded to request paternity tests in court b/c I sued his dumb ass for support. When the tests came back 98 or 99% that he was the father he proceeded to ask the judge what happened to he other precent!(yes you can laugh now) The judge told him that nothing is 100% thekid(my 2nd child ) had to get something genetic from my side.( Amasingly he looks more like him than the 1st son) He was going to contest the paternity test to try and stall paying and the judge must have sensed it.
     
    The judge then said to him the following: Mr I have a test here that says genetically you are the father of these children. I don't doubt that Ms.H is telling me the truth that you walked after you found out about the 2nd pregnancy. Now you can contest this and we'll do more invasive tests that can possibly harm your child. But I know the results will be the same. Stalling does not stop you from oweing your children b/c it is like a running tab since the day you walked ont the 1st and the day the2nd was born. Now if you want to continue to waste my time I can make your support so high that you can't afford to live( then the judge smiles)
    Would you like to claim your 2nd son now Mr.?
     
    He claimed him and since he was being such a dick I didn't wave the 4,000 he already accumilated. He almost died in that room that day. But fastforward to 8yrs later and we still kinda dislike eachother but we tolerate one another. He calls the children everyweekend to talk and find out what's up in their lives. He pays support and sees them when he can. He lives in the land of sunshine and Disney. Which is far from my Empire state building. My little miracle is still a fighter but seeing your child in such a fragile state rips your heart out.
  • husbandhater said on Feb 21, 2007....
    With the placenta privea that wasn't diagnosed I wasn't suppose to be having sex. Techincally I shouldn't have even been walking around I should of been on bedrest for the rest of my pregnancy.
  • polarheart said on Feb 21, 2007....
    HH, boy you've been through so much!  I'm so glad that you've survived and that you are such a wonderful mom to your boys.  You are special and I believe God blessed you with the miracle of your son no1 and the other 2. . .He always gives us ways to get through the tough times!
     
    Polar (((hugs)))
  • silverwhisper said on Feb 21, 2007....
    my god, HH...that's definitely a miracle! and what better miracle than birth?

    ed
  • skald said on Feb 21, 2007....
    That´s wonderful that you got thought all this and that the boy lived. You have gone through a lot I can see. I think you are a capable person. I´m not good at commenting. 
  • secretlife said on Feb 21, 2007....

    Hh:  your baby was big for a premie! wow 4l 1/2bs....that was the reason your baby was so strong!  That's quite a miracle alone.

    And to be breathing on his own after 2 days......wow!

    were the doctors really careful with you during your 2nd pregnancy to make sure you wouldn't suffer placenta previa again???  i'll bet that 2nd pregnancy was pretty scary too...

  • husbandhater said on Feb 21, 2007....
    Thanks Silver and Polar{{{{HUGS}}}}}
    Skald you did just fine.
    Secret I think he might of been an 8lber had I gone all the way. He did suprise the doctors. But to see him in the incubator with the wires and that bilirubin light it freaked me out. I almost broke down. He fit in my hand.
    My 2nd pregnancy was stressful and due to me having to handel everything I missed some prenatal appointments but he was born health. The irony is that he has Adhd( a learning disability) & the 1st is extremly smart.
     
    Placenta previa was a 1 in a zillion thing that they said would not occur again. I also have something called the Rh factor and they said that was more concerning than me getting this again. But yes it was scary.
  • husbandhater said on Feb 21, 2007....
    I really didn't wanna blog about my ex b/c that part of my life is so old and over and it took me long enough to get over him ,it, and the hurt . I've told so many that story over the years and after I married my hubby I stopped but I didn't realize that until now.
    I'll tell it if any want to hear but with all the drama around here as of late I'll save it for another day. I try to concentrate on happy thoughts most days. I've got enough drama in my life to fill a bucket. I wish life could pick now as a moment to go smoothly. I could use a break from" that bucket " for awhile.
  • queenparanoia said on Feb 22, 2007....
    yeah youre right just concentrate on your blessings. thank god he's your ex now!

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