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My husband, on some level, is sorry when he apologizes.  But a lot of the time, he comes to me with bogus apologies.  He says, "Baby, I'm sorry.  I shouldn't have acted like that."  But then goes on and on about why he thinks that behavior is justified.  And he'll apologize several times during the course of an argument before he is genuinely sorry.
 
So that prompts me to ask:  would you rather an empty apology or none at all?


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  • polarheart said on Feb 15, 2007....
    Bombshell, for me an apology should not be followed by a justification.
     
  • secretlife said on Feb 15, 2007....
    none at all.  an apology followed by justification is not an apology.
    you should tell him that.
     
    use a simple example like.
     
    I'm sorry i poked your eye out.
    i didn't realize the poker was so sharp.
    and i wasn't aiming at you anyway....
  • tracie said on Feb 15, 2007....
    No   apology   at  all,   your   not   sorry  than  don't  said  it   please  because   not  real  My  dude   does   the   same  I  am   sorry   i  drank  your  pop,   i  am  sorry   for  not   paying  phone   but  i  would  not  have had   no  money  left.
  • BombShell said on Feb 16, 2007....
    Yeah.  He always complains about a double-standard, but when we argue, he almost always says "I'm sorry, but..."   I told him that in itself is a double standard and he didn't get it.  I tried to explain it and he still didn't get it. 
     
    What's worse is when he says stuff like, "I'm sorry you got mad."
     
    And the thing is that that stuff actually works on other people.  I think I'm the only one that can see through his little machievellian schemes.  And after all these years, for some reason, he hasn't stopped trying.  HELLO I'M SMARTER THAN YOU, JUST GIVE IT UP.  It just pisses me off even more when he tries that crap.
  • silverwhisper said on Feb 16, 2007....
    honestly, no apology is better than an insincere bullshit one, IMHO.

    ed
  • dailyachesandpains said on Feb 16, 2007....
    No apology, better than the fake!
    daily

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