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Sometimes in the daily flow of life and blogging, the good parts are so often pushed aside.
 
Wouldn't it be interesting to know from your fellow bloggers what the single best or most respected trait is about their wives and husbands? If you aren't married, perhaps an ex or some other person you wish to let us know about. Even if you are about to get a divorce, is there a good trait that resides within their body?
 
I will be happy to start this off and name one trait.
 
My wife and I had one marriage behind us when we met. It's natural to look deeper the second time around. My first priority was to watch for a good disposition. And I found one with exactly that. I feel my wife's disposition is almost super-human. It's there 99% of the time. She doesn't hardly know what a bad mood is. She has become distraught, of course, but she is open and talks about what is bothering her.
 
This one trait makes all the difference for everyone around her. Whether at home, at work, or any place at all, she is genuinely pleasurable.
 
Will you let the good times roll and tell us yours?


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  • silverwhisper said on Feb 13, 2007....
    i have always said that the greatest thing about my wife is that she has the purest heart i've ever known.

    ed
  • mobil said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Limited to one trait is more difficult, my wife has many traits that I admire.
     
    If I choose the single most outstanding trait.......it would have to be.........
     
    Selflessness. She is not about herself, life is not about her. She can come in
    last with everything and it does not bother her in the least.
     
    It's special and I recognize it, I saw this trait early on, before we were
    married. It was one of the big ones that attracted me to her...thanks beyond
     
  • secretlife said on Feb 13, 2007....
    My husband has this great ability to be satisfied with simple things...he's easy to please. 
  • BrenneeLee said on Feb 13, 2007....
    I have complained about my husband here, but the truth is, the things that made me love him in the first place are still there....

    As for the best.... it's hard to choose.

    I love about him that he's my absolute best friend.  I've never had a problem telling him anything and everything.  He comforts me when I need it and he always seems to know when that is.   He's genuine and loving.
    Okay, so more than one and I could keep going but I think I made my point *smile*

  • mousenphonic said on Feb 13, 2007....
    My husband is my best friend. He doesn't know his biological parents and I don't know my father so sometimes we joke that what if we are maybe brother and sister? 'cause that's how close we are. On a more physical note:  He was in a bike accident in his teens and this left all these deep scars over his chest and legs....I'm a sucker for his scars.....:))
  • polarheart said on Feb 13, 2007....
    My husband has so many outstanding traits that it is difficult to choose just one, however, since I have to choose I would have to say his patience.  A is the most patient person I have ever known!  He takes everything in his stride and faces all problems through prayer. . .It is amazing that the scripture about Love in 1 Cor 13 starts with "Love is patient..."
     
    Polar :-)
  • beyondtheveil said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Ed- A whole lot said in one simple sentence. And if I know anything about you, anticipation has already risen concerning that steak dinner tomorrow.
     
    mobil- There is always one that stands out when you are looking, isn't there? Selflessness is a wonderful trait.
     
    secret- Ah, a mark of the ease of living comfortably with someone. If I was vain, I would say this is one of my traits. But since I'm not vain, suffice it to say this is huge.
     
    brenneelee- Thats ok. You may be overcome because its almost Valentines Day.
     
    mouse- A best friend, wonderful. I'll bet you are the only one who mentions scars as one of your "sucker" traits. But I understand.
     
    polar- I was wondering who would be the first to say patience. You get the prize. Right as rain you are- love is patient. One of those I need just a bit more of.
     
     
  • mousenphonic said on Feb 13, 2007....
    I like scars because it shows that he's not afraid of pain since his been through alot of it and every scar tells a story of it's own, plus, I'm the only one who realy sees all of them so it's something special to me..... :) *drool*
  • anonymous said on Feb 13, 2007....
    I love everything about my husband especially how strong of a man he is i just wish he'd love me back enough not to cheat on me
  • pete said on Feb 13, 2007....
    My wife has great taste in men.
    We first dated in fifth grade.25 years ago.
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 13, 2007....

    Wow - I like this post a lot.

    My husband has so many wonderful traits.  The most important one for me is that he:

    Has integrity and heart, a tenacity to never give up, he always listens, he always wants to know....

    My husband has in amazing ability to love, purely simply and quite breathtaking in the way he shows just how much he loves me.

    My husband is one of the very few people I know who wants me to be me and just me... nothing more nothing less - he does not like fakeness. 

    Of all of the things I saw when we first met I saw a person who looked at me, would be my friend for life and never ever hurt me. {I am smiling at this because its valentines today and maybe I will show him all of these thigns myself after work}

  • mommyof2 said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Honestly here, I fell in love with his ethnicity..his dark eyes, hair, and skin..far different then mine, he was the 1st I ever saw like this, he was a mystery that i'm still trying to figure out....
  • husbandhater said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Thinking hard....Going to ask him.....Honey whats your best trait?....Just kidding!
    I don't know it's sad to say but when he gets sick he sofens up and there is this side of him that is so like a little boy, so tender and sweet. I hug him. ANd when he comforts me.
  • yani said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Even before we got married I was always drawn to his tenderness. This trait was really unknown to me until I met him.
  • quidnunc said on Feb 13, 2007....
    my wife loves and cares unconditionally. her integrity is unmatched, and her vision and purpose in life is so clearly drawn.

    she is a true person. boy am i lucky to have her.
  • CreativeWoman said on Feb 14, 2007....
    My husband will eat almost anything I cook. He's not picky that way.

    CW
  • momsrock said on Feb 14, 2007....
    my husband is the first one to help his friends and help the farmers around us and stops at a local garage on his way home to do their welding for them. (It's a small garage with limited means and so he does all of their welding for free.) And right now he is snow blowing our neighbors driveways and sidewalks.
  • minniemouse said on Feb 14, 2007....
    My husband is a wonderful father.  We have two young girls and he gets down on the floor and plays with them, he will have tea parties with them and he will even let them "do his hair" which I find pretty funny.  The girls absolutely light up when they see their father. 
  • hotaka said on Feb 14, 2007....
    It's hard to chose just one but it's fun introducing her to new things, especially movies and nature. When she gets into a new movie she is so funny sometimes with her comments of excitement. As for nature, she says all the right things that make me feel she is the best choice.
  • Muckraker said on Feb 14, 2007....
    My favorite trait my wife continually displays is her steady support down through the years when I had some serious health issues.  Many would have left me, but she stayed right by my side. 
  • here_in_my_head said on Feb 14, 2007....
    My favourite trait that my boyfriend constantly displays is his genuine patience. He waited for me after I broke up with my ex of 8 years. He's helped me through some tough times. He's been nothing but encouraging and loving through all of my anxiousness. And he's never asked for anything in return.
  • missunderstood1162 said on Feb 14, 2007....
    This is a hard one to narrow down.  My husband would do anything for me and takes such good care of me emotionally.  I've never been cared for in that way before.  It's a gift that I celebrate every single day.
  • BombShell said on Feb 14, 2007....
    The best thing about my husband is that he loves me in spite of myself.
     
    He was my friend in college.  We went on a couple dates, but never got exclusive.  We went to breakfast on Saturdays and dished on everything, especially whomever we were dating at the time.  He knew me better than anyone and five years later, I realized that I loved him.  He was there for me and never judged me.  He knew all my quirks and idiosyncracies.  He knew my temper and passion.  He knew all my bad habits.  He saw me when I was ugly.  And through it all, he still loved/loves me.
     
    And that's the best thing about him.
  • RollingC said on Feb 14, 2007....
    She has good traits to balance out the bad traits that I have.  I'm a procrastinator and she's always worried about doing things on a timely basis.  She's got a good heart and even though the sparks fly between us every once in a while, she's the keel that steadies my boat in rough waters.
  • louthomas said on Feb 14, 2007....
    This is the third marriage apiece for both of us.

    Yet, for 20 years, she's managed to put up with my moods, my introspection, my business ups and downs ... and still leave me feeling loved.

    Ain't easy, McGee, putting up with me.
  • SageRave said on Feb 14, 2007....
    It is almost impossible for me to choose one trait that is the BEST.  My husband is the dearest, sweetest person I have ever known.  My head would explode it I tried to explain what that means.
  • frostfaery said on Feb 14, 2007....

    My husband is a wonderful man and my hero! He's the LOVE of my LIFE.....

    He has been ill for the past 4 years and I Love him even more.....I would walk thru hell for him and not blink an eye. We both have had 2 previous marriages but the third time is Definitely The Charm!

    Saying I love him is too little, there are not enough words in any language to express the way I feel. Only in words of the Angels could I express my feelings.

    He truly IS my Valentine!

  • MissMimi said on Feb 14, 2007....
    The way he goes about it usually drives me crazy, but I never doubt the fact that he intends to do good. Now, his idea of good and mine don't usually mesh, but his heart is in the right place. He is not malicious.
  • beyondtheveil said on Feb 14, 2007....
    pete- You dated in the fifth grade? The only thing I dated then was a football and bicycle. But you're right, if she chose you in the fifth grade, she knows what she's doing.
     
    lucytorial- This is the best description of a womans love & admiration  for her husband on this site. In fact it's one of the best I've seem ever. I'm so happy for you.
     
    mommyof2- Sounds like a healthy case of adventure and mystery to me. Good for you.
     
    husbandhater- That's so neat. Sounds like you both turn into a couple of kids when that happens.
     
    yani- I'm so glad you found that trait for yourself.  It's very important.
     
    quidnunc- Wonderful girl. And I agree about the luck in finding her.
     
    CW- You can't imagine how many women I've heard complain about picky husbands and trying to keep up with their eating habits. That's a lot, CW.
     
    momsrock- I have a friend in my hometown who is that way. He is the one I respect most of all my friends. And all of his have the same feelings.
  • beyondtheveil said on Feb 14, 2007....
    minniemouse- This is special to me. I wrote a post on "Fathers and daughters" and was delighted to see this.
     
    hotaka- This reminds me of introducing my wife to new foods. She was raised with a meat & potatos father. Her reactions must please you.
     
    muckraker- Very important, my friend, and shows a lot of love and caring.
     
    hereinmyhead- Patience has been mentioned here as a favorite and more important than some realize. A good  contender for your future, I would say.
     
    missunderstood1162- A husband you're going to keep around, I'll bet. When you said "celebrate", that's something everyone with a good catch should do and don't do enough of.
     
    bombshell- I like this. Someone who has seen everything and accepts it all and loves you for it. Sounds like a love story.
     
    rollingc- I've never heard it put that way, "balances out the bad traits I have". That's good, really good.
     
    louthomas- I've heard this before....maybe from me once or twice. Nice, isn't it?
     
    sagerave- If your head will explode, then by all means don't. That says a lot within itself.
     
    frostfaery- You just expressed it frost, you don't need the angels.
     
    missmimi- Now you are a first mimi. The best trait about your husband drives you crazy. Having his heart in the right place and not being malicious is good.
     
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 14, 2007....

    Thanks beyond, I forgot to mention one thing though and it's cute really that at my age I would even know....

    My husband looks like David Niven  {giggle} he really does, the spitting image of him it freaks me out all the time...

  • granmomi21 said on Feb 14, 2007....
    I just posted on this 20 mins ago.
    http://www.soulcast.com/post/show/49588/my-valentine

    Sorry, this is the only way I know how to do it.
    granmomi
  • MissMimi said on Feb 14, 2007....

    LOL Beyond, what I meant to say was he doesn't drive me crazy on purpose... I have the feeling I should quit while I'm ahead...

    He has also stood by me throughout the years as my health has become an issue.  He could have bailed, and he didn't.  He really is a good man.

  • mom said on Feb 15, 2007....

    The best trait about my husband is that he is married to me :)

    ok ok I think it is because he puts up with me even when I can't stand myself.  I could think of a lot more things if he would give me some.

  • NotANormie said on Feb 15, 2007....
    He is absolutely bar none, the best person I know.
    Suzz
  • pete said on Feb 16, 2007....
    The first friday of the month was a half day of school.We would go for pizza.
  • random_moods86 said on Feb 17, 2007....
    I have so much problems with my husband and i like this post bcuz i can look at his good qualities too....one trait that i admire my husband for is he loves to work...work to him is his best trait.
     
    random moods
  • JadeLondon said on Feb 23, 2007....
    Although he isn't the most social of creatures, my husband is an intriguing conversationalist. I love the sharpness of his wit combined with a dark sense of humor.
  • beyondtheveil said on Feb 24, 2007....

    lucy- That's funny. I can see how it freaks you out sometimes.

    granmomi21- Thanks for the link. And by the way, I'm not the best on computers either.

    mom- I'm glad my wife puts up with me also. There are moments when I'm not exactly the most pleasant person one could find.

    notanormie- And a darn good reason to be happy you have him.

    pete- We didn't have that half day, but we had what I think were better hours than they have now.

    randommoods86- It's good to be able to look at those qualities now and then. I'm impressed by people who love to work, so many do not have that.

    jade- A good conversationalist is always nice to have around, it helps in marriages. My daughter can have that dark sense of humor, it's interesting when it comes out in her.

  • Malinki said on Mar 09, 2007....
    The  greatest  trait  about  my   wife   is   her   sense   of  humanity   toward 
     people,   and  her  incredible   attitude   about   life.  My  life  was  an  absolute   mess   before   I   met  her,  and  today   I  feel   a   sense   of  rebirth.  She  saved  my  life  and  everyday   with  her  is  like a  dream,  and  sometimes  the  feeling  is  incredible.  My  wife  and  I   will   be   celebrating  our  4th  wedding  anniversary in April,  and  yet    it  feels  like  we're  celebrating  many  more  years  than that.  She  loves  humanity,  she  is  magical   when  it  comes  to  life's  adversity's   and   when  the  pressure  is  on  at  my  job,  I  think  of  her   and  nothing  can  stress  me  or  harm  me.   You  see,  my  wife  is  the  greatest  person  alive  and  I'm  the  luckiest  man  to  have  her  in  my  life,  my  heart  and   my  soul.  I  feel  thankful   and  grateful.  This  is   the  best  thing  about  my  wife.
  • beyondtheveil said on Mar 12, 2007....
    malinki-- It did me good to read your description. Humanity and attitude and what it did, and does, for you. A truly blessed man.
  • ErinTryin2bStrong said on May 05, 2007....

    Hi beyondtheveil, I'm only new to SC and I really enjoy this post. Especially when I'm going through a tough time with my husband-to-be. I have to agree we really need to look at the good things more often!

    The best thing about my partner is that no matter how much crap my family and friends give him he'll always be there for them when they are in need. He always tell me, he'll do anything and everything if it makes my life easier.

    He taught me so many valuable lessons in life and if it wasn't for him, I wouldn't the chance to be the person I am today.

    And I'm loving it! ;)

    Erin

  • mormonblog2 said on May 23, 2007....
    MY wife who has put up with me and my many faults for 44+ years of marriage, one of which I have repented of is being a computer addicted work-a-holic for more than 40 years. But because the lord in answer to prayer let me get loose from that addiction by letting me have a brain damaging bicycle accident. yes regular 2 wheeled bike that I used to ride to work, home for lunch, back to work, and then home from work usually about 6 miles a day total. Oh how dedicated she has been to help me through this period of losing my addiction (I couldn't think anything but computers). I spent 40+years as a computer programming genius. Oh how nice it is I can tell her often and she can tell me often, I believe being very honest, how important we are to each other.
  • mormonblog2 said on May 23, 2007....
    beyondtheveil:
    does that name have anything to do with the veil of the temple?
    my email: mormonblog@gmail.com

  • MyLoveDDW said on Oct 16, 2007....
    The single most greatest thing about me husband is his loving nature. The way he rubs my hair and waits up late at night for me to come home from work. He has alot of great things about him and many more I'll learn later on in life.
  • beyondtheveil said on Oct 16, 2007....
    mylove- Not much that could be better than a loving nature. I learned a lot more good things about my wife as the years passed. You will too. 
  • johnsgirl21 said on Dec 05, 2007....
    the best thing about my boyfriend is that he is very patient with me even though i can be very impatient, unconfident, selfish, and not a great person. Iam slowly learning that i need to care about others and not myself and he is there for me no matter what...
  • ldsislove said on Dec 06, 2007....

    My wife has a very firm testimony of the love that Jesus Christ has for her and I and our commitment to him and being eternal sweethearts.

    MY wife who has put up with me and my many faults for 44+ years of marriage, one of which I have repented of is being a computer addicted work-a-holic for more than 40 years. But because the lord in answer to prayer let me get loose from that addiction by letting me have a brain damaging bicycle accident. yes regular 2 wheeled bike that I used to ride to work, home for lunch, back to work, and then home from work usually about 6 miles a day total. Oh how dedicated she has been to help me through this period of losing my addiction (I couldn't think anything but computers). I spent 40+years as a computer programming genius. Oh how nice it is I can tell her often and she can tell me often, I believe being very honest, how important we are to each other.

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So im swamped at work and about ready to rip my hair out so i will make this quick...
This weekend was crazy. Melissa, Jason, Phil and I went to the bar. Jason and Melissa werent getting along that swimmingly so so Melissa decided to get shitfaced...
this morning, on the bus,
i saw someone with your eyes
with the same upturned brows.
she had your playful lips
and your aristocratic nose.
strands of windblown hair
flirted too with her eyelashes

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