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Okay, we all have to do it, unless we're lucky enough to hire someone else to do it. Housework. It's one of those neverending jobs. You wash dishes, and sure enough, somebody comes along and makes them dirty again. It'd be nice if you could scrub the bathroom once and it stayed clean forever after.


There are some household chores that I like more than others. I like cleaning the kitchen. It's a great time to meditate or fantasize or ponder the meaning of life. And the hot water keeps my hands warm. I don't mind doing the laundry because it doesn't take a whole lot of effrt. The machines do the work. But I hate dusting and vacuuming and cleaning the bathroom. Those jobs require too much energy, and muscle power that I don't have.


B doesn't do house work, as a rule. He does clean his own bathroom. (We have separate bathrooms.) He knew when we moved into this house that he would have to keep his bathroom clean; the doorway is too narrow for the wheelchair to fit through. And he does all the outside chores.


I think it might be time for me to consider getting a cleaning service to come in on a regular basis. And as ridiculous as it sounds, I feel like I need to straighten up around here before they come in to clean.


I was just curious if there's a division of labor in your household. Who does what?



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  • silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....
    in our household, whoever messed it up has to clean it. the mrs spends more time in our home than i do, so things are arranged more or less as she prefers them--that only makes sense, i figure. but i do enjoy cleaning the kitchen. i like having a clean kitchen...that makes it easier to go and make more food. :D

    as she's a homemaker however, most household chores fall on her--except for taking out the garbage.

    ed
  • dailyachesandpains said on Feb 12, 2007....
    Mimi:
    I think I just posted about how my husband and I meet each other half way on your last post.  We both have OCD, but mine is much worse than his.
     
    I was thinking about hiring someone just this morning.  I have the same thought as you do, I'd have to clean before they come, lol! 
     
    I went through the roof this morning because my Husband can empty almost the entire dishwasher, but NEVER puts away the plastic containers that he uses to bring his lunch to work.  He always leaves them for me and that drives me batty!  What is the problem with men and putting away tupperware?  My Dad does the SAME thing to my Mother. 
     
    {{{hugs}}}
    Daily
  • MissMimi said on Feb 12, 2007....

    Ed: That was the original agreement between B and me. I would be responsible for the children and most of the household duties and he would be the breadwinner. That's still the way it's supposed to be, but sometimes I worry I am not pulling my weight or keeping up my end of the deal. I can't physically keep up with the housework anymore, and I wonder from time to time what my useful function is around here.


    Daily: LOL at the tupperware. Maybe he's afraid to put it away. You do know, don't you, that if you close Tupperware containers up into a cupboard, they multiply out of control? And the end of the world, the only things left on the planet will be cockroaches and Tupperware. Oh, and those little plastic margarine containers.

  • Alyss said on Feb 12, 2007....
    mimi I do everything inside and quite a lot of the outside chores also but DH has been the one to mow the grass. Guess I'd better discover how that mower works pdq!

    On the occasions that DH empties the dishwasher he drives me crazy by insisting on putting  everything down on the work top before putting it away in the cupboards despite the kitchen being barely big enough to swing a cat in. The most annoying bit though is he often gets distracted and walks off leaving it all spread over the top or even worse has placed the clean dishes on an unwiped top so they are dirty again!
  • dailyachesandpains said on Feb 12, 2007....
    Mimi:  That cabinet that houses the plastic ziplock containers and tupperware-ish stuff is a disaster.  I think that is why he doesn't do it.  I DO it!  I always end up putting this cabinet back in order and then he gets ONE thing out of it to put his lunch in and it's a disaster all over again!  I want to throw it all away and see how he survives, lmao! 
    We have more covers than containers!  I have a plastic margarine container, lmao!  I don't know why I have it, never use it, I don't know why I don't get rid of it either...maybe I will do that right now, lol!
    {{{hugs}}}
    Daily
  • silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....
    hey, i put the darned things away! :p

    ed
  • dailyachesandpains said on Feb 12, 2007....
    Ed, come train my Husband...PLEASE!
  • lioneljay said on Feb 12, 2007....
    This is actually a touchy subject around our house, but not for the usual reasons. The wifely one and I have a fairly even split of inside chores and I tend to do a little more outside than she does. The thing is, housework is an emotional issue for her.

    She has a much higher tolerance for clutter, dust, and disarray than I have. Unfortunately, she also has a proprietary feeling about housework. The translation is that she feels hurt and insulted whenever I overstep my boundaries and do cleaning that she has reserved for herself. Thus I have learned to stick to the elements of housekeeping that I've been assigned and let the rest of the chips fall as they may. She'd rather have the clutter and dust and retain her self-image as the primary housekeeper. I don't get it but it's not the largest possible battle so I stay away from the topic now after years of trying to bring about change.

    The same is true outside. As a teacher, she has very little free time during April and May. However, that's the best time around here to plant new annuals and to spruce up the landscaping. It's against our rules for me to do any of the decorative yard work so we rarely have any decorative landscaping in place until late June, at which point all the healthy annuals have been sold at the garden shops and the weather isn't ideal for nurturing the ones that she gets around to planting. I know that one answer would be to plant perennials in the fall - but have you ever seen how hard a workaholic teacher can drive herself getting the school year off to the right start?

    I guess we're a bit of an odd couple in this regard - and I'm not the slob.
  • silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....
    mimi: what precisely is it you'd like for me to teach him? :D are you sure you don't want LJ for that? :D

    ed
  • polarheart said on Feb 12, 2007....
    Mimi, I wish I could afford help esp. with the ironing.  I'm really good with doing the washing, but the ironing pile always seems high to me!
     
    Because my husband works I do the majority of the housework, but when we are expecting guests and need to do some extra cleaning he is always very good in doing whatever I ask him to do.
     
    Moving to the UK was quite a big adjustment for us, because in South Africa we use to have a full time gardener, who would also wash the cars once a week. . .now my car has been known to go for 6 months before being cleaned (hanging my head in shame).  I also had a lady come to iron once a week and do a bit of cleaning.  Considering at that point we didn't have a child there wasn't that much work, but the people need the work and we were able to afford it then.
     
    Guess what I'm doing tonight???? It starts with "I" and ends in "G" - hooray! :-[
     
  • MissMimi said on Feb 12, 2007....

    Ed: My friend, there are probably countless things you could teach B, but I think Daily was the one who cried out for help. :p

    Alyss: My mom used to mow the lawn when I was a kid, until my dad bought a riding lawnmower. Then he'd light up a cigar and ride around the yard, mowing the day away.

    LJ: Like MrsLJ, I have a pretty high tolerance for clutter. I can kinda see why she reacts that way. I probably would too, I have to admit. I'm very sensitive about things like that because I take it as criticism. On the other hand, if you ever get the hankering to clean, I'd be happy to send you directions to my house.

    Polar:  Ugh.  Ironing.  I solve that little problem by not buying clothes that need regular ironing.  I do however iron a lot with my quilting.  Flat pieces of fabric are much easier to deal with than shirt sleeves. 

  • silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....
    er...oops!

    [looks sheepish]

    ed
  • beyondtheveil said on Feb 12, 2007....
    mimi- First let me say I think you deserve out side help.
     
    In our house I do all outside work & take care of garbage. My wife has always had a full time job (because she's wanted it that way) so I help around the house. Lately I've become more interested in cooking, which she loves. Cooking has never been her favorite thing.
     
    The only other thing she would like for me to help on was expressed the other day this way- "are you ever going to learn how to clean a toilet?"
  • SaltwaterPearl said on Feb 12, 2007....
    When Hubby and I both worked he expected me to do the housework and I used to reply, "Keep me like a 1950's wife and I'll clean like a 1950's wife." Boy has that bitten me in the arse. I am now a homemaker and Hubby expects a certain standard. Unfortuentley I can always find something more important to do than housework...
  • mommyof2 said on Feb 12, 2007....
    I do it all and work other half seems to think I'm super women while he lies around getting fatter...I think soon he may pop
  • momsrock said on Feb 12, 2007....

    The only thing he is responsible for is the garbage, mowing the lawn and cleaning the sidewalks during the winter. When I was feeling so sick a few weeks ago he did attempt to clean but I am very anal about my cleaning products. There are specific cleaners for each room and they are kept in that room so no one gets confused. I feel like I have to redo it all if the wrong one is used in the wrong room... The blue antibacterial is for the bathroom floor and kept under the bathroom sink. The orange scented antibacterial is for the kitchen floor and kept under the kitchen sink. The murphy's oil wood soap is for the living room and kept in the living room cabinet...  I don't see why it is that difficult....

  • mom said on Feb 12, 2007....
    Mimi- I used to own a housecleaning business.  I was good at it. I loved to clean someone elses house, when I left it was all clean, smelled clean, felt clean.  My own is not like that.  I get real discouraged. No one has any respect for it, my husband is the worst.  I used to get so pissed off, he would have his table packed with garbage and shit.  He could drive a saint to murder.  I don't have the business anymore, but i still get phone calls asking me if I am still cleaning.  That makes me feel good.
     
    Daily- your husband doesn't like to touch plastic, it has something to do with no liking condoms I believe.
  • yani said on Feb 12, 2007....

    I clean the house, do the laundry and the dishes. The rest is his. The kids, the cooking, the fixing, etc etc etc

    The boundary is pretty clear :)

  • sweetsoul said on Feb 12, 2007....
    Well I'm the only one here so if it gets done, I do it.
     
    Growing up we had a woman come in for decades to clean. She was considered part of the family. My Mom worked outside the home, and it made life easier for her.
     
    lol at cleaning up first Mimi. We always did that! C said she'd clean but she wasn't picking up. It was also necessary for self defence because if she did pick it up, we'd never be able to find it. hehe
     
     
  • tracie said on Feb 12, 2007....

    This is what i do in my house i clean downstairs,i clean my room,i wash dishes,do counters,clean the table. there my favorite   chores.

     

  • mom said on Feb 12, 2007....
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 12, 2007....

    Hey mum your post disapeared!? WTF??

    Anyway you've all heard the garbage problem at my house well it's fixed itself - a bit of sex did that.

    I do mostly inside he does mostly outside although he has to clean his own toilet (eeewweee boys germs) I hate gardening, and I buy clothes that don't need ironing, if I have to I have to bits one thign I hate.

    Kitchen in my house is small but well built, so it has to clean or the whole house looks dirty because the house is one big room (open plan)  I have a high threshold for clutter but NOT dust, dirt, mess, untidiness which is a contradiction but clutter can be neat and not dirty.

    "Housework is like going to the toilet you gotta do what you gotta do I suppose, sometimes it stinks! other times it feels really really good! {smirk smirk} That my friends was a pure unadulterated lucy comment

  • polarheart said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Mom, I also cleaned houses for a while.  It is hard work, but I really enjoyed it!  It gives one a good work out, hey?  I also wish I could tackle my own place with such vigour.  What is the reason you dont do the business anymore?
     
    Polar
  • mom said on Feb 13, 2007....
    Hey Polar, my little ice cap :)  It was gratifying and the ones that liked it the most was the little old ladies, I think that sometimes they just wanted the company.  I had a partner for a bit but she bailed on me and left me doing it.  Our name was "3 women and a baby" .  The third lady was supposed to be for fill in if one of us couldn't make it. I would leave a little gift when I left.  Yeah sometimes I would get home and be so sore, my back and my knees.  I quit because my knees weren't any good.  I wish I had the same enthusiasm to clean my own house.  There was one lady that was confined to a wheel chair and didn't have much money and I would go there once a week and clean for free.  It wasn't difficult to do as it was just her and it might take me 30-45 mintues.  She had a small place.  I did like it though.  Cleaning peoples houses gave me a sense of pride that I haven't gotten from many jobs.  It beats workign at a mini mart and having a drive by.  That was scary too.
  • MissMimi said on Feb 13, 2007....
    So, mom... When are you coming to clean my house? Although, I seriously doubt we'd get much work done if you came over.
  • Tinkerman said on Feb 13, 2007....

    I don't enjoy doing housework, but its a necessary evil, and we have to do it ourselves as we can' afford outside help.

    Both of us have full-time jobs(Mon - Fri), so household chores are usually done on Saturday.  Laundry, ironing, sweeping (we don't use vaccum cleaner), moping, washing the bathrooms etc. are all tough work split between both of us on top of looking after 2 young kids. 

  • gingersoul said on Feb 13, 2007....

    Mom and Polar.....did you ever enter in one house and thought  "What kind of person lives in?"  ...i mean because it was dirty beyond imagination?

    I often think i would enjoy a work like this..its physical and give you immediate reward ....you change visibly something....i am very curious for nature and i kind of imagine this would give me the opportunity to see different realities and meet people ...

    i know its a very hard job on you body. I had one girlfriend who was cleaning houses in Italy...she was young and strong but some nights she was just dead tired...

    I think i would go through houses like i go through books shelves when i visit somebody....it tells alot about their personalities.....

    I would like to clean hotel rooms too..

    My house? Cleaned for the basic, no weekly extreme cleaning for me. I am a social cleaner.......i clean at my best when i have people coming in. Now i am free from the burden of a big house because my apt is small. But nicely decorated so i keep it uncluttered as much as i can. I hate stains the most....

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