Sure he does. Does he care? No, not really. He doesn't ask what I write about. He doesn't know the how, when, what, why or where of it all. That's fine with me though. This is one time where his lack of interest suits me.
I like having my own little private hang out. I like having a place where I can participate in adult conversations. I don't have to talk about farm related topics here unless I choose to.
SoulCast is my escape for better or worse. I have made friends here. I just plain like it here.
My husband is in the next room right now watching a Rocky movie. I've come to my little corner of the house to blog. He'll fall asleep and then I'll go wake him up to go check his cows.
In the mean time I'll have zipped around SoulCast peering into the lives of other bloggers and commenting on how what they've written has touched me. Maybe I'll dream up another post for myself.
So, I've come to a point where SoulCast has become my favorite way to fill up my alone time. My husband knows I blog. He knows I get a little check every once in a while. He doesn't care what I do because he is occupied with his world. We exist on parallel planes.
CW
CreativeWoman posted on Feb 11, 2007
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beyondtheveil said on Feb 11, 2007....
My wife not only knows I'm a part of this site, she's glad. She wants me interested in computers and using them. She knows my username and password because she helped me with the site when I first started.Now, if she just won't do posts in my name...... -
minniemouse said on Feb 11, 2007....
CW....I'm new to SC, but I've been reading some of your posts and I get what you are going through. Husband happy with the "state of the union" but you want and need more. I'm in more or less a similar situation. My husband wonders what the heck I do on the computer all the time, but I see the eyes start to glaze over if I start to tell him about it. I am not the same person i was when my husband and I met long, long ago and he doesn't get that. I have changed, he has not. All my friends have seemed to accept this state of being in their lives as the way its supposed to be, so they don't understand. I'm hoping on here, to have people to turn to who understand, or will at least listen without rolling their eyes! (not that I can see anyone roll their eyes on here...a plus!! lol) -
gingersoul said on Feb 11, 2007....
CW...i can see you writing in that corner of your house, i can hear the indistinct buzzing of the tv, i can feel how eager you are to connect with people, to share your emotions....i am glad you found comfort and solace here...
i am glad if sometimes i can help you somehow....if i can reach you with something i write ..
your husband is not only physically far from you, he is lost by so long time now that even if he wanted to start lookign for you he woudln't find you anymore....
You can leave a sign outside that door "CW is gone. Too late. She was here but you never saw her". No wonder he doesnt care. No wonder you dont care anymore. For this reason only you have to stay and write about your life. I will always read.
{{{{hugs}}}}
Minnie .....welcome here ....:-).
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CreativeWoman said on Feb 11, 2007....
beyond,
I'm glad you're having some fun here!
Minnie,
Welcome to SoulCast! I think we will understand each other. :-)
ginger,
Of course you help. You reach out to me a lot. I love hearing about your life. I almost see it as a movie when I read about journalist endeavors. :-)
CW
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mommyof2 said on Feb 12, 2007....
Same here but mine is nosy.. -
Alyss said on Feb 12, 2007....
Mine knows I blog but doesn't know that I Soulcast and since he takes no interest it's very likely to remain that way. -
secretlife said on Feb 12, 2007....
CW: my husband knows i blog. He doesn't know it's SoulCast per say, but i've printed out a few of the things i've written to show him. In a way, he's like your husband, he knows, but isn't so interested. i'm fine with that. i have my own things that i do.... -
silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....
my wife has an account here and sometimes checks in. i like that she does, in all honesty. when i can't spend time with her, it's among my very favorite ways to spend time as well.
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gingersoul said on Feb 12, 2007....
SW..........does she comment on your posts too? You mention the two of you spending time together so there must be some kind of interaction....
CW..........{hug}
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silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....
GS: as a rule, no. not anymore, sadly. :<
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unassuming said on Feb 12, 2007....
As a personal rule I have set up for myself, I do no go to my significant's blog unless asked to. It feels like an intrusion. And should they make the front page, I may read the tag line, but that is as much as I read. -
MissMimi said on Feb 12, 2007....
My husband knows I have friends online. I don't think he understands it, frankly. He's not a very social person, and has trouble reaching out. I haven't told him specifically about SC, and he doesn't know my screen name or password.
CW, It's one of my favorite ways to spend alone time too. Living a parallel life to your husband-- I'm very sorry for both of you that it's come to that, but I do understand it, more than you know. {{{hug}}} -
dailyachesandpains said on Feb 12, 2007....
My Husband knows, but I don't think he knows where. When he goes to bed before me, he'll come over to my nook and I'll scroll down the screen or minimize it. Not like I write anything worth anything anyway! lol.
I think he thinks this place where I'm at is a support group, really. As he was leaving to go to his second job, I was reading MomsRock's post about her wedding to him. He said "Can you just send me the URL?" I said 'no' lol! Some day I might have something to write that I don't want his eyes to see, lol!
{{{{{{{{{CW}}}}}}}}}}
Daily
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husbandhater said on Feb 12, 2007....
Mines does and attempts to distract or whine and cries about me being in here more than with him.CW Just as you've described is how it goes in my house, except Rocky is Seinfeld. -
purrrkitten said on Feb 12, 2007....
My DH knows that I blog on this site. I share fun bits with him that make me laugh or emotional things that make me cry or remind me of my own past. He knows who some of you are (your online personas anyways!) and he asks me "what's going on in the life of ___ today?" when he comes home from work.
He laughs at my turkeyness and flirtyness and sympathizes when I share your hardships sometimes. Sometimes he gives me a nudge and says, "k now it's my turn on the computer".
He is on a different forum. And he's a turkey tooooo... eehheh
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lioneljay said on Feb 12, 2007....
As I've said before, this is my space and I like it private.
The wifely one does know that I spend time socializing with people online and she even knows that I've met a few such people face to face. The thing is, since much of my online experience prior to SC had been at a site dedicated to erotica, she is more than a little skeptical about the friendships I've made. Still, she didn't put up much argument when I made plans to attend a gathering of folks from that other site. Of course, I went to the dinner but did not stay for the overnight festivities, such as they might have been.
CW, I sense a bit of defensiveness in this post, thinking that it may have been prompted by a part of that anonymous comment that bothered you at the end of last week. We all deserve some private space and this is yours.
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granmomi21 said on Feb 12, 2007....
cw, my husband knows that I blog. he just dos'nt know what it is. He watch me write, "I hate my house, Can I just burn it down ...please" and asked me what I was writing that for. He did'nt get it.
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MissMimi said on Feb 12, 2007....
My husband has said more than once that he thinks a few of my friends are bad influences on me. I think his meaning was, that I've started expressinig my opinions and he doesn't like it. If anything, he's got it the wrong way around. I'm probably the bad influence on them. -
Zayda said on Feb 12, 2007....
My husband has an account here as well. And sometimes he checks in and comments on the blogs he finds interesting---not necessarily always mine. -
momsrock said on Feb 12, 2007....
My husband knows I do and he enjoys being filled in on every thing going on here. I leave the site up while I am doing laundry, tucking the kids in and things like that and I actually caught him laughing hysterically reading one of alien's posts. He has no idea what my name on here is or what I write about though.
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CreativeWoman said on Feb 12, 2007....
mommyof2,
Do you find that annoying or do you like sharing this place?
Alyss,
I understand that.
secret,
We all have our own interests to pursue. I like that his remains private for me.
ed,
I truly envy your wonderful relationship. :-)
unassuming,
Respect is a wonderful thing.
Mimi,
I wish you didn't understand the parallel life thing. (((hugs)))
daily,
I will sometimes share stories from funny posts with my husband mainly because he will ask me what is so funny as he passes by if I happen to be smiling. That seems to satisfy him.
husbandhater,
I try to watch Seinfeld sometimes, but I can't seem to like any of the characters except for Kramer. I wish you didn't understand the parallel life thing either. (((hugs)))
purr,
I think it's really nice you can share things like that together. :-)
lionel,
I suppose I am a little defensive. My slip must be showing.
granmom,
Don't you wish he would get it? I know that I do here.
Mimi,
I can't see you being a bad influence on anyone. :-)
Zayda,
Do the two of you find it fun to read each other's comments here?
moms,
It's nice you can share this place with him.
CW
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Zayda said on Feb 12, 2007....
CW--Sometimes the things he comments on do surprise me. But, I find that his comments are always very heartfelt. :)
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momsrock said on Feb 12, 2007....
CW, I read him some of your posts about your husband. There have been a few that have been so similar to how my husband makes me feel but you have a much better way of wording it.... so I read a few to him... and he just shook his head, "It's a shame he can't give her more than "that's just how I am" or whatever your husbands response was. I said "Mr. MOMS... That is exactly what you do to me!!!" So sharing a few of the things here with him is starting to help us understand a little bit more about each other. -
CreativeWoman said on Feb 13, 2007....
Zayda,
This sounds very romantic to me in a way. I'm kind of sappy sometimes. :-)
moms,
I'm glad it is helping you. I really am. Lord knows, I never wanted my life to be the way it is. I hope things get better for you and yours.
CW
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JadeLondon said on Feb 13, 2007....
I haven't indicated to my spouse that I have returned, and will not do so. I try to not post or even comment when he is around. Two reasons: he thinks there is something crass in revealing my private life to the public (he tried to basically limit me to talking about the children, or topics unrelated to my life) and he despises the clicking of my BlackBerry keys.I haven't share anything I have written in almost six months. Cannot say I plan to, either. He isn't interested anyway.
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silverwhisper said on Feb 14, 2007....
he's a doofus. :>
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CreativeWoman said on Feb 14, 2007....
Jade,
I know how it feels to be "censored" by your spouse. I used to write humorous poetry about rural life. It's something I did because my husband enjoyed it and I enjoyed writing it for him. I was doing well with it. In a couple of writer's groups, I was compared to Baxter Black. I was even a featured poet of the month on a fairly prestigious website.
Then he started telling me what I could and couldn't write about. Anything that involved his father was off limits. I was terribly hurt because I was never mean. So, I stopped writing the poetry all together. He just wanted me to write about topics he suggested and then make it funny.
There was no joy in it for me anymore.
CW
P.S., I agree with ed that your husband is a doofus. :-)
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lioneljay said on Feb 14, 2007....
CW, so is yours a doofus. -
CreativeWoman said on Feb 14, 2007....
lionel,
Well, yeah....he is.
CW
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