• small_flower said on Feb 10, 2007....

  you should start just taking walks with your kids or by yourself. not only is that exercise but it will bring your stress level down as well.  Plus, its easy to do and you can do it anywhere!

• secretlife said on Feb 10, 2007....

  i'm 46.  At 36 I decided to alter my lifestyle.  But after slowly.......really slowly losing 15 lbs, I decided to exercise and REALLY make a change in my life.

  I took up walking.

  At first i walked on an indoor treadmill.  I could only do 10mn...but i did it morning, noon and night...

  i did it every other day...

  and i kept it up...til i was doing 15 mn 3 times, then 30 twice, then 1 hour once....

  it makes ALOT of difference.  You will see the weight  drop twice as fast, you will see tone in everything...butt, legs...you will feel 100% better after a month...and the walking makes you happy!  honest......i swear.

  Try it for 30 days.  Start real slow....

  i bet you feel better on march 10.

• ALIENated said on Feb 10, 2007....

  Wow, I feel your pain. My whole family went on a diet a couple of years ago.
  I lost about 45 pounds. We did the South Beach diet. It was easy except for
  shopping and preparing the food. It is a bit expensive, too. Funny, it is
  expensive to eat right. I have gained about half of it back because we are
  not following it as strictly as we should. I still follow the basic principles and
  get more strict if I start gaining too much. Have you considered checking out
  whether you have some medical condition? You probably have what I call
  "clean you plate" syndrome. I have noticed that some people (including me)
  tend to fill their plates too full and then they are compelled to clean that
  plate. I know I was always told to clean my plate. The skinniest people I
  know (and I have seen some from childhood to adulthood) were never told
  anything about eating, were never made to eat vegetables or anything for
  that matter. Food was not a big deal. We used to use meal times for
  entertainment. We ate out a lot, still do. That can pack on the extra
  weight from all the empty calories. I would suggest drink more water 
  (that is what I am trying to do as of today), eat more salad, and have
  more sex (or some kind of exercise).
  		

• purrrkitten said on Feb 11, 2007....

  Oh Shortie... Wanna see my preaching against dieting? Here.

  Are we destined to be 'fat'? Sure according to reality! I've had four kids and I think I remember you having more than one. Even one is enough to warp your body and your metabolism forevermore. Plus, my dear, we are all getting older. I'm never gonna look 18 again and it doesn't matter! I have four miracles and every day I get to spend with them is a God-given priveledge.

  Look up, sweetie! I just weighed myself yesterday (first time in ages since I'm no longer a slave to the scale) for my passport shit. I weigh 221.5 lbs.

  Fat? SO!  purrrrrrrrrrrrrr luvs ya!!!!!   ~^^

• ALIENated said on Feb 11, 2007....

  I call it pleasantly plump.
  

• shortone said on Feb 11, 2007....

  I actually had anorexia when I was young.  A candy bar and a country time lemonade a day.  Yes, my parents made me clean my plate.  I dont do that with m kids.  I just make sure we have 1 meat, 1 veg and 1 carbo (for them - I skip the carbo).  My DH is a huge food fanatic- even eats during the middle of the night...and he weighs 150.  My meal plans are separate from my family.  And I don't snack.  Tonight I could not eat dinner after my lunch rendevous.  I was too full still.
   
  And I had a breast reduction about 5 years ago because my boobs went down past my waist.  Talk about being unporptioned.  After I had the breast reduction I exercised 3-5 days a week, had a treadmill, counted calories, drank plenty of water and never went below 160.  After crying countless times on the scale I had blood work done.  The doc found nothing.  He also said I was doing everything correct nutrionally.  I have not been able to go below 160 in over 10 years no matter what I do.  I did one Lean Cuisine a day for over 4 months.  I never lost a pound.  I understand and do portion control.  Atkins has been the ONLY plan that helped me lose what I have so far.  But now even doing Atkins hasnt worked.  I do plan to go to the doc again for more bloodwork, though I am certain my medical mystery of being a fat ass will remain as such.
   
  Now my life is overwhelmed with taking care of an autistic child.  I love him, but in many ways I wished I never had him.  He is 5, still wears diapers, we lock everything, he elopes (will run into streets, out our house) so we have to keep our house locked up like Fort Knox, he barely talks, he screeches, stims, humms and he wont leave me alone for 5 mintues, including going to the bathroom.  My escape is work.  If I had a half hour during the day to myself I would sleep.  My son does not sleep in his bed most nights and ends up sleeping with me and DH and kicks the snot out of us.  Putting him in bed doesnt help - he either comes back later or he wakes up and then we are up for the duration.  Having him is exhausting.  Workout??  HA!!!!!  I can run up twelve stairs in less than a second skipping every other step to avoid a crash in our kitchen from him climbing in the cabinets.  What I need is someone to take him from me for 3-4 evenings so I can work out.  Otherwise it is 10:30 at night before time for myself and I am up every AM by 6:30 to get my kids ready for school and me ready for work.  As far as walking with my kids - it would be great but I get home after dark and I live on a major road that has road contstruction.  We have no sidewalks right now and there is mud EVERYWHERE.  Hopefully that will change as summer comes and they will get some sort of order of the mess they have made around me.  But it is a huge project in our area and they are using our entire front & side yard and into our subdivision entrance for the work and they have crap all down our street and sidewalks.  Even the normal runners cant run in our area anymore....I wonder where they are going?
   
  Actually, I was trying to be funny in my depressed, pissed off moment.   Thanks for the encouragement but it is a been there done that moment for me.  I did start looking for another treadmill (old one exhausted and retired).  I planned on exercising after everyone goes to bed...and just getting an hour less sleep a night.  What fun that will be.

• shortone said on Feb 11, 2007....

  Hey purrgirl!!!  I was just about to get off here and go to bed so I could get a little sleep.  Kiddo is in his bed right now and I planned on sneaking to bed and trying to get to sleep before he wakes up again and decides to use our bed like a trampoline!!  It is so good to hear from you.  I can see the middle of the night is your free time too huh?? 
   
  It is wonderful to hear your wonderful cheery uplifting comments.  Thanks so much for that :)  I know I am hard on myself; I am just bummed at the stalemate I have had the last 6 weeks.  If you were to look at that forum it seems everyone else is having the same issues...they say it is lack of vit C and the winter thing.  I cant wait until it gets warm and sunny again.  But you just brought me a little sunshine-thanks!!
   
  Yes, I have had 3 kids, all big.  I was told by 3 docs my stomach will never go away - too stretched out.  My goal is to make it to 120 and get a tummy tuck.  Gyno, GP and of course the plastic surgeon all think that is the only way I will get a flat stomach back again.  You know, if I was 5'5" I would only need to lose about 15 lbs...I need "stretched" :)  not a weight loss....if only someone could invent such a technique.
   
  FYI - you are a wonderful, wonderful beautiful person...don't forget that.
   
  Hugs to you  - I have to go to bed!!  Talk to you soon and thanks again!!

• ALIENated said on Feb 11, 2007....

  I see. The only thing I can think of is winning the lottery and visiting Dr. 90210.
  He can suck out all the fat and do plastic surgery on the remaining loose skin. 
  I think the treadmill is a great deal for hanging clothes on and stuff like that. 
  I got my wife one. We both injured our feet on it, it finally ended up in the 
  garage, and then left here via garage sale. I now just walk the dog for about
  30 minutes most nights. Sorry about your child. We were just talking about 
  there being more autistic children these days with my college chid who is 
  taking lots of psych classes. What is that all about?
  

• purrrkitten said on Feb 11, 2007....

  My poor friend!!  :-(

  I know it's really hard sometimes. Wish I could give you a hug for real!!

  ((((((((((((((((((((shortie))))))))))))))))))))))))

  ~^^

• shortone said on Feb 11, 2007....

  I woke up this AM feeling a lot better.  My son actually slept in his bed last night. I woke up to sirens at 8:30 and when he wasnt in bed with me I automatically assumed he got outside and got hit by a car.  I sprang out of bed and ran into his room to see him sound asleep.  Whew!!  Talk about a relief.  I felt so bad about the things I said about him yesterday.  He woke up about 10 min later and I gave him breakfast.  He has been really good (for an autistic child) this morning and it made me feel tons better.  He is eating lunch now and then I am taking him shopping to get out.  The weather is much, much warmer (40degrees).  We are getting ice/snow the next 2 days so I am going to take advantage and get out today. 
   
  I did decide to get a treadmill.  The last time I had it I used it while I watched MTV or VH1.  I actually had fun on it.  When the belt started wearing bad it became an object of clothes being hung on it and such, just like you said ALEINated.  We eventually just got rid of ours too.  The cheapest one I found yesterday was 500.00.  I need one for CHEAP - like 2 or 300.  My  DH said he would talk to people at work and hopefully we can find one cheaper.  Even though I never lost any weight before it made me FEEL good and I cant explain why.  Maybe I was more in shape even though I didnt look any different.  Anyway, it is worth it to me to get out of this funk feeling I have been in.
   
  As far as why there is more autistic kids - that is the million dollar question.  I did a research paper when my son was born (I had gone back to school to get my IT degree - never happened, autism did and that is another story).  It was about thimerosol, a form of mercury, in vaccinations.  My daughter is Aspergers and the more I read about thimerosol the more interested I became in this debate.  Mercury first binds to the brain and then to vital organs, such as the liver and kidneys, or something like that (I did my paper 5 years ago).  Why in the hell are they putting mecury in shots we give to infants?????  There has been a huge belief that mercury goes to the brain barrier and damages the mylon sheath of the neuropathways in the brain, sort of like a short circuit.  The mylon sheath can repair itself but you cannot remove mercury from the brain so if it gets in there it cannot be repaired where there is damage.  Autism is a form of a neurlogical brain abnormality where there is such a "short circuit".  That is why on some days they will talk better, look at you more in the eyes, etc and then some days they will be completely nonverbal.  Well, I actually won a scholarship for that paper.  Then my son started showing those signs before I even finished it.  And I fought family and friends that it was not just from what I had been studying.  And unfortunately, 6 months later he had the diagnosis for me to say "I told you so."  It is the one time I wish I was wrong.    But whether mercury is the ONLY reason - who knows.  Probably not or we would not have even more kids diagnosed these days and there would have long been a cure or the numbers would start decreasing.
   
  Another reason there is an insurgence of ASD kids is because it is an umbrella diagnosis.  My daughter is ASD and so is my son -but she talks, plays cello, has friends, is highly, highly intelligent beyond her age and  my son can't even say full sentences and doesnt even know other kids exsist.  That is a HUGE difference in abilities for one diagnosis.  My daughter has the mold mildest form, while my son has the more classic, severe one.  If they were to actually separate the mild form, Aspergers, from the classic, autism (regressive in my son's case) there would be a more difinitive statistic of autism in its true sense.  But even then the numbers are astronmical, as reported by CA, which does not report Aspergers or PDD-NOS.  All I know is I wish they would find out how to keep it from happening.  What are we going to do with these kids when they become adults??  It is so scary to think about but it is going to happen.  And from my own experience, you can't undamage what has been damaged.  My son will never recover.  He will always live with me and probably never function as a normal individual in this world.  My hope is that they find the cause to stop it from happening in the following generations.
   
  Anyway, gotta get running.  I will probably post about my autism experience in here one day as another subject. I could go on and on.  It is my other obsession, next to the weight issue. 
   
  Thanks purr for the hug...must have helped because I do feel better!!!
   
   

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