Ok let me get straight down to the point. On July 2nd I had planned to throw my son his two year birthday party. Due to the disaster of his 1st party I made sure that his grandparents (on my husband's side) were in agreement. This was one month before the party, they liked the idea so we started talking about having a BBQ in our backyard. As time progressed I was planning a birthday/4th of july celebration, because our city was having its' fireworks and parade that same day. Two weeks before teh party they tell me that they were unsure of who was going to come because the night before there is a wedding and the party is on Sunday and they would be tired and would not enjoy themselves because they had to work the next day. Three days before handthey tell me that they (the family) decided that they were going to have a celebration at the newlyweds apartment to help them move in, so they were going over to drink and help them accomodate themselves. "Besides the party '(jason's)' is not important, he will not even know that we did not do anything he is only two." First of all who the hell cares if the parents are not enjoying themselves!?! This celebration was not for them it was for the kids, for my son's birthday. It is not like it was going to be late in the day, the kids are the ones who the cake and ice cream and the pinata were for not the adults. I had the events of the day planned for them, not their parents. They were not going to enjoy themselves, what the fuck is that!!! Just because they can not drink, because they have to work the next day. Your telling me my entire family (my husband's) can not enjoy themselves unless they have a beer in hand!?! This is the second time they have done this. Last year it was because they had already been invited to someone else's birthday. Generally I think that the 1st birthday is a big one and should be celebrated to all extent. then they do not get a party until they are older, in school and such. but being that his first was a disaster (only 5 people showed up) I thought I could throw him this one to make up for it. What angers me more is not that people did not come (mainly due to in-laws) but that they, weeks beforehand, were in agreement, and a couple days before the party they bail out. You are his grandparents, this is your only grandchild, why would you do something like this!?! This is two times you have decided that something else is better. Well I had invited only about 5 people from my side, we ended up having a little celebration at my mom's, went to the parade and the fireworks and spent some time at the Gala (city festival). He loved the fireworks, and the rides. It was great seeing him smile and have fun.