Why do people feel the need to pick at you when they know you are already pissed off. I got into a rather unpleasant agrument with my father yesterday. I had some errands to run, so I took Babygirl, slammed the door & headed out. I was fuming! He had really pissed me off.
Mr. Wonderful calls in to the house, gets Dad, gets the rundown on the argument, knows I am furious & then calls me. I tell him I am really angry & maybe he might want to talk to me later. He says no, we can talk about it. I start to tell him & he starts jerking my chain.
I know he is trying to be funny, but I am hurt & angry & am not ready for jokes. I tell him exactly that. So he keeps it up. I am struggling with all my might not to lose my temper. I hate to lose my temper. I really hate it. My mom used to get angry & say the most hateful things, things she is never able to take back, so I like to be really careful with my temper.
I tell him " Baby, I am begging you, this is not funny to me" He is in a great mood & says I am only trying to help you. I tell him I appreciate where it is coming from but he is only pissing off more by ignoring what I am telling him.
He has the audacity to be surprised. I told him I was angry & he probably would n't want to talk to me right then. I told him I was hurt & angry & not ready for jokes. What the fuck else was I supposed to tell him?????
Why do people assume messing with someone who is already livid a good way to help? I am starting to think they do it not out of concern for the angry person, but to amuse themselves.
Sorry for whining, but Dang! he made me so much madder!! I mean if he had just let me go, I would have been able to deal with my anger.
We talked about it, but it was mostly me saying I'm sorry when I didn't really mean it. I really think I did eveything I could think of to avoid an argument with him. I did tell him that it hurt me that he acted like my feeling were trivial & unimportant.
He says he was only trying to make me smile. I told him that again I appreciate the gesture, but next time he would do better letting me process it on my own. I clearly can't take things like this to him, because he doesn't take me seriously.
I am going to start raging again:) I better get back to work.
