• wombat said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Had the same thoughts.  We are maybe moving, soon or in a few months, and the first thing I thought was, "Will people ask themselves, "What happened to Wombat?" (when I am out of commission?)  I may not even get SC back, who knows? 
   
  I've been worrying about hopeandfaith, but felt I shouldn't ask.  My thought is that she got her shit together and is happy somewhere.  I hope so.
   
  But I read a book recently about people disappearing off a chat line, and it involved......well, too scary to go in to!  It's why I get a bit leary of what I say!   (So far, I have been "honest" without being directly "honest.")  Throwing clues off the track, so to speak.  And soon, I won't even be there, either!

• gingersoul said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Jenna, you - once again -  are showing how thoughtful and loving you are....

  but, you know, this is really odd because i was thinking about JadeLondon too days ago...and sweet Missb.....and Mamie.....Sunsathie.....Dreamdrifter.......they vanished by a long time now.....and so many other i really enjoyed reading.....where did they go? how are they doing? we shared for a glimpse secrets, dreams, childhood bedtime stories, sexy fantasy ...and now ...nothing....its sad.......its life.....

  I worry about a specific group of people here...but i have a backup...i have emails of some of them and at least one contact who would eventually give me info about them if their silence would grow too long....

  Don't we worry about real friends in the same way?

  And if i would happen to disappear ....i will say........i will write a post to explain my reasons and to thank each one of you who shared with me so many hours and so many life.....and one of the first i will thank its going to be you, dear Jenna....

  {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}} 

• wombat said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Just before I unplug my computer, I hope I get a chance to say that thanks to you all, in case I don't get back.  (Will be several weeks, I hope)  It would be nice to be missed, even if I never know.

• Lucytorial said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Wombat you will be dearly missed by me :-) lol

   

  I was wondering about jadelondon too but I heard from her not long ago a week or so ago maybe two max I think, so she's around but I understand exactly what you are saying.

  If I were to leave SC I don't think I could without an explanation to people here - there are some I consider like friends so sharing that same respect entails not falling off the planet without a word.

  I don't have personal details of anyone and no-one has any personal details of me soooo maybe I should say to all those who have read me and those I have read I would not disapear it is too sad and it's not right really.

• wombat said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Lucytorial:  I ain't gone yet!  Just maybe before long.  But thank you for that!

• Zayda said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I don't have a specific plan in place, but I do have a dear friend who posts on here who would know if something bad happened to me.  My husband also lurks about here and comments here and there but doesn't post very often, so he would mostly likely let my friend know if he couldn't make a post and let you know himself.
  
  I've been wondering about JadeLondon too, Jenna.  And Hunter as well. 
  

• MissMimi said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I don't have a formal plan per se, but I have three or four good friends here who would probably know what was going on with me.

  
  

  That's one of the real difficulties of online friendships, and expecially here at SC where it's anonymous for the most part. 

  
  

  I don't anticipate going anywhere

• yani said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I don't think I'll be leaving anytime soon :)

  But if ever, I have few people here, whom I share YMs with and besides I planned to say goodbye in a very big way, like a last post in BIG, BOLD letters saying GOODBYE!

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  i speak on the phone regularly with several soulcasters. if something happened w/ me, you guys would know, and not just b/c suddenly i would stop commenting everywhere. :>
  
  i owe jadelondon an e-mail. i haven't yet gotten a response to the one i sent hunter last week.
  
  ed

• Jenna said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Hey guys and gals....actually, I am talking about a tragic event.  Don't mean to be a downer...but I am talking accident, heart attack....etc.  Not just saying good bye.  How would we know? 
   
  Wombat....If you move...good luck.  Hope you will come back once settled.
   
  Ginger....You are too sweet girl.  I love you!  And by the way....Mamie is okay.  Just very busy right now.  She will be back soon. 
   
  Lucy....could you leave a note for someone to contact us hidden somewhere?
   
  Zayda....Your hubby visits here?  Interesting.  For some reason Jade has been on my mind.  I do wonder about Hunter....I hope he is well.  I came here just as he was leaving. 
   
  Mimi...I am glad to know someone would let us know.
   
  Yani....I hope one of your connections here would fill us in. 
   
  SW....How is Hunter?  How is his health?  In your correspondence with Jade, will you tell her people were asking about her and hope she is well. 
   
   
  I just got a phone call...TWO HOUR DELAY.....due to snow!  I am going back to bed.  ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ!!!!!!!!

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  jenna: i literally just got an e-mail back from her, will speak w/ her later in the day. promise. i may need to use that phone# for hunter.
  
  ed

• Alyss said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I think enough people know me to notice if I disappeared and enough people know how to contact me or someone who can contact me directly to find out.
  
  I wonder about Hunter and others who have faded into the background but Jade has posted this morning. ;-)
  

• JadeLondon said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Ah, Jenna! I am sorry to have worried you and the others so. :(

  Nothing life threatening has kept me from SoulCast. As pathetic as it sounds, it has been a self-imposed (no matter how unconsciously) darkness.

  I am trying to find my happiness again, to raise myself from the doldrums, and so I found myself creeping back here. You cannot imagine my surprise at what I found.

  There are ones who frequent this place who I would let know if I were in mortal danger--I promise.

  Admittedly, I am not aquainted with Lucy, that I know of, anyway. Lucy (please, don't think me rude)--perhaps you have confused me with another--or do I know you, but not by that name?

• sweetsoul said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I've noted in all of my contacts in Outlook, whether people are to be contacted or not, and if so how. My sons know I have a number of online friends. If something major happened they'd know to check out my computer.
   
  I recall being called once when a previously good friend that we'd lost contact with...her Mom died...and friends went through her address book and contacted me. Was glad...let me go to her funeral to support my friend.

• satyr said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I have wondered and worried about Jade and hunter as well.  I was very pleased to see Jade's comment as I was reading this.  Welcome back or at least thanks for checking in!
   
  I have a couple of people here who know how to get in contact with me. 
   
   

• secretlife said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I don't have a plan in place. 

  It's very hard to get used to the comings and goings of our friends online.  I'm not so good at this, and find myself wondering sometimes where people have gone to and hoping they are well and happy.

  I actually had an experience once where I thought one of the guys i talked to online had something terrible happen to him.  He had a history of heart problems and had had a quadruple bypass a few years before.....

  In fact, I was so worried after not getting any answer to messages I left on his phone,  that I called hospitals local to him and looked thru the obituaries of the newspapers.  I thought about this all the time and just couldn't stand the idea that i'd never know what had happened.  One afternoon, i called his house, and he answered the phone.  So then, I knew he was fine, and just not wanting to return my calls or emails.....that's not such an easy thing to process or understand.

  Now, I'm kind of like ginger.  I accept that the nature of online friendships is often such that people come and go.  I have several friends here who i keep in touch with outside of soulcast.  If something major were going on in my life, they'd know about it.

• kruuyai said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Jenna,  this is a timely post.  I was just wondering the same thing myself... about myself... and not just about soulcast either, but I certainly did think about soulcast as well, because I have more consistent contact here than anywhere else right now.  But if I were to die, would anyone know?  I'm not sure how.  I have an emergency contact on my passport, and that's the same contact that boss lady has for me, but he doesn't know how to contact my family or more than just a couple of friends.  Nobody knows about me blogging on soulcast, and although I have a few email addresses, I'm not in regular contact with anyone that way, and if I were to go suddenly, no one would know to contact them anyway.  If I were to consciously decide to stop posting or visiting, of course, I would let that be known.  But I like sweetsoul's idea of putting a contact list on my computer.  I could do that, and include soulcast.  Of course, they'd have to crack the password on my computer.  :)

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 07, 2007....

  [[[[[earmarking Godmomsie!]]]]]
  
  paper~
  
  {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{kiss Jade}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
  
  was so worried about your ear!  glad you are well, me thinks!?
  

• kruuyai said on Feb 07, 2007....

  ginger:  Hai ricevuto la mia posta? PAPER mi ha detto che chiedeste che ti trasmetto una posta, e ti ho trasmesso una posta circa due settimane fa, ma non ho ricevuto una risposta. Non cè fretta, ma soltanto mi domandavo se la otteneste, perché a volte, le poste si possono perdere. Inoltre, sono un po'curiosa.  J

   

• Tinkerman said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I've no personal friend here in soulcast.
   
  So if something tragic were to happen to me, i guess no one here will be informed.  The again, i guess no one will notice i've gone.

• JadeLondon said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Paper: Am much better, although it required another doctor's visit--and a referral to a specialist (which I must soon follow up on).

  To everyone: I appreciate the concern, I feel unworthy. I am sorry, too, to have fostered such worry.

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  tinkerman: trust me, you'd be missed.
  
  ed

• gingersoul said on Feb 07, 2007....

   Jenna....love you!!

   Jade.....so nice read you again.....so nice...:-)

  Paper.....{{muahhhh}}

  Kruu......ho cambiato indirizzo. Vai al mio ultimo post. Ti scrivo il nuovo. Poi lo cancello quindi vieni subito. Don't  you lobe Babelfish translation tool?......lol....   

• JadeLondon said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Ginger: Thanks! And not to intrude on other conversations, but Babelfish is awesome! :)

• MissMimi said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Jade, we haven't had frequent contact, but it's great to see you back!

• mobil said on Feb 07, 2007....

  What can we do really? With those we are closest to, we have some

  outside connection. In the summer, I like to leave the computer and

  check in briefly. If I were to leave here, I would announce it. If I were

  dead, it would be difficult to get that last minute detail taken care of. haha.

  One of the nice things about this place  is that folks can come and go

  as they please, yet we worry for them too. It's a give and take, with some

  we'd just not know.

  Thanks Jenna.........good post.....kind thoughts.........typical Jenna !

• lioneljay said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I have left instructions for my wife to be sure to contact a particular friend to make sure that my business acquaintances would learn of anything dire that happened to me. This friend also has a few crucial email addresses and instructions to use them to pass on such news to my online contacts.
  
  I instituted this plan a couple years ago when I was returning home from having lunch with this friend. I got distracted and ran a red light, nearly getting broad-sided by a semi-trailer truck in the process. That afternoon my wife knew what to do and he had the email addresses.
  

• anonymous said on Feb 07, 2007....

  St Pete told me that it's not time for Jade yet. Her name is still far from reach in his book. :)

• husbandhater said on Feb 07, 2007....

  The hubby knows I blog here.SC is my mistress. So I would hope he would log on and announce the HusbandHater Has Bit the Dust. Still figuring out weither I wanna work it out or go. Think I might just file for a seperation and go from there.
   
  Jenna is a beautiful friend. And since people come and go and talk about needing breaks. I kinda of never worried but you put a bug in my ear. So maybe the next time someone is gone to long with no explanation I too will post a "flyer"
  like this one for them. Hear that P-A-P-E-R and O-T-H-E-R-S!( Paper already told us shes taking a little bit of a breather for holiday so shes excused but OTHERS be warned)

• CreativeWoman said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I guess I don't really have a plan.  A few people here do have my email address.  I probably would just fade away.  There is a blogger here that could pass along my demise if he heard about it.
  
  CW
  
  
  

• waterstar said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I don't think I really have a "plan" either.  I still have mixed emotions about the connections I've made at soulcast.  On one had, I love reading and commenting on various member's posts.  But I've been considering not posting until I can share something more positive. 

• hotaka said on Feb 07, 2007....

  It seems Jade is on the featured posts today. I haven't seen that for a while. Good to have her back on there.

  If something happened to me I think no one here would know. One or two people might think, "Hmm, Hotaka hasn't posted for a couple of months now. He must be busy climbing mountains." And you would never hear from me again.

  And life would go on. People disappear from SoulCast all the time. Some announce their departures. Others just go. *Poof!*

• Lucytorial said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Jadelondon, no you misunderstood - you responded to a post and I remembered the name, I've only been here since late last year! it was your name that I remembered so well :-)

  How do you leave a secret message?

• anonymous said on Feb 07, 2007....

  That is a scary feeling not knowing where someone you love is. I do apoligize for that . I wish you all the best on your missing person.
   
  http://www.soulcast.com/post/show/48525/Looking-for-a-new-job-or-some-extra-change%3F

• quidnunc said on Feb 07, 2007....

  jenna, this post shows how thoughtful and caring you are. i guess nobody here would even know if something unexpected happens to me. but if you guys won't hear from me for four straight weeks without any prior explanation (e.g., going to a vacation, swamped with work; taking a leave of absence from soulcast, etc.), then that would be a good indication that i might have..... you know.

• JadeLondon said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Lucytorial:

  I knew you had come after I had departed, which was why I was somewhat confused.

  As far as how to leave a secret message--hmm, good question. No dice, but you could make a message harder to find by posting it on an older post and requesting the recipient to delete it. Or--make sure the reader is online, then immediately post (on the most recent entry), with deletion after reading. I think the former to be somewhat safer, however.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Hmm...I don't know that anyone here would know if something bad happened to me.
  
  Food for thought. I've often wished for a few key emails (I have one SC member's, but I'd love to snag certain others...there's just that problem of broadcasting personal info going on.)
  

• peedee said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Hi !jenna, a real thought provoking post. That's  the bitterest truth we are not ready to  swallow. We should have a plan to do that.

  pd.

• tbs230 said on Feb 09, 2007....

  I've never really thought about this. I have thought about how my friends and family IRL would find out. But never about the people online. As much as I worry about each of you, it never occurred to me that my presence would be missed (probably not)...
  
  But umm, I have one or two people's emails. But no one I know would think to look for them, and send out a message. Maybe I should do that...wow, thanks Jenna, never even thought of that.
  

• TheNakedProfessor said on Feb 09, 2007....

  I understand that Yogi Berra was at a game where they were paying tribute to Baseball Hall of Famers who had passed away. Their names were being displayed on the board solemnly, and Yogi said to the guy next to him, "Gee, I hope I never look up there and see my name."

• JadeLondon said on Feb 09, 2007....

  OMG--Prof! I was just thinking of you.

• 22DecemberFallen said on Feb 17, 2007....

  I'm pretty new in here but can honestly say that in the time I've spent in here I feel like I have got to know people. The honesty of anonimity gives a very accurate profile and I believe that if certain friends, can I call you that? were to vanish I would worry. How do you know what's happened? If I shed this mortal coil tomorrow no one would have any idea that I ever visited Soulcast, never mind anouncing my demise :-) How many more are like that. Another possible end is if Soulcast were to close, what then, how would you find each other? 

• Jenna said on Feb 17, 2007....

  I am happy to know that so many of you have connected outside soulcast....so I feel confident in knowing that I would hear if something happened to you.... but I do worry about those of you who would someday log off.....and never return again.  

  You think you will not be missed.....you will....we have all touched each other in some way....if you suddenly no longer post or comment....I know I, for one...will miss you........

  And a thought 22december just brought up....what would happen if soulcast disappeared all together....now that's a scary thought....

• JadeLondon said on Feb 17, 2007....

  Over the months, I have noticed the number of blogs per day diminishing (yes, I realize the role I play in this, however small). In my early days, I can remember there being 20+ pages a day. Now we get nine, ten. Twelve on a good day. I've often wondered what it would mean if SoulCast were to die.

• gingersoul said on Feb 17, 2007....

  Jade.....now you want me to worry?.....:-)

  I didn't even consider the number of posts per day as a sign of a possible agony for the site...it would be a disaster, plain said.....

  Lately there are so many interesting new people who i didn't have the time to know better .......

• Zayda said on Feb 17, 2007....

  SC isn't disappearing. Yes, there are only 8-9 pages if you are on the home page. I think this is one of the features SC recently employed to make the home page of featured posts load faster.
  
  If you click on the most recent link from the home page, however, and scroll down to the bottom, there are 2000+ pages, running from the most recent posts on SC to the first posts on SC.
  
  
  

• MissMimi said on Feb 18, 2007....

  I just sent an e-mail to one of my sisters giving her contact information for several good friends.  It was mildly creepy to do that, but it's done, and now I don't have to think about it any more.

• 22DecemberFallen said on Feb 21, 2007....

  So how do ya let people know if anythings wrong, or find out a mate has shed their mortal coil if you have no ones email address? I understand the privacy thing but if it meant finding out about someones demise or letting people know about mine (Posthumously) :-) I'd post it here. Thinking about it I have an old one thats not used, web based, so I reckon thats an option? Any opinions? How have you all done this over the years?

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