• lioneljay said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I can honestly say that I don't have any fantasies that would take me beyond my boundaries. And it's not as if my fantasies are all that tame, either. :D

• BrenneeLee said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I've always had amazing fantasies involving rape, and God knows I never want that to happen.  I don't even know what it is about it that always brings that one into my head.  Hmm, something to ponder I guess.

• lioneljay said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Brennee, rape fantasies are often about an interest in rough but consensual sex, or about sex in a form that varies considerably from what we can get from our significant others. At least that had been the experience of others who have shared their interests and fantasies in other places.

• silverwhisper said on Feb 06, 2007....

  another linkage i've heard for rape fantasies is an inability to be comfortable w/ one's own sexual desires.
  
  ed

• lioneljay said on Feb 06, 2007....

  SW, this makes sense to me in the same way that some people who are very repressed in their sexuality end up taking on a submissive role. What happens for them emotionally is that the act of submission "allows" them to do whatever they are told to do because they're not really doing these things willingly. It's a mind trick, to be sure, but it seems to work for some and enables a much richer sex life than they would otherwise allow themselves.

• BrenneeLee said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Hmm, those are some good points that I hadn't considered before.  I guess this is one of those things I'll have to think some more about.

• MissMimi said on Feb 06, 2007....

  Hmmm, LJ, your comments make me wonder what kind of neurotic inhibitions I'm harboring. Submission plays a big role in most of the fantasies I have. That and rough sex.

  
  

  Fantasies I would not want to live out?  It used to be having a same-sex encounter, but under the right circumstances, I can see myself doing that. Being involved in a threesome, either with two men or a man and a woman, is one I'd have to really think about, but that has more to do with the number rather than the gender of the participants. 

  
  

  The biggest one is being involved in an S&M scene that involves really heavy duty pain.  Pain is intriguing as it pertains to sexual arousal, but to be honest, it scares me more than a little.

• beyondtheveil said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I mentioned on someones post that I could have sex just about anywhere so long as no one was watching. I've had fantacies about more than one girl, but I really wouldn't want that.

• Lucytorial said on Feb 06, 2007....

  My fantasies are really fantasies, there isn't much I haven't done anyway but the point of a fantasy is that it's not real and for me shouldn't become real.
   
  Don't get it confused with creatively playing an idea out but as for some fantasies I have they are what keep my brain interacting with ideas, it's a great way to activate a side of yourself that you thought may be lying dorment or undervalued etc.
   
  Reality is always so much better than any fantasy when you love yourself, your partner and there is a mutual understanding of each others desires, wants and needs experimentation still happens but it's real life not fake.

• wombat said on Feb 06, 2007....

  The best fantasies are probably those best kept to fantasy.  With a little creativity, any fantasy can be played out between two people, if only by imagination and whispering to each other.  If we (and I mean me and my hubby) actually fulfilled them, it might be great at first, but then would probably cause problems in the marriage.  Of course, he wouldn't agree with me!

• CreativeWoman said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I consider fantasies the sexual equivalent of trying on different hats.  When they are shared with someone special, I like when my boundaries have been pushed a little.   I know when I would really say no though.  Does that make much sense?
  
  When I'm fantasizing alone it is usually sickingly romantic.  lol
  
  CW
  

• sweetsoul said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I won't say I never have sexual fantasies but it's very rare for them to have the kind of 'súbstance' you're talking about. Mine are more an overwhelming feeling of someone's presence in a sexual manner...or closing my eyes so I can experience the physical sensations.
   
  I do however enjoy participating in the fantasies of others with wicked minds. ;)

• mom said on Feb 06, 2007....

  I think that what you guys mean is not really rape but taking someone and ravishing them or being ravished. I used to have that fantasy, but it never really was "rape" it was being taken in passion but because I didn't know what else to call it I called it Rape.
  I used to have a lot of sexual fantasies, but now my only fantasy is having sex with my husband or Oded! LOL
  I can get really aroused by reading porn and everyones erotica on here.  I just don't go beyond actual sex. lol

• Lucytorial said on Feb 06, 2007....

  SS this is where most of my real fantasies have happened, playing out someone elses.  I think I like my fantasies as something I have thats mine... CW I know exactly what you mean, although the element of romance for me is sickening! lol - I always find the intelect mroe erotic anyway

• mom said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Ok I do have one fantasy it may not seem sexual to you but I would get off on it. I would torture my exes. :) 

• MissMimi said on Feb 07, 2007....

  mom, need help? :D

• mom said on Feb 07, 2007....

  LOL MIMI sure.  I am going to check my email, did you write?  I forgot I gave you the email address. :)

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 07, 2007....

  [cant go cold turkey, bro!]
  
  earmarked
  
  p~
  

• JadeLondon said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Public sex has crossed my mind, although unfortunately--that is as far as it goes.

  Crazed, uninhibited sex with a hot stranger is something I would never participate in, but it is an active component of the majority of my sexual dreams. A fantasy? Consciously, I would say no, but my subconscious screams a quite different answer.

• Alyss said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Jade!!!!! Hello! So glad to see you. ;-)
  
  My fantasies are rather poorly defined for the most part and those that aren't I've probably written about.
  

• JadeLondon said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Alyss: Such a warm welcome! :)

  I would say mine were also poorly defined--at least until I came to SoulCast (which ironically is when I began to write of such things myself).

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 07, 2007....

  ((((Jade, huggies))))
  
  am in pseudo- hiatus. . .he he he
  
  paper~
  

• lioneljay said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Jade, it's great to see you! :hug:

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  jade, do you see how much you've been missed, missy?
  
  [trout-smacks jade cuz it's been frigging forever!]
  
  ed

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  mimi: that's an understandable one. i've had dalliances w/ S&M but that's all they are: dalliances.
  
  beyond: it really can be everything it's cracked up to be, but the possible downsides are many.
  
  lucy: that was really well-said--thank you!
  
  wombat: heh...some fantasies require more than two people... :D but what you said goes right back to what lucy said re: mutual understanding, wouldn't you say?
  
  CW: yes, that makes perfect sense. knowing where your boundaries are is a crucial part i think in exploring your sexuality, to be honest. and i'm somehow unsurprised yours are romantic that way. :>
  
  SS: i think you're a lot more comfortable w/ your sexuality than many, which may be why it doesn't play a substantial role for you, to use your word. and well, i guess that enjoying other people's fantasies is the entire appeal to erotica, no? :>
  
  mom: there's a good collection of women's erotica, edited by susie bright (big surprise) that makes that precise distinction. good point. and hey, i said sexual fantasies, missy! :p
  
  jade: you might be surprised to learn that the fantasy you describe isn't terribly unusual.
  
  ed

• mom said on Feb 07, 2007....

  lol ED- well torturing my exes would  be very sexually  satisfying.  Who is Susie Bright and what does she want with me?

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  susie bright is an autor of erotica and is a bit of an evangelist about it, but she edits a few anthologies of short stories that are geared towards women. one of the stories (i don't recall the author) explored the difference b/n rape and ravishment.
  
  ed

• gingersoul said on Feb 07, 2007....

  Jade.....so nice to read you again......i was wondering about you on Jenna's post yesterday!!

  Ok......what it say about a woman who plays in her mind a fantasy of having a group of men to her command  and use them primarily to go and play ....we can.... say... rough......er......with other women while she is watching?

• Zayda said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I have several fantasies that I would probably not live out, but many of them I would be more than open to living out given the opportunity.

• silverwhisper said on Feb 07, 2007....

  GS: i'm not sure what it says. IMX, particularly powerful sexual fantasies often feature an inversion of one's public self, which therefore suggests that a woman having that fantasy is normally self-assured and confident.
  
  zayda: o, i think that's true of many of us.
  
  ed

• purrrkitten said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I think most of my fantasies are the "usual" ones. I've had the forceful sex fantasies, the threesome (or moresomes), the romantic ones, the same sex ones, the pain ones...

  hmmm... did I miss any? I think they'd all stay in fantasy tho.  :-)   ~^^

• sidhe said on Feb 07, 2007....

  I've done public sex (with witnesses) and had more than my share of opportunities to do pretty much anything I could think of.  I drew the line however at having more than one man at once and I do fantasize about that sometimes.  

  Why wouldn't I do it?  Because the me that I am now would rather have love be a part of my sex and so I'd have to be in love with however many men at once, which could create difficulties.   :D

• silverwhisper said on Feb 08, 2007....

  purr: knowing what you want to stay fantasy is definitely a good thing.
  
  sidhe: that's understandable, i think. some folks hold w/ the idea of being able to be in love w/ multiple people at once, although i'm not oen myself.
  
  ed

• RICKY1463 said on Feb 08, 2007....

  depends on how ifeel

• JadeLondon said on Feb 08, 2007....

  Paper, LJ, Gingersoul: Thanks! I missed you guys, too!

  Silver: Owww! Okay--I suppose I had that coming. And damn, it feels great!

  And no, I am not terribly surprised to learn that my fantasy is common. I am fairly garden variety when it comes to the sexual realm. :)

• VICARIOUS said on Feb 09, 2007....

  All my fantasies are things I've done or at least would try. Why else would my libido be playing such scenarios?

• Luna.Loveborn said on Feb 10, 2007....

  Public sex is fun this isn't one of my fantasies, I had fun doing it and would do it again when the day comes (no pun intended on it). Other fantasies just depends on my partner's, if they are game to making a fantasy come true.
  
  Thanks, Silverwhisper for your comment.
  

• silverwhisper said on Feb 12, 2007....

  ricky: how so?
  
  jade: just b/c they aren't unusual doesn't make 'em any less hot, now does it? :>
  
  vicarious: i've had a few fantasies i wouldn't want to live out IRL, actually.
  
  luna: yes, i can see now that it's one of your interests. :> and you're quite welcome, luna. :>
  
  ed

• varada said on Feb 13, 2007....

  fantasize about the person, about the situation, time, place, witnesses, are the pleasures of fantacies.  Unlimited situations! fantastic!!

• majodah said on Apr 21, 2007....

  I have, but i won't get into details...I think i fantasize all the time

• majodah said on Apr 21, 2007....

  I fantasize about having sex in the open in exotic places

• silverwhisper said on Apr 22, 2007....

  hello, majodah! welcome to my blog and thank you for visiting!
  
  how did you find this old blog entry?
  
  ed

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