• secretlife said on Jan 24, 2007....

  sometimes mimi.....it's all you can do to think about the problems in your own family without worrying about the families of others in your life. 

  i think too, that B can pick up the phone and call you, no?  so i see no need for feeling guilty over that. 

  we don't always have to be nice.  as a matter of fact, in my 'Life Rules for Dummies' manual, it specifically says it's ok to not be nice on occasion!

  About this lost ability to care???  I don't buy that for a second.  I think it's winter blues and a little bit of boredom that has you down.  I think you need something to look forward to.  Something that makes YOU happy. 

  I always do something totally selfish when that mood strikes me.  Something like a spa day......a facial?  a manicure/pedicure?  how bout a new cut and color for your hair?  I'm not sure what make YOU happy....but whatever that may be....a lunch with a girlfriend?  a movie?  a weekend getaway??  Something.......FOR MIMI!  She soooooo deserves to think about herself and do something special for herself.....

• sweetsoul said on Jan 24, 2007....

  Adding to what SL said...
   
  I recall when I was in my 20s, recently divorced, and raising 2 children under 3. I went to the marriage counsellor we'd gone to before....one of the things he said to me was that I needed to look after myself. If I was running on empty, I wouldn't have anything to give to others. It was a valuable lesson that I needed to learn. I've never forgotten it.  May I pass the lesson on to you Mimi?

• CreativeWoman said on Jan 24, 2007....

  ((((Mimi)))),
  
  You are a wonderful soul.  Don't ever forget that.
  
  I don't have any words better than those of secret and sweet.  :-)
  
  CW
  

• silverwhisper said on Jan 25, 2007....

  mimi, sometimes being human means not being the things that you usually value. we're not characters in a story: we're people, full of foibles and idiosyncracies and moods. so sometimes, we aren't the things we expect ourselves to be. who the hell is?
  
  now, get cracking on that keith urban erotica, missy!
  
  [cracks whip]
  
  ed

• lioneljay said on Jan 25, 2007....

  You haven't lost the ability to care, Mimi, one of your reasons for caring has dwindled to imperceptibility. You care for your children and their lives, right? 'Nuff said!
  
  B is a grown up boy (mostly, from what I can tell) and he's perfectly capable of operating a telephone. Just make sure that you're laughing about something ludicrously erotic when he calls. And since you can't predict when he might call, that could make for a delicious week.

• MissMimi said on Jan 25, 2007....

  Thanks, all! He did call last night, and I'm afraid I kind of gave him the cold shoulder. The games we play...

  Ed, Keith Urban erotica?  What a delightful idea.  In fact, it got my creative juices flowing (that sounds way dirtier than I meant it), and I've been furiously writing away.

• silverwhisper said on Jan 25, 2007....

  [cracks whip again]
  
  get to scrivening, you! :D
  
  ed

• mom said on Jan 26, 2007....

  Oh MissMimi,
  I don't believe that about you.  You are someone who cares, it is in your nature. I think you are bored, that can make you feel out of sorts. If you lived closer, you and I could rent all the seasons of 24, mute the tv and just look at jack and talk about all the delicious things we would do to him if he was there.
  Sometimes it is hard to muster anything other than breathing. That is ok, I just went through that.  It is not permanent.  Maybe you are lonely.

• MissMimi said on Jan 26, 2007....

  I think it's the new normal for me. I think if you don't care, then you don't get hurt. I cared a lot, and I got hurt.

• silverwhisper said on Jan 26, 2007....

  don't be afraid. that's all that jadedness is: fear. and you're stronger than that, mimi: i know it. and deep down inside, so do you.
  
  ed

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