Now I know I am not that heartless & mean.
I came across an article about Camille Paglia & this quote caught my attention:
Paglia's sexual flamboyance ( 'my own natural amphetamines keep me in this state'), which subjects everything to the same passionate invective, obscures the sense of what she is saying. She considers that rape is an 'outrage', but that 'sex involves danger' and that feminism must slough off the Seventies, poor-me 'victime-culture'. She is now 46; in 1964, she and her fellow graduates slept in all-girl dormitories and were told that the outside world was too dangerous for them. Part of their struggle then was for the freedom to take their own risks. Now she has nothing but contempt for women who drink too much, go back at a man's room & then cry rape, 'running to Mummy and Daddy; it's infantile'.
Her rap goes something like this:
"You see white women in the streets and they are wearing Walkmen, no bras, they're jogging along merrily, just jogging along. GOD white women are so stupid [hands tearing at short hair]. I like streetwise feminism. I LOVE prostitutes and gay men. They know the dangers of the street - when they go out on a date, they know they are going to have sex. They get beaten up, left for dead, and do they go running to some grievance committee? Do they say [coy girl's voice] "I did say yes, but now I've changed my mind"? Oh I'm so embarrassed for women. So what if you've had sex? What's the big deal, the problem? Gay men just have brunch and commiserate with each other about the night before.'
Here is the thing, way before reading this article & knowing about Camille Paglia, I've been thinking the same thing about rape victimes. The main question I always have is: "Why did you put yourself in a situation where you could get raped?"
I've tried once to start a conversation on a messageboard, but people were outraged & refused to be rational with that problem. Until today, I never seen anybody accepting that the victim also participates to her own rape. I mean, damn! you won't be dressed like a whore, go to a party, dance flesh to flesh with a man half-drunk & then expect him to behave rationaly.
Can someone tell me there is a part of truth in what Paglia says & what I say?
I just want people to stop being hypocrit & so egocentric for a moment. These women are all playing captain-save-the-poor-girl-who-got-raped-after-she-offered-a-blow-job-to-her-boyfriend-&-then-realised-she-was-not-ready- to-have-sex. I mean F**** you!!!! Have some common sense!
I've been a teen & I've been there. I've been teasing my boyfriend while I was still "innocent & virgin", but as soon I was realizing that I could actually have sex with him, I was so scared that I had to say something to avoid the moment.
How can someone blame Myspace for not protecting teens from predators? what are the parents doing? Since when are kids supposed to be dressed as whore & use sexual languages on the internet? Once again, I've been there & I've done that. Maybe if parents were doing their damn jobs, less teens would be abused. I'm just saying.
"Oh My God! My girl have been raped by an adult she met on the internet!!! The man is a psycho!!! How can he ask for the adress of my girl & offer to pay for a trip to his city." Hello! what about saying your girl was stupid or better, she was testing her power of seduction? Your girl is a freak, deal with it! (I am a freak myself, so you can take my word for it.)
I start worrying about myself. Maybe am I heartless, cruel & selfish afterall. So, please tell me I am not the only one thinking like that.
