I have been here in Germany for almost 14 years now, and in two weeks I will be married for 13 years.
I have an international circle of friends - long standing. My two best friends, are soft-spoken intelligent North German women.
And still, I have not gotten used to bluntness.
Is it cultural? Am I a wuss (to borrow MissMimi´s vocabulary...love your way with words honey - cracks me up)?? Have self-trained or over-trained myself to be little Miss Moppet Dimplomatic as a Tuffet???
This is one of those many post, that I won´t edit...and I am too scared to post - but what the heck?!
Are you easily hurt my straightforwad honesty?
Don´t answer with it depends, or I will scream at your face virtually....erm, pardon me...I was trying to be blunt...lol
I have allowed myself to get upset over spoken, written words before but I am taking one day at a time, and overcoming this character trait, which I view in myself as weakness - only in myself...
PAPERBACKWRITER posted on Jan 15, 2007
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MissMimi said on Jan 15, 2007....
MissWuss here. Yep, I get my feelings hurt pretty easily. I wish I didn't. I don't like confrontation. If I don't like someone, I avoid them. I don't like to get in their face about it.
I am little MissWhy-Can't-We-All-Love-Each-Other. A Pollyanna. -
secretlife said on Jan 15, 2007....
closet pollyanna here too.....
although i will admit to you that in my work, i have often been called 'blunt'.
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silverwhisper said on Jan 15, 2007....
i've had several heated discussions w/ friends about how blunt they are. i'm never hurt by bluntness alone--there has to be a desire to harm present for me to be hurt, as well as some measure of caring what the speaker has to say.
however, i may be unusual in that regard.
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beyondtheveil said on Jan 15, 2007....
I don't mind bluntness done creatively(is that what Ed just said)? Bluntness & "being frank" are attributes many people respect. I'm perfectly ok with it so long as the line isn't crossed. "Straightforward honesty" as you mentioned has it's place, but used consistenty will stigmatize the person using it. -
polarheart said on Jan 16, 2007....
Hi Paper!I dont like bluntness, I desire diplomacy and tact. I do like people to say what they mean and mean what they say, but I want them to do in a way that isn't rude or hurtful or mean, for that matter. I wish everybody could get along and be considerate to others. So, I guess, I am a mega-wuss!Friendship {{hug}} Polar x -
marysaaka said on May 27, 2007....
Hi, Paper, i think bluntness is a tool that we use to dictate thoughts and feeling, most of the bluntness that i have encounter was gearing me into the right directions, I dont thing people use bluntness to hurt anothers feeling, although there is a nasty side to bluntness, we must react to show the differences. It's all a part of human tools for suviors.