• sociologically_speaking said on Jul 01, 2006....

  is it possible that your friend has a problem with alcohol, but she is trying her hardest to be responsible about it? maybe she leaves her daughter with her mother because she wants her daughter to be safe and cared for. does your friend drink a lot most of the time? is she able to control her drinking when she does drink? has she ever been able to stop drinking? has she tried to stop drinking and failed? does she drink to relieve stress or drink because she is upset? has your friend ever given up something she enjoys so she could drink instead? has she ever lost a relationship because of her drinking? has she ever lost a job because of her drinking? is she able to control the amount of alcohol she consumes, or does she find that once she starts drinking, she feels like she "can't stop"? if you answered "yes" to any of these questions, your friend might have a problem with alcohol. check out the website http://www.alcoholicsanonymous.org i've worked with substance abusers before, and they sometimes go through terrible emotional pain that they feel like they can't talk about. so maybe you can go to the website first, and then talk to your friend. just tell her that if she ever wants to talk, you are here for her. but don't confront her about being an alcoholic. talk to her mother too, and ask questions about your friend.

• mum2jay said on Jul 01, 2006....

  Well, I will try to, but her mother makes excuses for her. So I can't ever talk to her mother.

• wyndnsage said on Jul 01, 2006....

  Your friend reguardless of her drinking problems, gave up her right to be young and irresponsible when she decided to have a child. She could have adopted it out, she could have aborted it, she could have done many other things, but she didn't...she decided to have it. That means she made the decision to raise it. All of us who have children may have wanted other things but once you have a child, you need to do the best you can for that child...no excuses. We are raising the next generation and when we are gone, all that is left is what we have taught them....scary. Her mother raised her child, she shouldn't have to care for the grandchild unless the mother has issues other than drugs or alcohol.... There are plenty of people looking for kids who truly want one. Sounds as if your friend needs to grow up....fast. Before she has a bigger issue on her hands than a hangover.

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