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  I am at the beginning - new to blogging.
  My purpose it to try and figure out how I got to where I am today and I guess to find some peace of mind.  The point is I'm in a place I never thought I would be, and I need to find a way of making the most of it.
  This summer I moved into the front portion of a home that is owned by my ex mother in law and her new husband.  My ex husband is currently living in an RV out back.  We have three children between the both of us.
  My mother in law and her husband are wonderful, and there is definately a sense of community here.  The problem you may image, is my ex.    He is a womanizer who doesn't pay child support.  He appears to care more about partying and getting layed then he does about his children or me.  Now after a few months I am wondering what lessons can I learn from living this way?
  Of course I am capable of supporting myself and the children, with or with out his help.  I've been doing excactly that for the last 12 years.    I've left him before.  Our last separation lasted more then 8 years.  So why did I come back to all this?
  


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  • silverwhisper said on Jan 11, 2007....
    welcome to soulcast, waterstar!

    sorry to hear that but at least his mother and her husband are OK, so that's gotta be worth something good, right?

    was he like this during your first separation?

    ed
  • waterstar said on Jan 11, 2007....
    thanks for your comments ed.
    yes my mother in law and her husband are great and I love them both.  I also understand that they will most likely support him, regardless of his actions.  Thats what moms do.  I think he's been getting progressively worse as the years go by.  Both his father and his grandfather were like that, and I guess he feel he has no choice but to follow in their footsteps.
  • silverwhisper said on Jan 12, 2007....
    my sympathies, that's gotta be tough on a day to day basis.

    ed
  • satyr said on Jan 12, 2007....
    Welcome, waterstar, I hope you enjoy SoulCast.  It is rather addictive.  I'm sorry you got a jerk, but at least you have the means to support yourself and your children which is better than many have it, I fear.
     
    I look forward to reading you. 
  • waterstar said on Jan 12, 2007....
    I know what you mean satyr about other woman not having it so lucky.  I also regnonize my part in the whole dynamic.  Which I guess is what I'm hoping to explore with this blog.  I think I set myself up to be disappointed again, by him.  Which doesn't excuss his actions, but I can take personal responsibility for my own life decisions.  The truth of the matter is that I still love him very much, we were kids together and I still see the great man potential in him.  I just want to create an atomosphere that is healthy for my children, and I'm still not sure how to do it. 
  • footlloose said on Jan 26, 2007....
    Hi Waterstar.  I too am a beginner having just started about an hour ago.It seems that blogging  might be a good stopover when you find yourself in a place you never thought you would be. In the last 12 years I found myself in this place three times. Like you my first "place" was divorce which after a while turned out to be a RELIEF! the past nine years were fun and gratitying. Now I've come full circle back to where I started from to take care of some responsibities with hopes of returning to place NO.2 as soon as possible.  Sometimes things that seem to be the end of the world turn out to be blessings in disguise. Good luck!

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