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Ok so apparently it's rude season. Following on from my last post apparently it's  a competition. On my walk to work this morning there were three men who thought it perfectly fine to walk through women coming the other way simply because they were in too much of a hurry to wait an extra second for them to pass before trying to overtake someone else on the pavement. And then carry on walking without even a glance behind. Maybe Mr Hyde has cloned himself. Now I walk quickly, quicker than most people, but I can't remember the last time I actually made contact with someone or even made them have to dodge me hastily. Actually that's a lie I can. It was someone who decided they'd try to walk through me whilst overtaking someone, however he might  have regretted it since he was the one that bounced off and landed in quite a large puddle (he wasn't best pleased but it amused me no end), but that aside. Even so attempting to do it to me is one thing but to a woman... call me old fashioned and all.
 
Plus there was yet another bike rider shaking his head that he had to weave through the people crossing the road (at the crossing with the green man telling them to), ringing his bell having ridden through a red light.
 
So my question. If it's rude season... is that like deer season and can I get a gun somewhere?


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  • kruuyai said on Jan 11, 2007....
    Well, it's not a new thing.  I remember it used to happen to me all the time when I was around 18 (about a hundred years ago) and had a job downtown.  It was always men dressed in business suits with ties who were so arrogant as to try and walk right through me as if I were invisible... I have a problem with being treated as if i were invisible anyway, so it really got on my nerves.  I still have an instant dislike for men in business suits... probably why I had such a hard time in corporate America... doing much better as a world roamer, but people still like to walk right through me... especially in southern Germany.  There, they'd rather walk through you than around you...
  • Dicconzane said on Jan 11, 2007....
    I hate suits too but because I have to wear them. Refuse on the tie though. I hate people with no manners more though. It's not that hard and makes everything much more pleasant.
  • peedee said on Jan 11, 2007....

    Hi ! Dz plenty of them India . All intentional.

    pd

  • Dicconzane said on Jan 11, 2007....
    So it's now more or less official. There are idiots everywhere.
  • Dicconzane said on Jan 11, 2007....
    More to the point though any ideas on solving the problem?
  • kelly said on Jan 11, 2007....
    I discovered a way to attack this problem a while ago. I'm not sure it applies directly since I don't understand what you mean by "walk through."

    My solution deals with people coming towards you who refuse to share the sidewalk. I always keep to the right and yield at least half the sidewalk but most people walk right on without an apparent thought that they should share the space.

    What I do is keep walking and then when the other person is about 6 feet away I simply stop and stand there. This forces the issue. The other person is then forced to either go around or up the ante by actually hitting you, which I've found no one is willing to do. People are simply self-centered, not actually interested in assault.
  • kruuyai said on Jan 11, 2007....

    kelly:  trust me, that wouldn't work in southern Germany.  On the other hand, it always amazed me in Mexico... where people could be pretty passive-agressive while getting on a bus for example (if I don't look at you, you can't see me and I can do whatever I want)... it was quite the opposite on the streets.  There were always tons of people walking on the narrow cobblestone streets (a foot or two wide if you're lucky)... some lumbering along as if they were 150 years old, and others rushing by like New Yorkers... and it was amazing how seldom physical contact was ever made.  People just did this little shrug with their shoulders to avoid contact by a hair's breadth. 

    As far as solving the problem of rudeness....  A very wise man once said.. . "Assholes... they're everywhere... learn to live with them."

  • writerspirit said on Jan 11, 2007....
    I hear you loud and clear!
     
    I avoid going down town whenever possible but if I have to face it I just put my head high and be sure to make eye contact. Works every time. No one, especially someone in a suit, wants to look ignorant purposely, so they will make room. There are of course, the odd few who won't meet your gaze but they usually put their heads down and slink away.
     
    As for solving the rudeness problem; it can't happen until people realize they, alone, are not the center of the world!
     
    I wish you luck though!
     
    Writerspirit :P
  • silverwhisper said on Jan 11, 2007....
    i do as kelly does. or if i'm pissed off, i start walking faster and display greater anger and immediacy. that tends to work too if i'm in a bad mood. :>

    ed
  • mom said on Jan 11, 2007....
    I hate rude people, I try very hard to be polite and courteous and have taught my children the same things.  Usually I let it go but if I am not in a good mood I will call them out on it.
    One time we went to the theater and when it was over we had ot use the restroom.  There was a long line of people waiting to see the movie and the line stretched across the wall where the bathrooms were.  One guy was talking really loud and saying, "Well I ain't moving for no body."  That made me so mad and I pushed right passed him with my daughter.  I did say "Excuse me" though.
    I think there is no reason to be rude.
  • BlueOrchid said on Jan 11, 2007....
    Living in a big city I have encountered a LOT of that kind of rudeness. I actually had some unkind expeletives hurled at my today when I accidentally bumped into someone. Even after I said "oh, gosh I'm sorry"

    :(
  • mom said on Jan 11, 2007....
    oh Blue, sorry that happened, I really think sometimes people don't know how to be nice,  I try to think that maybe they have had a bad day and are just venting.  I would probably have tried to fight them if they swore at me when I was trying to be nice, that kind of behavior just sets me off.
  • BlueOrchid said on Jan 11, 2007....
    I have a tendency to blame myself in the moment and only become angry/frustrated in hindsight. :(
  • Dicconzane said on Jan 12, 2007....
    writerspirit You mean I'm not the centre of the universe?
    kruuyai They may be everywhere but you don't have to have anything to do with any of the arsehles around you unless you choose to.
    mom  there is no excuse for rudeness. Plus things generally run much more smoothly if people are polite.
    Blue 20/20 hindsight is one thing... but you could always hire someone to stop you as you soon as you start apologising when it's not your fault and another to come up behind the guy hurling abuse and pour custard over him. 
  • twinboyzmama said on Jan 13, 2007....
    If you work in retail, you know major rudeness. And in a resort town to boot. I've blogged about this a ton, and it always amazes me that an ignorant idiot will blame YOU for being rude when they themselves can't adequately explain what they need. I had a stupid bitch in my store yesterday who wanted a thingy-ma-jig for her thingy-ma-jig but didn't know any technical terms. Do you know how impossible that is to try to decipher? When I asked her to bring it in so I can see it, she just harumphed and hastily left for the door, speaking under her breath what a bitch I was.  ME, the bitch? It was all I could do to contain myselft. Unfortunately, Radio Shack has a slogan which reads, You've got questions, we have answers. It should also add, But you may not always like our answers!!!

    I am now looking for a new job...

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