• secretlife said on Jan 10, 2007....

  I'm of the opinion that you can't really move on if you have a 'friends with benefits' relationship. 

  I say end the sexual part of your friendship.

  If it turns out after time you still have feelings for this woman, you'll know.

• silverwhisper said on Jan 10, 2007....

  honestly, i've never heard of a friends w/ benefits thing that didn't either dwindle or grow to something else.
  
  but if she's the one, you would know it by now, i would think.
  
  ed

• mobil said on Jan 10, 2007....

  I'd keep milking the cow if it's ok with her and she knows

  that's what you are both there for.

   

  Ha, ha, maybe that's not the best advice. Let me try again

  Since I don't really know your age or your character. I'd

  be hard pressed to give you any good advice.

   

  Ya know, advice is cheap, good advice is hard to get.

  The best thing for you to rely on is the common sense

  the good Lord and your parents gave you.

   

  Beyond that, it looks like a problem for you to work out.

  Good luck with it Soul

• soulreaver said on Jan 10, 2007....

  Well... it really is somewhat complicated. We've been together for three years already - counting the 5 break-ups and get-backs again. Most of them were initated by her... However, the last one - which still stands now - was iniated by me. I just couldn't stand the fact that we keep on disagreeing on a lot of things. I know, it's normal for people in a relationship. But, the way I'm feeling it seems way out of the ordinary already. You know, it suddenly dawned on me that maybe we were not for each other...
  

• Lioness said on Jan 10, 2007....

  What makes love mysterious is that you can never really know if you'd end up in the same boat after years of togetherness. There are no definite assurances nor criteria to consider in deciding whether both of you will have a lasting relationship. Even the most ideal relationships crumble and break down.
  
  This is just to say that everything still depends on you. Your decisions and the choices you make.
  

• yani said on Jan 11, 2007....

  Man, and I thought my marriage is complicated :)
   
  From the sound of it, you're still young.
   
  Anyway, since you've already initiated your 6th break-up, why don't you try to be free of her for some time. You know, try to savor the freedom which you were so looking forward to. If you feel trapped by your relationship, find some breathing space. Now is the time to explore, with or without a girlfriend, is up to you.
   
  Take a deep breath :)
   
   
   
   

• waterstar said on Jan 11, 2007....

  I didn't read your previous posts, so I'm not sure of the details.  But I do know that girls and women, even if they say they don't, usually associate sex with love.  I know its complicated, I have had a similar relationship with my ex husband.  We've known each other so long (since we were 16) that his shit smells familar.  My advice would be, if you don't have children together, just enjoy every moment you have with her, because, we never know when something will come to a close.  Like Tom Robbins says "Love is the ultimate outlaw.  It just won't adhere to any rules.  The most any of us can do is sign on as its accomplice.  Instead of vowing to homor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet"

• rmuxagirl said on Jan 15, 2007....

  I'm kinda in your situation.  I took a step back, but didn't really.  Things still remained the same.  The biggest difference is he lives across the country now, but we still talk about getting married and all that jazz.
  
  I think maybe you should actually sit down with her and find out whats on her mind in regards to the relationship.
  

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