• mousenphonic said on Jan 03, 2007....

  I dated a rich guy for a while but his parents hated me because I was a lower middle class girl and they thought of me as a golddigger (which I'm not). Needless to say, it didn't work out.  My heart is still broken.  I must say that if you find out your lover is a money predator it's the worst deception.  If my hubbie starts cheating on me after 10 years, heart broken I'll be, but in some sick way I would not care.  It will pose to me as a beginning of a new chapter in my life.

• danetteb said on Jan 03, 2007....

  Agreed mouse. 
  
  In some sick way I'd also feel less betrayed.

• silverwhisper said on Jan 03, 2007....

  i think being married for the money is worse, to be honest. that motivation is shallow, crass and horrible. cheating i could forgive.
  
  although come to think of it, had my wife married me for my money, she would have been in for a very bad surprise. :D
  
  ed

• LadyGamer said on Jan 03, 2007....

  I've been cheated on. It wasn't the end of the world. I have enough issues without worrying about monetary motivation.  I think being latched upon by a gold digger would hurt worse.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Jan 03, 2007....

  Either way, my relationship would founder, so I'm almost tempted to say that finding out it was all a lie from the get-go would hurt less (over time).
  
  However, knowing that he wanted to be with me - loved me - but somehow still managed to stray would be a lot harder to take, because walking out would hurt him more than if he was only in it for the money. In the gold digger case, the only thing that might upset him would be the thought of losing his sugar mama, but I can see where leaving him over his cheating could break both hearts.
  
  I don't know. Hopefully I'll never understand either of those concepts any better than I do now. Thanks for making me think!
  

• momsrock said on Jan 03, 2007....

  I would have to say married for the money is worse. I've been cheated on and I've been treated like a business transaction. It definitely hurts worse when it's about $ and not love.  He was the one with the money... but we work in the same industry and he wanted me to work for him. Instead of paying an employee, he could marry me, he'd get an employee and have the $ coming back into his pocket. It sucked... and I obviously ditched him...

• yani said on Jan 04, 2007....

  Marrying for the money is worse.
  
  Cheating I could forgive, perhaps. Maybe
  
  But to find out that he married me for my money, that is the absolute insult.
  Definitely unforgivable. I'll use all my money to make him miserable for the rest of his life.. Oh boy! I will.
  
  <<<<It's a good thing I don't have much money to speak of>>>>>>
  

• mom said on Jan 04, 2007....

  I would say marry me for my money.....he would be really disappointed, cause I don't have any lol.

• Lioness said on Jan 04, 2007....

  Cheating I could endure, you still have a chance to figure out what went wrong and fix it.  Unlike marrying for money - - which is wrong from the beginning!!!!

• danetteb said on Jan 04, 2007....

  I totally agree with most of you... I'd also rather have true love for 10 years, than find out that  for such a long period of time I was living in a lie.
  
  I don't think that kind of betrayal can ever be "accepted".  I'd still be willing to try and work things out with a cheater, but not a liar.
  

• jen01 said on Jan 08, 2007....

  well i think marrying for money will not keep long lasting...as the time goes by the boredom will be the biggest matter n i believe no one could stand with that. it won't work at all

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