I look at a blog like a person's house.
When I come to your house/blog, I'm expected to behave by your rules. You may require people to take their shoes off. You may not care. You may throw big parties all the time. You may have a neat, prim, and proper decor.
In much the same way, your blog is yours. You decide to post on a topic. Therefore, the conversation regarding your post should reflect the nature and tenor of the discourse you approve of. The content of your blog, like your house, is yours to choose.
If someone comes into your house and wants to get along by your rules, no problems.
But, I'm assuming, when someone comes into your house and decides they can crap on your coffee table when that's not permitted, then they're asked to leave.
The same is true of a blog.
Now, consider this. When I'm conducting conversations on my blog, I get to talk about what I want. I get to make sure people are actually conversing about the subject at hand. If someone doesn't like what I've written, they don't have to read it. They can click on by.
They can also start their OWN blog on the conversation if they wish.
But when someone's contribution is nothing but name calling, much like in your house, wouldn't you just kick 'em out?
Now, if you will notice, when I am on someone else's blog, I comment upon what they're discussing. In a civil and respectful manner. I do not call them names, even if I disagree. I address the facts of their conversation in a search for truth and understanding.
However, when someone comes onto MY blog and wants to demonstrate how quickly they can insult me without a germ of thought, they will receive very harsh verbiage. They will be challenged. If they persist they will be asked to leave.
I'm sure many reasonable and level-headed writers here have objections to my reactions to these people. And for that, I'm sorry. But I have rules in my house.
Slowly, they demonstrate that they are not up to a real conversation, and I delete and block them. Then, there's never a problem again.
Unless someone puts eight or nine profanity-laden signs up in the neighborhood. Then, you have to put up your own sign.
The point being that your blog is yours. Your thoughts. Your opinions. That doesn't mean people can't challenge them.
But when they want to turn YOUR blog into THEIR blog--particularly when their blog is a cesspool--then one must put their foot down.
Those with doubts will see, over time, that I respect YOUR blog just as much as I respect MINE. Even if our subject matter is diametrically different.
Blog away.
GumpyJumptooth posted on Dec 25, 2006
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justwondering? said on Dec 25, 2006....
Okay Got the rules. . .you have so many why do you want to converse with others ? The rules are what ? I can disagree or agree. . . crap on a table and the whole room may ask you to leave or just the fool who brought you ! what do you want to talk about on a christian blog anything interesting ?just womdering? -
GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 25, 2006....
Justwondering,
I don't see where I have many rules.
1. Don't insult me or another poster. Unless you do it with an actual argument pertaining to the topic.
2. Don't try to hijack the topic.
3. Stay on the topic.
That's only three rules.
I want to converse with others because I enjoy exchanging ideas and opinions. I enjoy debating the fringes of issues with intelligent people also wishing such discovery. And, there are many who are also willing to have intelligent conversations.
As far as a Christian blog, I would depend on the topic.
Thanks for asking your questions, and it's nice to meet you.
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missb said on Dec 26, 2006....
Hey Gumpy,
I believe i haven't introduced myself properly. I'm missb. Nice to meet you.
I also agree with you that a blog is like someone's house and when one enters, one's expected to behave properly. Although sometimes it's hard to do that when you enter let's say, a pedophile's house and hear what he has to say about pedophilia.
But all in all, when the host/ess is behaving accordingly, i say the guest must reciprocate.
Cheers :)
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GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 26, 2006....
Missb,
Thanks for responding.
I agree with you. I suppose that if I was in a pedophile's house, I would immediately leave. Then I wouldn't have to listen.
And, like it or not, talking about it is a constitutionally protected right, and it IS their house.
As for behaving accordingly, I think it's a "when in Rome" thing. Everyone has different standards of "behaving." The standards of decorum are different at the home of Martha Stewart are different than that of Snoop Dog.
Missb, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas. Best in 2007, and thanks again for responding. -
peedee said on Dec 26, 2006....
Hi ! GumpyJumptooth, I am highly impressed with whatever you write. It is based on logic. I would never permit any guest of mine to indulge in vandalism in my house or to my blog.. That is decency. One has the right to differ and if he does, he has the option to create a post of his and express his views. He has no right to be assertive for any reason whatsover. He is no authority to judge the quality of ones blogging. I agree unreservedly. -
gingersoul said on Dec 26, 2006....
Gumpy, you are perfectly right.
I dont go trashing other people house, and i don't like when people come and trash my house. Invitation or not....
Take your dirty shoes off my coffee table, thanks....lol.....
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mobil said on Dec 26, 2006....
gumpy, yes, you nailed it. It's your blog, your opinion, your space. Come insit down, agree, disagree.Lets have a conversation, you don't agree with me, state your case. You 'agree, say so in a dignified manner.Dignity, behaving in a certain way within the confines of a home or a blog.It's how we were taught, if we were taught to behave. -
GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 26, 2006....
silver, peedee, ginger, and mobil,
Thanks all for your remarks.
The fact that you all believe in the concept of "my blog is my home--welcome to it" is reflected in the many SC bloggers who have found a welcoming place in your words.
Cozy. Warm. With plenty of good conversation and a cracklin' fire.
Thank you again for your good graciousness.
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gingersoul said on Dec 26, 2006....
Gumpy, now i want to knock at your blog-door and ask if i can use some room to thank you for the sweet words you wrote for me in Jenna's post....you are a big bear...mobil must be right about you...lol....{{{hugs}}}
tamales sounds good....:-)
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GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 26, 2006....
Ginger, you have a standing invitation in this blog. Food and drink in the fridge.
We'll discuss the finer points of Euro 2008.
Over tamales. Although upon further reflection, perhaps I should have lobbied for some authentic Italian cooking!
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secretlife said on Dec 26, 2006....
Really Gumpy......you messed that one up BIG time.Here you've got this 100% italian princess, and you're talking tamales instead of spaghetti bolongnese, chicken cacciatore, veal marsala, antipasto....hmmmm and maybe some tira misu or homemade cannoli for dessert???Good manners - in all aspects of life - blogging included -are a basic for successful relationships.We might disagree, but i'll try to do it without calling you a bad names until I know you better....*smiles* -
GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 26, 2006....
Secret,
I don't think we'll have any problems. You just don't seem like the type.
And now I have to go chew my arm off at the mention of all that good Italian feebag! -
GrapeKoolaid said on Dec 26, 2006....
Nice place you have here. Mind if I look around?
You as the moderator of the blog have the power to delete comments and block users. I, much like ed, am not in the habit of deleting people's comments, unless they're spam. My opinion on the matter is that if they took the time to visit my blog, read what I've written and thought it worthy of comment, I can at least give them the courtesy of giving them a reply. Even when the response is thoughtless, I leave it up for the other readers to read and judge.
Thanks for lettin' me leave my two cents worth.
Grape.
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gingersoul said on Dec 26, 2006....
Gumpy....lol.....being the lady that I am i didn't say anything about your tamales (that are good anyway....)...but if you really want to make me happy ...well..i have to go with Secret's suggestion...lol...{wow...Italian princess...thank you so much, my NJersey Queen.... )...
That topic of conversation is an invitation i just can't resist.....*wink*
imagine what a blog we could write together.....you, me, soccer, tamales and lasagna!!! Too good.....lol
Btw....who ever invented these damned eletcronic games..it takes forever to start one...righ tnow i am fighting to replace the battery of one of my daughter's.....shut......it just doesn't open...grrrr....
before she will play it will take her 5 hours only for reading the manual instructions.....HELP!!!
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GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 26, 2006....
When someone posts a link to their blog and it doesn't pertain to the conversation, Grape, it gets deleted.
When someone proves to me they're just creating flame bait to post on another person's blog, it gets deleted.
When someone's post contains a whole bunch of off-topic escolding, it gets deleted.
Everything else--even things extremely critical of me--gets to stay.
I'm not saying people can't properly ridicule me in my home when it requires. I'm just saying that it has to be done with some facts, or logic, or reasonable argument.
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hotaka said on Dec 27, 2006....
Well, Mr. GumpyJumptooth sir. Feeling welcome in your blog house as usual I strolled around and I couldn't help being a little shocked to discover that ol' Saint Nick is still tied up in the upstairs bedroom closet and without even a smoking jacket to cover his jingle bells. It is past Christmas now. Don't you think you could let the poor bugger go? -
GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 27, 2006....
Just as soon as he finishes grouting the downstairs bathroom! Good to hear from you, Hotaka. How was your holiday? -
peedee said on Dec 27, 2006....
Hi ! GJT, I will be a visitor to your blog house of and on absolutely uninvited and rest assured I will ensure that I take of my shoes at the entrance. I will not mind having a a mug of beer if you so please. -
GumpyJumptooth said on Dec 30, 2006....
step128 wrote:
The different between my blog and your blog is "it never allow" any coments. Reason is very simple..... I don't know how to make my blog to be able to comment by other. I only know how to create a template and just know how to post .... ha! ha ! because it is hosted on my hosting sever. I did not blog using blog sites
Another difference, step, is that I don't allow people to link to my blog unless it pertains to the subject at hand.
Thanks for visiting, and please come back again.
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