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The silent woman sits at her computer. She thinks that by writing an anonymous blog she can purge... guilt, sin, dirt, call it what you will.

The problem is she doesn't really feel as guilty as she knows she should. Even though she is scummy dirty down to her core, she still can't feel as bad about it as she knows most people would.

She thinks about the things she has done. Bad things. You wouldn't know by looking at her. She is so cute, so bubbly, so dedicated to her children. Too bad she is a whore, huh? Too bad she has comitted so many rotten acts in her life that she is probably destined for hell no matter how much she tries to make up for it.

She is torn right in two- half of her is proud and evil and wants to brag, the other half knows that no matter how many baths she takes or how hot the water, she can't ever be clean again.

So what has she done that is so bad? Where to start? For tonight there will only be one thing to start with. If she ever visits this site again, she might let you know another bad thing, if you are unlucky and she is bored...

How about the thing that bothers her the most? How about: somewhere along her travels, the silent woman contracted genital warts. She had the warts removed and then removed it from her mind and kept on traveling. She is on her second husband and still no one but her knows. She can't tell anyone. She can't even stand to know herself so she tries to not think about it. It's been years since she found out and she CAN'T tell now!

So now she has to live with this hideous fact, the reality that she is diseased. She is less than... less than she was, less than other women, less than she should be.

 

 



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  • gingersoul said on Dec 24, 2006....
    Why are you feeling so dirty?
    Why are you punishing yourself so much?
    Its the medical aspect of the problem that bother you so much or only the emotional one?
     
    You know that you are already purer and cleaner than many other people out there, right?
    You knwo why? Because you recognize your responsability.
    You dont go around cussing and blaming the world.
    You have been level headed enough to face the truth.
     
    But now its time to lift this veil of guilt.
     
    Work with this positive thinking: what can i do right now right here to feel better.
     
    Truth frees you....it seems like telling the truth would destroy your world but your world is built on lies so how strong can be?
    Give it new pillars.
    When you open up and ask for understanding the big step is already done.
    Then you will be the one to judge based on the way others will react to your truth.
    If they will not  understand...work with that problem too and keep going on. But move away from this soffocating place you are.
    Open the door and breath.
    I wish you peace and strenght.
    Merry Christmas. 
  • Jenna said on Dec 25, 2006....
    Oh sweet girl....please,please forgive yourself.  It is something that happened.  It is not who you are.  Please stay here....and share... trust me, you will feel better.   this "problem"....is not the end of the world. 
     
    Forgive yourself silent woman...sending a hug your way!  ((hug))
  • kruuyai said on Jan 11, 2007....
    Just tagging this so I can come back to it later when I have more time to comment... but do try to forgive yourself.  Once you do that, you will see that others can forgive you as well (for not telling... there's nothing to feel guilty about simply for having contracted a disease... do you feel guilty for getting a cold or a flu or cancer or diabetes?)  Of course not.  This is just one of life's many challenges that you've been presented with.  You're not alone.  I'm with you on this one and more.  Okay, I guess I did more than tag, but I have a lot more to say, and I have to go, so I will come back later.
  • kruuyai said on Feb 12, 2007....

    Dear she,  I know I said a long time ago that I would come back and say a lot more, and as I started to think about my own story, it got to be so big and overwhelming in my mind, that I kept putting it off.  I've finally come to the conclusion that I don't have to write a book, but I did want to say a few more things to support you.  I haven't been back to your blog in a long time to know whether you've taken action or not, but first and foremost, you are not "less than" because you have a disease.  I am not "less than" because I have two diseases (herpes and genital warts).  I contracted the herpes about 25 years ago.  I discovered it while I was engaged, and I didn't get it from my fiancee.  We didn't know much about it at the time, the doc didn't even tell me it was a sexually transmitted disease or that there was no cure for it.  Imagine how I felt a couple of weeks later when 60 minutes did a story on it, and I  learned all those things.  My marriage lasted only two years (not related to the herpes), and I've been single ever since.  I've had a lot of relationships, and so I've had to go through with tellling my partners about this before we got involved sexually.  It was really a hard thing to do.  I was always afraid that they wouldn't want to have anything to do with me.  Sometimes they didn't.  There weren't many of those, and they were usually men that I hadn't known for long, and they really had no reason to risk contracting a disease from someone they didn't plan on being with for the long haul.  (BTW, I know I never gave herpes to anyone... I rarely have even had outbreaks... only once every 5 years or so).  So I learned to slow things down, which wasn't a bad thing overall.  In a way, I'm thankful to herpes for that. 

    There was at least one guy who was angry that I didn't tell him sooner.  He said I should have told him as soon as we started dating.  I still disagree with that.  That kind of information is given on a need to know basis, and nobody needs to know unless we come to a mutual agreement that we are willing to move our relationship to a physical level. 

    Were there ever times when I didn't tell someone about it?  Yes, there were.  Why?  Because I forgot.  I'm serious.  It affected my life so little.. like I said an outbreak about every 5 years, and if I got physically involved very quickly... usually because the guy was moving fast and I let it happen... sometimes I didn't remember until afterward.  It's a lot harder to tell someone about it after the fact.  But I have done it on more than one occasion, and not with disastrous consequences.  People can often accept a lot more than we think they can.

    So... should you have told your husband(s)?  You already know the answer to that.  Can you go back and tell him now?  It's really hard to do.. I know.  But there are two reasons why I think you might want to do it.  The most obvious one is that your husband has a right to know, because it can potentially affect his health.  The second one, and I think even more important, is that it will help you to stop hating yourself and thinking of yourself as someone who is diseased and "less than." 

    I just briefly glanced at one of your other posts before I came here.  In it, you wrote a letter to your husband telling him about the distance you feel in your marriage.  I wonder if any of that distance might be caused by your own feelings about yourself?  Even though you may try to keep your self image to yourself, I can't help but think that it has to manifest itself into your relationship in some manner.  If you judge yourself so harshly for this transgression, or whatever you want to call it, perhaps by talking with him about it, openly, and making yourself vulnerable, maybe you can move something in your relationship.

    I'm no expert on relationships, obviously.... and I'm writing under the influence of cold medicine, but I hope this helps in some way.  This comment should be entitled... kruuyai comments, but poorly. 

  • sheissilent said on Feb 18, 2007....
    Kruuyai, I have tried to reply a couple of times to your thoughtful post, but don't yet have the emotional energy that total honesty requires and so I haven't finished.
     
    I will, when I can.  You are beyond helpful, you have made me feel better and that is something I never thought possible when talking about this painful subject.
     
    Thank you.
  • kruuyai said on Feb 18, 2007....

    she... oh, good...I'm glad to know it was helpful.  After waiting so long to write it (for the same reasons you can't write a reply just now) I wondered if I had contributed anything useful at all.   I'm glad that you feel better.  :)

    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

  • nicolexue said on Feb 22, 2008....
    half of USA people have an STD. so why feel dirty? I have herpes but not shame. I am at STDromance.com

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