Hi lovethebeach, i'm so so so sorry to hear about this horror that's going on for you and your children. As a mum myself, my heart goes out to you. In Australia, luckily we have a government legal department that you can use if you do not have the funds for normal solicitors etc. I wonder if you have that where you are? you've probably thought about it already though.
Also, can you get a restraining order against your ex? In oz, this is done (i think) through the police department and doesn't cost that much i've been told. Protection of your children is so paramount and i hope that you can get whatever it is you need in order to prevent any more abuse happening to them.
love shekinah
Unfortunately, I make just a tiny bit too much to qualify for the reduced/free legal aid. And, even if I did, it doesn't pay for the psych exams and the guardian ad litem for the kids. If anyone knows an organization in nj, or a country wide organization in the us that would help, please let me know.
I have tried to get a restraining order, but it does not apply for the kids. Also, he's a federal law enforcement agent, so he is able to get away with a lot of this because of it. It's really a tragic story.