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Is it worth it?

X-Pat posted on Dec 06, 2006 | views: 379 | Tags: soul searching, migration, abroad, job, family, friends, foot and ass problem, soul, french class
Having the opportunity to work outside my country of res, I grabed it so fast i did not even think twice. I mean this is a great opportunity, one a most ppl will never have. Now I have come to see what I have left behind. But is leaving your family and friends behind for a job worth it. Does money make up for the emptyness? How does one deal with the emotion of being alone all the time. Yes there is the part of having no attachments, but in the end is it worth it?

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  • danetteb said on Dec 06, 2006....
    Well, you should try to make new friends. Hopefully your move was for financial gain, which would enable you to visit your folks often?
  • X-Pat said on Dec 06, 2006....

    i'm working in africa ... they only speak french ... i speak Afrikaans

    and i do miss my folk a hell of a lot ... i have considred going back to SA but  i fear if i do this ill be shooting myself in the ass.

  • Bronx said on Dec 06, 2006....
    Hi, XP.

    Feeling homesick is normal for some time after relocation.

    I felt the same way once when I was away from home for 4 years!

    People age a little bit when you get back; but, while not encouraging you to sever connections with home, once you settle in you'll find a lot to occupy yourself more and more.

    I definitely ran up huge monthly telephone bills, but it was worth it! Take care.
  • X-Pat said on Dec 06, 2006....
    oh the phone bill is already high ...
    but it worth it ... just to hear the peoples voices are reasuring
  • secretlife said on Dec 07, 2006....
    I say give it a chance.  If after a year you're still miserable, I'd think about making a change.  I don't know that money is the only consideration.  it depends on you and what's important to you ultimately.
     
    i've made many decsions based upon being home for my children.  i might not make the most money, but i have a value placed on my presence at home that makes this decision worthwhile to me.
     
    good luck!
  • CreativeWoman said on Dec 08, 2006....
    I think as you make more new friends, you will be happier.  No?  Maybe enroll in a French class.  You'll surely make connections there with people in similar situations. 

    Bets of luck to you.

    CW
  • danetteb said on Dec 10, 2006....
    Heya X-pat,
    Ek was verras om te sien dat jy Afrikaans is ;)
    Dink bietjie aan Skype ook - dit sal dalk die foon rekening bietjie laër maak!
    Ek sou rerig nie aanbeveel dat jy terug kom SA toe nie - ek kan onthou toe ek terug gekom het van Engeland af hoe teleurgesteld ek was... 
    Mens onthou net die goeie, en mis die familie en vriende, maar die land is besig om agteruit te gaan.
    Ek sal enige tyd oorsee gaan - enige tyd.  Solank ek 'n werspermit het sal ek NOU my tassies gaan pak!
    Sterkte!  - Dink aan jou, en byt vas!
    Hoop jy kom darem oor die Kerstyd kuier.  As jy nie kom nie, dan moet jy maar net vasbyt, en sorg dat jy jouself besig hou!
    Weereens, baie sterkte!

  • danetteb said on Nov 14, 2007....
    Dis al amper weer Kerstyd.  Hoe ganit nou, of het jy toe besluit om terug te kom SA toe?

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