• danetteb said on Nov 27, 2006....

  I think the bigger the age gap, the bigger the chances of "losing" each other.  Not necessarily splitting up, but not being on the same wave length.  People change, and though you might get along now, there's might be a day where the older person outgrows the younger.
  
  As for woman being older than men?  I think that's just the weirdness which makes it unacceptable - I don't know why though.
  

• bubbared said on Nov 27, 2006....

  I'd like to say that it doesn't matter, but I can't lie to you.  I'm married to a man who is 17 years my senior.  I love him more than anyone I've ever been with and I wish that was all there was to say about it.  But we are very different and those diffferences have to be constantly overcome.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not going anywhere, but there are some things that will never change no matter how hard I try.  When I plan for retirement, I plan to be alone.  And it's the saddest thing in my life.

• kruuyai said on Nov 27, 2006....

  I've had a couple of relationships with younger men.  One was 16 years younger than me, and age didn't seem to make a big difference.  We had a lot of common interests, liked the same music and treated each other with integrity.  I think he was one of those people who is, in some ways, wise beyond his years.  But it did make a difference in other ways.  He was just starting his career and looking to move up and out, and I was establishing my own business and wasn't about to follow him around.  And he wanted to have children, which wasn't something I had ever wanted, and even if I could change my mind about that, by the time he reached the age at which he said he wanted to start a family, I would have been too old to have my first child.
   
  The other guy was 24 years younger than me.  I'm actually six months older than his mom.  I think age made a huge difference here.  He wasn't a particularly mature person, and was extremely sentimental and still believed in a fairytale kind of romance and was always trying to create that which was something that would have appealed to me greatly when I was younger, but not anymore.  I'd moved beyond wanting a lot of melodrama in my life.  But he always said, and still does, that he wanted to be there to take care of me when I got old (in about 10 years, as he says...haha) and to change my diapers... oops, this is getting too personal. 
   
  So, it's a nice sentiment, but I think he'd be happier in the long run with someone his own age and not having to look forward to a lifetime of widowhood.  A friend of mine recently buried her husband who was 30 years her senior, and she's having a very rough time of it.  And I know I'd be happier with someone my own age and not having to relive all the mistakes I made when I was younger through my younger partner. 
   
  So, I guess I'm saying that age, in and of itself, isn't what makes the difference.  Rather, it's the level of maturity and life experience, but let's face it, the two, more often than not, go hand in hand.

• Lioness said on Nov 27, 2006....

  I guess age does not matter. What is important is the chemistry you have in a relationship, if you understand each other, if you accept each others strengths and weaknesses. I know there is more than the age issue. A person can be young in age and still matured in thinking. While there are older people who are immature.
  

• copsunited said on Nov 27, 2006....

  Watch me hit a torpedo on this one. Well I'd love it if age didn't matter but it does. Most young women are looking for a man who is barely her senior. Why, it is a matter of primordial instinct. Take the time to read up on that. After she has bred with a younger man she is then more apt to look to an older more secure man to assist and aid in bringing up the child/dhildren. Again..it is the instinct to do so.
   
  Older men look for a fecund youth to continue his lineage. At least he wants to but often cannot. Old men, young women..whew..it goes WAYYY back. Some young men in their 30s after a few missteps will cleave to an older woman but the bond is not strong. Biology 101 and Social Anthropology..it crosses all lines of civilization and societies. Darn it...
   
  JD / cops
   
  Does this remind you of the blonde bombshell that decided to marry an 80+ guy?? Just so that she could care about him..ahem..and then take his billions??
   
   

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