• silverwhisper said on Nov 17, 2006....

  mine is one i don't share. ever.
  
  ed

• lioneljay said on Nov 17, 2006....

  I'm in the same boat as Ed here. My most powerful regrets are for my consumption alone. I will, though, say that sometimes I wish that I had gone along with my father's suggestion that I go to law school. At the same time, I also wish that I had done something with the promise that I showed with drama when I was younger.
  

• mr_right14 said on Nov 17, 2006....

  Mine?
  My slacking days.
  If those times, I were serious and focused on my studies...more titles I may have and more chances of winning all international competitions.

• SunshineJoy said on Nov 17, 2006....

  I am kinda of the opposite of you guys. I wished I hadn't gone to college. I have an Associates degree that is getting me no where. An now I an stuck with 50 K in student loans. My husband and I together pay $1000 per month in student loan payments alone. We could have a house right now if those did not exist. I still have no job in my field. I just quit my boring job at Financial company that was in  no way related to my degree. I could have done that job w/o a degree and saved some money. The only good thing that came from college was meeting the guy who is now my hubby. But I didn't even meet him at the same college that I graduated from.

• gingersoul said on Nov 17, 2006....

  **Ed.....it's a so immense regret? I am sorry.......it must be hard to live with an unshareble regret...its enough hard to have one.....

  But you can always name the second on your list....if you have a second one.......->

  **LJ........i did drama too.....three years with a semiprofessional group. WE even went on tiur for 10 days. It was fantastic. They told me i should have pursued that passion, go to an acting school. But i wasn't thay confident in my abilities...it seemed a hard and long way to go, i was too young, my family wouldn't probably support me in that......i still wonder what i would have became if.......sometimes i regret it....

  **Mr right...same here.......i always profoundly regret not having completed college when i had more than half of my exams done with great scores. But i started to work, a very demanding job and i told to myself that i was only putting college at hold for  a while...that "while" ended up 'forever'.....but i managed anyway to have the job of my dream....only for my present situation maybe i think i might need it.....

  **Sunshine.....well..... if only for meeting your man college was worthy, i agree....:->
  You are right  .....if you can't make money from it is a no win situation....especially if you said you would have done the same job without the pain of al these debts....i feel for you...

• silverwhisper said on Nov 17, 2006....

  GS: nah, the other stuff i don't really regret.  even the painful ones.  b/c those things made me who i am and i'm not that bad a guy for 'em.
  
  ed
  

• bullblogg said on Nov 17, 2006....

  regrets, i have a few but then again too few to mention........i dont share them...with anyone....we all have some..i have two mains ones..others are your basic ones-i regret not going to film and theater school...big time..ahh
  

• MissMimi said on Nov 17, 2006....

  My biggest ones are very private.  One I can share though, is I regret that I never finished getting my college degree.  I quit when I got married with only one more quarter to go, and I really wish I had pushed harder and made it more of a priority. 

• momsrock said on Nov 17, 2006....

  Mine is not finishing college. I racked up quite the bill at an out of state university before getting drunk, pregnant and dropping out! lol... My father offered his home, rent free if I transferred to the university near him... his wife was always a homemaker and volunteered to babysit and I still SAID NO!! What is wrong with me?!?!?! lol...

• secretlife said on Nov 17, 2006....

  My biggest regret Ginger is that I didn't wait 5 more years to marry.

   

   

   

• Astrapsee said on Nov 17, 2006....

  Not serving in the army - not as a permanent profession,but I think everyone should serve, it teaches a lot of positive things.

• NobodySpecial said on Nov 17, 2006....

  Mine is dropping out of high school and starting to use meth.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 17, 2006....

  I hurt my best friend in a way he'll never recover from, even though he remains my best friend to this day. I can't elaborate without hurting someone else.
  

• CreativeWoman said on Nov 17, 2006....

  My biggest regret is my marriage.
  
  CW
  

• dailyachesandpains said on Nov 17, 2006....

  My regrets, I have many!  MANY!

  For starters, I quit (Withdrew) 4 Universities in time to NOT have to pay.  I started, within weeks I was done.  Wait...the first college I quit my parent's paid for.  I regret that they ever wanted me to go, I regret so deeply that I let them down!  Must be the ADD? 

  I regret that I used to gamble, I'd be a wealthy woman if I knew how to STOP, or half wealthy to not have ever started.

  I have so many more regrets, but like others, I have to keep those to myself. 

• raft said on Nov 17, 2006....

  I have no regrets. I wish I had handled myself better at times, sure. Or maybe had more gumption during my university days, sure. But many of those things, in hindsight, were for a reason. I had a lesson to learn or maybe didn't have the experience to see the opportunity.
  
  Most of my greater "mistakes" were also the best learning experiences.
  
  I was once asked in an interview many years ago, if I regretted getting a store clerk job right after university for a number of years (I *did* climb to store manager status). No, there were things that I needed to learn.
  
  I think it's came back to something my mom told me after I got dumped by my first GF/love and I thought I would never see myself through it. She simply told me that there are always good things out of every disasters. She enumerated a few things that I learned/grew from that relationship and that put things in perspective. I've tried to keep that attitude as much as possible.
  

• Zayda said on Nov 17, 2006....

  My only regret is one that I don't share.  Ever. 
  
  
  

• MissMimi said on Nov 17, 2006....

  CW, I just really have to hug you.  {{{CW}}}

• HalGal said on Nov 17, 2006....

  Didn't I just write a blog like this?  No?  It's funny cause I was just thinking about the same exact thing yesterday...  but even with all my regrets, I still want to believe things happen for a reason...

• yani said on Nov 17, 2006....

  My biggest regret in life is something I don't ever want to think about.
   
  I always end up depressed. Sorry.

• CreativeWoman said on Nov 17, 2006....

  Mimi...
  Thank you.
  
  CW
  

• anonymous said on Nov 18, 2006....

  It is very important in life to forgive and let go. Otherwise we can not move forward and carry on shaping the beings and souls that we are. I stated this comment as I read through and see that some of us are not willing to open up and share our regrets, thats completely an individual choice, damn right its upto you if you do not wish to share your regrets they are yours alone and should remain secret if you wish them to. On a personal note though the people who do not wish to share, do you not find that you are unable to let go and a little piece of you stays locked away forever?

  My biggest regret is getting married far too young.

• sweetsoul said on Nov 18, 2006....

  Hard one to answer. For the most part there isn't much I regret...certainly nothing I dwell on. The only real possibility would be my choice in a husband. Married young and divorced after only 5 year. That decision has repercussions even to today, but regret? How can I when my wonderful sons were a result of it?

• missb said on Nov 18, 2006....

  I'll be back :)
   
  Cheers!

• Rockerchic said on Nov 18, 2006....

  I used to dwell on my regrets... A LOT!  Until I realized it didn't do me any good.  I can't turn back time, I can't make the past different.  While I have many regrets (getting married young, starting a family young, finishing college later in life), I look at each one as a building block to my life.  It made me who I am today.
   
  They say that hindsight is 20/20.  Maybe recognizing and facing each difficulty is a universal introspection: an opportunity to correct areas of your life you feel are lacking.
   
  Make the best of it.  Life's too short and you only live once!

• gingersoul said on Nov 18, 2006....

  **Anonymous........i dont' know.....i guess you are right when you say that one way to open yourself to a new you is let go the old baggages that weigh you down but i completely understand that for some of us there might regrets that root down and dont ask to be shared. That place in which these regrets lay is the place where we go in our darkest moments. Who likes to go there if you dont really have to?

  I have one regret that lives in that place as well. Only one. Irremovable. It seems so small actually that for many years i could pushed it in the back of my mind and simply shrugged my shoulder about it. But recently it has been inavoidable not facing it. And its not pleasant. And i am not ready yet to talk about it.....

  **MissMimi and **Moms......yes, we could have finished, we could have pushed harder, we could have a bigger vision of our future....my father found a great job very well rewarded....but i was too busy researching my soul, fighting for my political ideas, going out with my friends...................i should have done both.....but that phase of my life is one i will never regret...

   **Secret........five years of your life back.......we rush or we find ourself in middle of decisions that seem so absolutely necessary at that moment and if we only had waited a little bit imagine what our life could have been......... 

• gingersoul said on Nov 18, 2006....

  **Astrapsee......are you too old to do it now?

  **Nobody......where are you now is the most important thing....and the fact you realize the reason and the why....hope you are in a better place......:-)

  **Infernal.....i completely understand.....this is an emotional regret...hurting someone we love....it seems we were another person when we think about it, like a monster had taken our place.....its difficult to accept we really did it ......{hug} 

  **CW..........a big hug to you.............yours are few words, a whole life in them.........i am sorry...........

• gingersoul said on Nov 18, 2006....

  **Daily, sweet, i am sorry.....maybe we should start to think that really there are no other way we should have done differently...what we know now we didnt know then, who we know now weren't there to help us, everything around us was different from now so judging past decisions with present eyes it seems unfair...the pain remains though, and that bitter taste....but i want to reach the stage in which i will look back and i will be able to "I did what i thought i needed to do. Especially the bad things, the wrong decisions. And that person is not me anymore". Its the healing process of forgive ourself so that we can frorgive others too. {hug}

  **Zayda....i understand....

  **HalGal......that things happen for a reason has been repetated to me by so many people.....it seems a common believe...some give it a religious meaning going to the point of saying that God planned our life from the beginning and we have to surrender to his will...No thanks... but that thing have thei reason to happen is an inextricable moral explanation......your actions lead to a ample variety of choices...the one you pick is dictated by your ethic, your inner moral (acquired by education, experiences) so its not  lke a domino where the direction of the falling is mathematically preformed by the shape of the figure and the nature of the piece....its more like a chinese chess...you can place a piece in different spot and wait for a different action to happen...in this way it seems we are the only reason of our decisions and the only responsible of our actions...

  **Yani.....i am sorry to read that.......too much pain block even the reflection about it....{hug}

  **Sweetsoul......oh, yes, your child makes everything different and under a completely different perspective..its amazing what these little creature can do to us...lol

  **Rockerchic......i agree with you....sometime this process might take years..and you are right...our decisions in the past shaped our present being......would i like to be different after all?

• Bronx said on Nov 18, 2006....

  GS: I have learned, in my several years of whining (I am told!), that every wrong turn in life that is initially assumed to be a very big mistake eventually leads you to where you had thought you should have been otherwise.
  
  Examples abound: Would Ronald Reagan have become a Governor and then President if he had been a greater actor?
  
  Would Arnold Schwartzeneger have become Governor if he had not left his home country? My take on this is that everything seems to level out in the end.
  
  My Mum once gave me a huge painting with the words, "HARD WORK OVERCOMES HARDSHIP". I have had no more regrets in life since then.
  

• missb said on Nov 18, 2006....

  One of my biggest regrets is not doing my full potential in taiwan while studying mandarin. Too much booze, fun and too much in love, got a bit carried away :/

  Damn, I could have been a lot better if i was really serious. Now i can't even speak the language anymore. Being back home in indonesia is only making it worse. I don't really speak it anymore. Oh well, next time, if there's ever.

  Cheers :)

• gingersoul said on Nov 20, 2006....

  **Bronx....yes, i know...if we start this 'If" game it can lead us to the origin of the universe....i am not fond in tracking back my steps that useless as well....i know that i have been several identities in several different moments of my life and my choices at 20's coulnd't be made with the experience i have now. But regrets seem belong to  at different territory...in the land of strong emotions and nostalgia sometimes not explainable...we have it and we live with it...sometimes they pop up in our mind from nowhere and we have to face them...your mom is a wise woman....:-)

  **missb....oh, yeah......the easy days of partying and horrible hangovers....friends and drama...too busy with life to plan our life........the stupid beauty of  youth....been there...:-)

  Mandarin is a difficult language as i know but one of the most requested now .....there is no way you can restart your study?

• rmuxagirl said on Nov 20, 2006....

  My biggest regret would have to be not reporting being raped 5 years ago.  I just let it go and that did more damage to me emotionally then the actual rape did.
  

• dailyachesandpains said on Nov 20, 2006....

  Rmu,
  I'm so sad for you!!!
  {{{HUGS}}}
  Daily
  

• silverwhisper said on Nov 20, 2006....

  r: i'm so sorry to hear that.
  
  ed
  

• Bronx said on Nov 20, 2006....

  rmuxagirl: sorry about that. Wish I had some more soothing words for you.
  
  GS: thanks for that.
  

• rmuxagirl said on Nov 21, 2006....

  awe guys thanks.  I've come to terms with it and it's made me a stronger woman.  I speak out every chance I get.
  

• gingersoul said on Nov 24, 2006....

  Rmu......i am so sorry....i didnt follow through with my post these past days and i feel so shameful of not having answered to your comment...i am really sorry to read about what happened to you...

  it must have been horrible..i dont think there are words to even imagine something like that....you did what you could do at that ime and you are doing differently now because you are different....you are right......if you can talk about it now it means you are stronger....thanks you for sharing it wih us....{ginger hugs rmuxagirl}

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