i went to my friends grave on saturday,thanks to the advice and well wishes you all wrote to me... it was dark,wet and cold but once we were standing at the grave we all felt calm.alot of my friends said they didn't feel close to our deceased friend standing at her grave, i did though.i could hear her laughing and singing,which she loved to do-regardless of the fact that she was tone deaf!! i never felt so much standing at a grave side as i did on saturday night. we then went to the local for a couple of drinks and to chat about the good time we were lucky to share with our friend. then we were told by the locals that our friends dad is in hospital due to alcohol,really. he hasn't stopped drinking since his wife and daughter were killed. we were talking amongest ourselves and we all had different opinions on his drinking problem- my opinion was that i felt that you couldn't really blame the man-his wife and only daughter,not to mention she was the youngest,were wiped out by some idiot taking a risk.and i also felt that he had the right to drink and if his sons didn't intervene ,why should we? he has been living alone in the home house since they died,which isn't right but he also has four sons who let him..that was my argument, my friends on the other hand thought that he should know better than to cause more pain in the family,haven't his grandchildren been through enough? and as for his sons,maybe he pushed them away? either way we all agreed it was such a sad thing to hear. what would your opinion be? should we help or leave it... i should mention that i dont like the man,i never have but i would never wish this pain and suffering on anyone. your comments are welcome as always, mise le meas-bullblogg
bullblogg posted on Nov 13, 2006
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secretlife said on Nov 13, 2006....
how can you blame a man who has that tragedy to deal with?I'm glad you did ok with your visit bullblog. -
bullblogg said on Nov 13, 2006....
exactly what i think- if he wants to drink-let him-its probably the only way he can sleep at night.
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missb said on Nov 13, 2006....
I can't imagine the pain of losing a friend. I'm so sorry for your loss, bullblogg. But imagine the pain of the father!I understand why the man would turn to alcohol. Who could blame him? If i were him I might not even survive.I'd say give him some time. If it doesn't stop after a long period, then it'd probably be good if someone close could talk to him.I hope you're ok.Cheers :) -
Lioness said on Nov 13, 2006....
Let him go over the grief, he needs time to overcome the pain he is going through. It is just a stage in life, remember, he lost his loved ones. I think what he needs now is understanding from his family and friends.
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CreativeWoman said on Nov 13, 2006....
It's a difficult situation. We all deal with grief in many different ways. I hope you are o.k., too.
CW
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monozuki said on Nov 13, 2006....
it's seems late but..I am sorry for your loose.
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MissMimi said on Nov 13, 2006....
bullblogg, I'm so glad you posted about how it went. And I'm glad you felt her spirit around you. Her father is going through unimaginable grief. If he needs alcohol for the near future, leave him in peace. -
bullblogg said on Nov 14, 2006....
thank you all for your comments- you all have touched me and seem to agree with me- leave him to it, sure what else can the man do..... it is a horrible situation for anyone to be around, dont mind be in,so i truly hope none of you ever live to deal with such tragedy.
monozuki- thank you...
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