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Which one would be your perfect date scenario?

gingersoul posted on Nov 09, 2006 | views: 2104 | Tags: dating, dating first date perfect date soulcast, Perfect, perfect date, date, soulcast, cabins, exciting, hi, dates, cabin

Having the opportunity (no matter if you are single or in a relationship or married) which one would be your perfect date scenario?

Where would like to you go with your date?  What would like to do or see or eat?

And.....attention, please....

there is someone here at SC that you would love to ask out for a first date? (being this a virtual world everything is possible....). Be aware that if someone is asked out by more than one suitor he/she has to feel free to ask for a first date or say yes to more than one pretendent.....no hurt feelings here....same way, he/she might gently refuse the invitation....  And, the invitation might even be only to be friend, to know each other better....

Let's start dreaming.....:-).



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  • silverwhisper said on Nov 09, 2006....
    um...interesting, but i think i'll just read everyone else's comments... :>

    ed
  • gingersoul said on Nov 09, 2006....
    Oh, oh, ed...your are a player....lol
  • lioneljay said on Nov 09, 2006....
    I like moonlit walks on a beach, warm drinks by the fire, and the opportunity to leave my mark on my date's backside - many of them if possible.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 09, 2006....
    LJ........so your first date would end up with having sex? :-)
  • lioneljay said on Nov 09, 2006....
    All I said was that my ideal date would end up with some spanking or flogging....sex is not necessarily implied.
  • secretlife said on Nov 09, 2006....

    ok ginger, i want sex on my dream date.

    I'll take that moonlit beach.....maui please.  I want to walk along the beach with my handsome gentleman, looking at the moon reflect off of the pacific. At some point, the two of us will decide it's too good of an opportunity to pass up so we strip and run into the warm moving water.

    In the water we just play...kissing and touching...bouncing together on the waves.

    After we get our blood pumping, we let the water push us toward the beach...

    We will make love in the surf, with the water receding and advancing around us...moving in the same rhythm as our bodies- 

    I would like to feel him on top of me , and be able to look in his eyes the whole time.

    When we finish, we will dress and continue our walk back to a gorgeous hotel, where we will enjoy getting the sand off of each other in our shower, and then go down and enjoy a late night snack at the hotel club......feeding each other finger foods...ok, enough secret sheesh...I'm sure you get the general idea.

     

     

     

  • Alyss said on Nov 09, 2006....
    My perfect date would be where ever he was.

    If you want me to be more specific then the beach on a warm day would be fantastic but I think the likelihood of that happening is extremely remote.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 09, 2006....

    ***LJ......ok, its a pretty darn good way to end up a first date, i would say...one can call that activities "appetizers".....between a spanking and another one there is enough time to understand if there will be a second date.....

     

    ***Secret......so romantic....i always thought that beaches are the perfect playground for a first date....What is interesting is that you put the usual order up side down...lol.....Uually couple go first to dinner THEN let go their primary istinct...i like that you instead choose to jump right in the water, as we can say.........i couldn't agree more...:-)  

    ***Alyss.....you described it in such intense way.....i can feel the passion....     

  • momsrock said on Nov 09, 2006....

    We live in the country, surrounded by mountains and I have never had a romantic date in a cabin. So that is what I would want.

     

    We would cook dinner together, drinking wine and dancing in front of the fireplace. I would most likely get tired of the romance and we would start doing shots while dancing around to greatest hits of the 80's. Then we put Scalywag on speaker phone so he can give step by step instructions for the "Discovery Challenge". (I'd do a link if I knew how.)

  • MissMimi said on Nov 09, 2006....

    SL's got the right idea.  I want sex on my date.  The perfect scenario would be to try all those secret wicked things I fantasize about.  I want to be taught how to listen to my inner submissive.

  • moonriver said on Nov 09, 2006....
    this is serious stuff, people. i ain't giggling or mooning as i write this.

    my ideal first date? not a planned one, but an accidental one where both of us are at our most awkward,  transparent, and vulnerable. one for the movies. my dream casablanca.

    like, i'm a habitual stroller, on the beach, in a park, on the river quay, with sketchpad and charcoal on hand, sometimes a camera, looking for beggars and street kids and rundown whores and drunken bums to fill my sketchbooks, with romance farthest from my mind. my publisher has given me a month to finish my comic book, and i'm near out of cash advances.

    a girl with that "i'm-lost-please-help-me" look sits on a bench near me. i flash her my killer smile. she hesitates, stares down at her plain white nurse's shoes, and gives back a tentative, split-second smile. i offer her some sandwich and wine. we talk. she's really lost, having been just released from a psychiatric ward and nowhere to go except for a couple of job references. she's ok, just slightly schizoid  and underweight (like most of us at 19 or 20), complicated only by family problems. she doesn't have a place to stay for the night.

    i am tempted to offer her my Latin Quarter rathole so i could inspect her orifices more thoroughly. (i'm that clinical when my professional record as a graphic artist is at stake.) but a voice inside tells me what to do, as a well brought up catholic schoolboy. i help her carry her bag, we eat chinese (of course! you should know this already by now), she eats voraciously like a teenage child. we talk some more. i'm uneasy when she stares at my mouth and hands as i speak.

    i bring her to a nearby youth hostel, help her check in, hand her some francs for personal stuff she needed to buy (was before euro, people). i tell the night frontdesk man to be mindful for any signs of seizure, and give him my phone number. she gets it instead and tells me, "merci. je suis bien. je vous appellerai ce soir. est-ce que je vous reverrai?" and for the first time, i find her hauntingly, temptingly beautiful. "yeah, well, you know where to find me," i say with nonchalance.

    i go out into the cool night breeze, my walk a bit briskier. her wraith's face tarries in my thoughts. i wait for her call throughout the night, sketching her sad smile in my pastel-and-charcoal dreams. next morning, the frontdesk man says she checked out early with her bag. i spend the next five days trying to spot my lovely eponine among the river quay habitues, half-fearing that one of the wizened old anglers would fish out a plain white nurse's shoe from the river bank.

    this story has a happy ending. but that's my perfect first date for you.
  • secretlife said on Nov 09, 2006....
    LOL moms! 
  • gingersoul said on Nov 09, 2006....

    ***Moms....that was funny! lol.....but what the heck are you drinking? The sixth shot of straight vodka? First romantic date in a solitary  cabin and you think about Scaly?Are you saying somethin between the lines?  ;-)

     

    ***MissMimi....that's the rigth attitude!

    But....isn't strange that we gir;ls long for that great first date sex and the only person here who is describing a real first date without sex is a man? Isn't usually the opposite?

    ***Btw, Moon, i loved your scenario....you cracked me up, as usual....white shoes, psychiatric ward, and then as soon as she speaks in French you are hooked..too cute...well, at least this time no baby panda in danger....lol

    Are you really drawing a comic book? Interesting..

  • satyr said on Nov 09, 2006....
    Mine would be a cabin too, on a small mountain lake with a dock.   A porch looks out onto the lake (it's held up with heavy wooden posts :-) ).  A swing and a rocker on the porch.  Inside there's a bearskin rug in front of the fireplace.  A sofa and end tables sit opposite the fireplace across the rug.   Small kitchen, bath and bedroom complete the cabin.
     
    Oh, yeah, there would be sex.
     
  • kelly_bb said on Nov 09, 2006....
    I'm glad that my perfect date did not ended with sex, and it still remain a perfect date for both of us!
     
    He was my boyfriend at college (sigh..first love) and it was our first date. A night out at the movies. It was the first time that he hold my hands and ...well he accidentally held my hand and conveniently forgot to let go, that is...hahah....and I pretty much enjoy it. It ended up with a 2-hour chat in his car, outside my house....I don't know why, without much physical intimacy, that was the best night I had with him.....the most memorable night...maybe becaused its just sweet knowing that he cared ?
     
    God..I think I still missed him sometimes... 
     
     
  • moonriver said on Nov 09, 2006....
    gingersoul, a little fantasy woven into reality. it isn't very far from how i met my wife in real life, and how i'd like to meet her again. yes i'm involved in a comics project (as publisher-writer and sometimes as a penciller if i feel like it), and yes i play the piano when flying from belfry to belfry and howling in my szechuan cave doesn't relieve the ennui and loneliness.
  • Zayda said on Nov 09, 2006....
    The ideal date with my husband of course--a picnic in the park, a pic-nic basket filled with cheese, grapes, wine, crusty bread.  or an afternoon at the ampitheatre with a string quartet or band playing, with a small lunch packed.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    Kelly......that was touching....isn't true that first loves sometimes stay with us forever? It seems like the lyrics of some sappy song but its true.... i still remember with a smile the very first date  i had i nmy life. He was gentle, embarassed and so cute. Blonde hair and green eyes...

    Do you miss your first guy or do you miss the feeling of being cared the way he cared for you?

    Btw, thank you for stopping by....:-)  

  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    **Satyr...another cabin in the hit parade....:-)..

    I particularly love the detail of that big rug in front of the fireplace....man, and you promise lots of sex too....Satiro, satirello...lol....its a great scenario....

     

    **Zayda...food and music are a magic combo for me too.....once i went to a date with this guy....he had the tickets for the S.Cecilia, a famous music theather in Roma. It was the first time i went there. They were playing  "Don Giovanni' di Mozart....well, he had to be rewarded for that great music that night....lol    

  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    Moonriver....finally you are showing a little bit of yourself.....at least of this personality, one of the seven you have...:-)

    ...i liked what you said.... that this is the way you would like to meet your wife again....are you are still married? .....What your cosmic book is about?

  • kelly_bb said on Nov 10, 2006....

    gingersoul...

    What that'll lingers after a relationship ended is not how good the sex was (that will be replaceable...I'm sure there's lots of guys out there that'll agree to this) but the sweet moments and the care that you felt while you are in the relationship will stay with you forever...hmm..in somecase, even though u say you'll hate him forever, but somehow there'll be the little things that he did in the past that touches ur life in a special way, that'll will stay with you forever...

    Hahah..what I wrote here is kinda sappy...but I'm glad its true....

    as for your question, I missed him for all the little thoughtful things that he had done...

     

     

  • moonriver said on Nov 10, 2006....
    what am i today? ah yes, wolfman claws and canines gone. paris artist persona creeping back. but i'm still stuck here in shanghai, dreaming of sleepless seattle. sophie's now with a lesbian partner in nyc. she posted some pics at flickr, and she's more radiant and beautiful than ever. i'd like to woo her back, but i don't want to wreck her obviously more satisfying relationship. maybe i'll meet another sophie in the gutters of new delhi or the barrios of sao paolo, if not along my original seine river. my comic book is about a highlander-like superhero who can't die, looks like adrian paul with japanese eyes, but with a personality split seven ways. more details later, gingersoul. zillion-volt storms still wreaking havoc on my memory synapses.
  • momsrock said on Nov 10, 2006....

    lol!!! I just haven't been the same after reading the Discovery Channel post!!

  • missb said on Nov 10, 2006....

    Ginger,

    My ideal date would be a nice dinner (no fancy restaurant, hate them), the cinema and afterwards, have a drink or two at a small cozy pub and hit the clubs. That's for a first date.

    But my really ideal date involved weekend at a cozy cabin somewhere. Kinda like momsrock. Oh god...i could just imagine it :)

    Cheers!

  • silverwhisper said on Nov 10, 2006....
    you know, as i think about this, i think that a dream date is so totally dependent upon who you're w/, the timing, the way you interact, etc., that it would be impossible to describe w/out some kind of parameters to help narrow things.

    ed
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    Moms......good, we need to be open to new enlightments....:-)

    .i bet Scaly must be proud of himself (and he should..)......sneaking in a girl's mind ....lol

     

    Missb.....fancy restaurant are my guilty indulgence....for fancy i don't mean necessarily fancy ambience and snobby waiters but the food.....never experience before food, good food do leads to good mood and good mood lifts the heart and....so.....lol

    Ed.....yes, that is the primary starting point....no matter where and what you do if your date is a right one is great anyway....and i agree that we tailor our preference also based on our date interaction with us but i think you can have a prototype of your perfect first date....and trying to achieve it with some luck...practice makes perfect...lol

     

  • silverwhisper said on Nov 10, 2006....
    but...i sucked at dating! 

    like you, i'm big on good restaurants.  good food, good companionship, talking...i guess those are the things i would want in a perfect date.  everything else is just so many details, if you ask me.

    ed
  • secretlife said on Nov 10, 2006....
    i've been a system's analyst too long-  i read your comment ed, and all i could think is - but the devil lies in the details!!! 
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    Ed, my perfect first date would absolutely combine the 3 ingredients you talk about.

    Even though my ex and I met in a disco and the next mornign we had an appointmento go to the beach together, i consider our official first date the one we had that same night.......because we went out for dinner in this great restaurant  facing the same beach.....i still remember..fresh shrimps sprinkled with lemon, porchetto sardo (a very small baby pig fed with food mixed with local herb, specially mirto, a kind of aromatic herb you find only in the Sardinia island) and cooked slowly for hours on an open fire. Music bread (its a very flat, crunchy and saltless kind of bread so thin it breaks easily,  its a specialty of  Sardinia...it can last for weeks...) and 2 bottles of their great red Sardinia wine..so strong....

    If i still rememebr these details this much it means that it has been a great dinner and a great date! Duhhhh...i married that guy! lol 

    Only ingredients missing here: great conversation. Our conversation that night has been the most funny ever....with me not speaking much English at that time and him fetching with his Italian....wonders of chemistry....

  • CreativeWoman said on Nov 10, 2006....
    My perfect date would be one where I walked away feeling special.  I would have no expectations of sex other than kissing, but if it happened it would be wonderful.  I want to feel a spark when he looks into my eyes.  I want him to hold my hand.  I want to feel that both his mind and body are there with me.  I want him to captivate me.

    Location is unimportant to me. 

    As far as asking another Soul Caster out goes...

    I would like to have a ride in ALIEN's spaceship so I could see the stars up close.  :-)

    CW
  • silverwhisper said on Nov 10, 2006....
    SL: the sure sign of a woman who's dealt too much w/ coders... :D

    ginger: that, my friend, is b/c you're a foodie.  and everyone knows the best food is local food.  :>

    ed
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    **CW....oh, finally! The first inter -Soulcast dating propose: ok, you, Alien and his spaceship....what a stellar combination.....lets what Alien will answer now...lol 

    Girl, i coudln't agree more about the feeling you want to have...i call it "the butterfly effect"..... i know i am falling in love because when i think about him or i am with him i have a sensation like slitghly shivering, like i have some small butterflies flying in my stomach (no, no, its not dhiarrea.......lol).

    I feel like a tiny gasp in my beating, like when you are on a rolling coaster and your stomac have that tiny sunspension..and then fall back in place....

     

    **Secret...you are so damn right...the devil is the details...and i have a devilish mind sometimes...details are my obsession........ :-)

     

    **Ed, couldn't agree more with you more, dear friend...;-)

  • bullblogg said on Nov 10, 2006....
    i would have to do something exciting....no,no, not that ye dirty minded people!!!...i'd go to a fun fare or a paint shooting game (like laserquest-only with paint guns) and after that a movie-a classic like 'when harry met sally'-im such a romantic!!!!!! ...who would i date here on SC?? well, have i any offers!!!!!!!
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    You are a playful soul, Bull........:-)

    Come on, you dont have to wait to be invited before inviting someone...its just for fun...up to now we have only CW who dared to imagine a kind of date with Alien on his space ship...

    BTW...i find your country simply magic...the the music, the scenery, your history and your castles...your traditions...its one of the place i would like to visit before i die....  do you live in a big city or in the country??

  • missb said on Nov 11, 2006....
    Ginger,
     
    Oh yeah, I'm up for good food. But fancy restaurants make me feel uneasy. I think my nature's too
    wild to be suppressed. I'm loud btw :) But i do go to some nice ones sometimes, but for a first date,
    I tend to get nervous and fancy fine-dining restaurants don't help at all :D
     
    Cheers :)
  • momsrock said on Nov 11, 2006....
    I feel the same way in fancy restaurants, missb.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 11, 2006....

    **Missb.......lol...

    yeah...being nervous at the first date.... do you have some tecnique to relax? I usually keep telling me that is going to be just a normal conversation and my life will not depend by how bad the date will end up...its not like a job interview...

    I say this usually before stepping out of my car  and meeting the guy. It works like a charm. It puts everything in the rigth perspective. Then i dont get nervous anymore...

    **Momsrock...i used to be intimitade when i was younger....now the only problem i have with any kind of restaurant is at the moment to pay. I am so bad at calculating the right amount....still after all these years....in Italy there is not tip because we pay  a service fee included in the price and is fixed. So i got spoiled, you see? lol

     

  • momsrock said on Nov 11, 2006....

    ginger: I wish they would do that here!! How nice would that be!!

  • gingersoul said on Nov 11, 2006....

    Moms...is Scaly still messing up with your mind? LOL

    That truth or dare game has taken a life of its own..too funny even only reading...:-)

  • momsrock said on Nov 11, 2006....
    lol...I keep stopping by the computer every few minutes just to check in and see what everyone is being dared to do! If the amnesia continued, where he wouldn't remember it was me.... I'd be all over him. LOL!!!
  • gingersoul said on Nov 12, 2006....

    Moms!!! Shame on you!!! LOL

    Take advantage of a poor man in this way...too funny..

    i bet he would remember you......lol

  • missb said on Nov 12, 2006....

    momsrock,

    Yeah fancy restaurants can be a bit uncomfortable for first dates, IMO :D

    Ginger,

    Well, I do have a 'mantra'. I'd keep telling myself that I'm cool. Don't always work, though [giggles] :D

     

    Cheers!

     

  • funfreak2k2 said on Nov 12, 2006....
       hi ginger,

    i am starting a discussion about abortiongs in my blog and pls participate in it.

    thank u.
    funfreak2k2
  • gingersoul said on Nov 12, 2006....

    **Funfreak.....I am coming..... than for the invitation....:->

    **Missb...i know, i know..but if we dont cheer up for ourselves who does? lol

  • bullblogg said on Nov 12, 2006....
    ginger- i live in the city, my parents live in the country beside an old church- which is quite pretty- but now it is being renovated-as is so much over here!  do come over and see!!!!
    ok, i would go out with so many of you guys-male and female! i'd bring 'willbrich' to a comdey club in town and i'd bring 'paper' to the theater where
    she could read her works out and i'd bring the rest of you to watch the sun go down on galway bay!!!!!!
  • gingersoul said on Nov 13, 2006....

    Bullblogg......i would love to come, believe me....

    uhmm, Galway bay.....i am going to look on google pictures....

    you are really sweet.....:-)

  • momsrock said on Nov 14, 2006....

    Scaly: LMAO!!!! That is freaking hilarious... I do believe a housecall is in order!

  • momsrock said on Nov 15, 2006....

    lol!!! If he is like most men, he would try to convince her it was for the benefit of the human race and she should be honored to take part in such a worthy cause... I'm sure there are some women who would actually believe it! lol...

     

    Scaly: Is there any chance you are color blind? Blue feet remember.... ; )  And I recently had a mishap with a blood clot...so my left leg is swollen. I'm afraid the weight of it would break your back if I wrapped my legs around you!! lol!!

  • gingersoul said on Nov 16, 2006....

    **Moms..scaly is right, girl...what about this blue foot and swollen leg?....poor blood circulation is not good for many reasons....are you planning to go to a doctor?

    Did you hit your leg, maybe? let us know....hugs

     

    **Scaly, oh ok...that's better....it looked quite odd....i know you are a gentleman...:->

  • momsrock said on Nov 16, 2006....

    Scaly: Yes, you are right... the line is getting quite long...lol... As for my leg, the swelling goes away as long as I keep my feet up for extended periods of time and there is only so much you can do on your back. ; )

     

    Yes, I am ok. We are a sickly bunch here on SC though! lol...The most recent theory is Raynaud's... my blood vessels are constricting and causing all kinds of problems. But I am on all kinds of medicine to dialate my veins to help. As to the underlying cause of Raynaud's... that is still up in the air and it's more of waiting to see what other problems I get to actually diagnose me. On the bright side, my doctor makes me sweat and I don't mind going once/week..:) 

  • rmuxagirl said on Nov 16, 2006....
    Wow after all that...my dream date seems um mild....

    dream date: We go hiking in the mountains, doesn't matter how long just as long as we are in nature.  But we hike to a nice look out point or somewhere to sit and enjoy nature.  We just sit in silence for a little while listening to all the things nature has to say.  And while listening to nature he just reaches over and wraps his arms around me to hold me tight as it gets colder.  Where it goes from there is a secret.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 17, 2006....

    **rmuxagirl.....its a great first date......nature, silence, chemistry and lots of place where to hide.......nice....

    Uhmm, are you sure you are not Scaly's date? Lol

  • rmuxagirl said on Nov 17, 2006....
    Well I'm a good girl ;)  I wouldn't fall for "bettering man kind" experiments lol....would be rather um interesting though
  • gingersoul said on Nov 17, 2006....

    rmuxgirl...oh, i believe so. Very interesting.

    Our Scaly seems always to have secret weapons in his hands....:-p

  • rmuxagirl said on Nov 20, 2006....
    I think so...that's what would make it interesting....you never know what he'll pull out next ;)

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