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I was reading a magazine today and i stumbled in an article debating the pro and the cons of
artificial insemination. I started wondering: if i still had the age for being a suitable candidate for such a thing, if someone would ask me to donate my eggs for generating a child.... would i say yes?
 
As first reaction, i thought yes, why not? Give them, use them, bam, thank you 'Mam.....its not going to be any of my business after that.....show me the money and let me run...
 
Then i kept thinking about it.
 
I had this vision of a child (boy? girl?) with some of my indeniable somatic tracts, maybe my nose or my eyes or the shape of my mouth......something indeniably mine....maybe the sound of the my voice, teh color of my hair....my double rooted toes (its a specific caratheristic of my family from my mother's side)...
A child with some of my psycological traits, mybe with my same inclinatin for drawing and crisswords, maybe with my complete lack of  understanding mathematic, my passion for poetry and chocolate.
 
And i thought: maybe i could do it only if this chidl would be living very far from me so that i will never, ever have the chance to meet him/her.
But then i tought: what if i would be the one who wants to meet him/her? How could i ever find my child?
Would it be of any help knowing i am going to make a dream come true for two other human beings?
 
I truly don't know.....its a difficult scenario....
So i ask you.....beside any ethical judgement, would you do it?
Would you make it possible?
 


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  • secretlife said on Nov 07, 2006....
    You know, I don't think I could do this.
    It would be a very nice thing to do....
    Maybe I'd do it for one of my sisters if they really needed it.
    Or maybe my best friend....
    But to a stranger?  and to know there might be a child out there that was biologically mine?
    I don't think I'd like that much.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 07, 2006....
    Yes, my point....i think it wouldn't feel that odd if i was donating them for a dear friend, a relative....even though being us close it would be so difficult for me to avoid seeing that baby.
    Or, even worst, seeing the baby and not thinking...that baby is mine, look at his/her eyes...look at his/her legs..
    I don't know...
  • SeanRenaud said on Nov 08, 2006....
    I"m a pretty rabid capitalist.  I don't donate.
     
    Anyway with that said yeah I would give up sperm if I were asked.  So long as I wasn't expected to be financially responsible for said potential child I got no problem with it.  If I happen up mini-me and recognize him hypothetically I'd have a conversation with him.  Answer whatever questions he might have then wander off unlikely to play any role in his life other than to say yeah you share some DNA with me.
  • silverwhisper said on Nov 08, 2006....
    i honestly don't know.  it's simply something i never thought about.  i would consider it under the right circumstances, admittedly but as a general rule, no, i don't think i could do it.

    ed
  • the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 08, 2006....
    I could do this, esp. for someone I cared about. Trying to conceive for over half a year was heartache enough for me - I can't imagine having to go through actual infertility treatments, and I would do anything I could to help a friend in that area. We will be done having biological children after this pregnancy, so my eggs would just be sort of "wasted" anyway, you know? Why not help someone if they asked?

    I would also consider surrogacy, but only for a very close friend. I don't think I could do that for anyone else, nice thing to do or not. It would be too difficult.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 08, 2006....
    IO, sorry to hear that.....i had some problems when we decided to have a child....my eggs were , we can say, a little lazy......so i had to give them a well done push with a fertility treatment for 3-4 months.....i can't imagien enduring that stress for all the time you did.....
    What do you mean "after this pregnancy you will be done having biological children?".... so, did yo have a baby or are you still trying?
     
     
  • gingersoul said on Nov 08, 2006....
    Scaly...oh, man..no, i am afraid it wouldn't be a direct deposit, more like a withdrawal...Lol
  • missb said on Nov 08, 2006....
    Hmm, interesting. I never really thought about the answer to this before. I think I'm like you, Ginger. At first I'd thought, no biggie, I could help someone with it. But on a second thought, the child's mine, sort of. So I haven't decided yet :/
     
    But i think I wouldn't be able to really do it. I dunno :/
     
    Cheers ;)
  • the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 08, 2006....
    Sorry I wasn't clear - I'm pregnant with my 2nd child (the first was unplanned, but we hadn't used protection for over a year), and although we think we want three, our last child will be adopted five or six years from now. :) So this will be our last biological child, but maybe not the final addition to our family.
  • lioneljay said on Nov 08, 2006....
    I know that I would have a hard time with the knowledge that there was a specific child out there who owes his or her life to my sperm but whom I cannot ever meet. On the other hand, if there were a legitimate need for sperm that was analogous to blood for transfusions and the whole transaction was completely anonymous, I might go for it. It would certainly be a helluva lot more pleasant than giving blood.
  • momsrock said on Nov 08, 2006....
    I don't think I could do it. I would have a hard time knowing it was my child even though it really isn't my child!! But, I doubt anyone would be asking for mine!! One special needs child and one chronically ill... it wouldn't matter how desperate they were... they wouldn't ask me!! LOL
     
     
    My sisters and I discussed whether or not we would be surrogates for my brother and his wife. I have c-sections, so I wouldn't be the best candidate for that either! Guess I get out of this debate pretty easy and free of guilt!!
  • HalGal said on Nov 08, 2006....
    Having a two year old who is the joy of my life, who amazes me with everyday stuff that I find to be the most unique things in the world I would have to say no.  I guess you could call me selfish but having so much love for someone who is a part of me, I couldn't go through a day knowing there is another human being out there that I would want to love just as much....  I would give someone a kidney if they needed it but I just couldn't give up a connection to my heart and soul... 
  • quidnunc said on Nov 08, 2006....
    i don't think i will be disposed to do it. perhaps under certain very exceptional circumstances...perhaps...
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Nov 08, 2006....
    My mother was emotionally coerced into carrying a baby for my uncle, brother of my dad.  A long story.  Our youngest Angel, I´ll call him turned out to be autistic.  My aunt who loves him more than the world died 3 years ago.  My uncle is married to a new lady, who is also somewhat of  a family already---a generous woman, but they have their own 2 little children now.  My brothers and I, for I still have two, have made plans to care for him.  My mom still pines for him.  And awaits the moment when they can be together.

    I guess you know my stand dearest Ginger....now as a mother I hurt for my mother more.
  • Zayda said on Nov 08, 2006....
    I would donate my eggs to a family member or a close friend in a heartbeat.  I would probably be more hesitant to donate them to a stranger. 


  • aquaryhun said on Nov 09, 2006....
    Ok well we all are thinking about ourselves in this situation...Anyone thinking about the impact on the child???  They are the product of a sperm or egg donation, having being created because someone who can't neccessarily have children but WANTS one for whatever reason.  Why can't people accept their lot and if they aren't meant to have children stop creating them in methods that may not be ideal to the psychological /physical welfare of the kid....I'm not sure a lot of research has been done on how this impacts the child, the laws surrounding how information on donors is presented or hidden from parties involved, however today with the ever increasing advances in technology involved in creating children for couples who can't / choose not to have their own kids, the future could be scary for the new human beings that people are choosing to create in a not so natural manner.
  • gingersoul said on Nov 09, 2006....

    SeanRenaud....those are strong affermations....maybe its because you are still young and you didn't have fathered yet?

    Silver...yeah, in general it seems so easy to answer but when we go to think about it in personal terms...

    Missb.....again, the first reaction leaves room to further considerations...

    Lionel..oh yeah...for you guys it would be a lot more fun than giving blood....you have only to jerk off in a cup....Lol.... for us women it would a littel different... 

    Momsrock...yes, you are out of the discussion already, girl...Lol

    Halgal....yes, i understand perfectly...being a mother...it makes everything different...and i would donate a kidney in a heartbeat if necessary...but i think its a different feeling involved here

    Quid...honest answer, very honest.....

    Zayda...yes, i agree

    Paper.....so sorry to hear about it.....you say your mom has been "coerced'? How emotionally heavy it must have been for all your family....how old is your Angel? And how your mother is feeling? I guess she is seeing him pretty often....how tight the bond still is....amazing family story..thanks for sharing....:-)

     

    Aqua...well...you open a different chapter here....i dont think the child would have a particular emotional issue different from a child who would have been adopted...it will up to the sensitivity and love of  his/her parents at that point...when this child will grow up he/she might have question ....he/she might want to know his/her real mother or father..

    Talking about ethical issue......the reason why people might want to have babies in thsi way doesn't necessarily affect the well being of the baby. You are going to be a bad parent not matter the way you became one. Natural way or artificial one.

  • raft said on Nov 09, 2006....
    I don't think so. The only reason I would do that is if I was desperate enough money-wise. At that point, I would be selling blood before my sperm. To think there's a child out there that's mine (partly anyways) and I'm not supporting or parenting..
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....
    Raft...yes, its a tough thought.....it could help knowing the family in which your baby is going to grow....and leave it there....but i am afraid my curiosity would lead me soon or after to check with them about him/her.....i couldn't avoid to feel responsible for that life, i guess......
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Nov 10, 2006....
    Thanks Ginger, He is 25 yrs. old now  and in a lot of ways very independent.  He was sent to a special school...And I guess it was a blessing in disguise that my uncle and aunt adopted him because my parents couldn´t have lavished as much as they did for theraphy and enormous fees of the special school.  Angel is very gifted but would need a guardian to exist in daily life.

    We are a big tight family.  My day had 9 siblings! So you could imagine, counting the in-laws and the grandchildren we are huge in numbers.  There were so many get togethers the whole year through, where appearance is a MUST!  So yeah, she saw him quite a lot from an emotional distance.  In hindsight, I admire her terribly more.

    = )joey
  • bullblogg said on Nov 10, 2006....
    i really don't know if i could- maybe for family- yes,then i read papers reply and then i think ,no.....
    so i really don't think i could-selfish of me...maybe?
  • gingersoul said on Nov 10, 2006....

    Dear Joey,

    my dad had 10 between brothers and sisters.My mom only one brother.

    Sad thing is my dad ended up alienating almost every siblings for a reason or another one and we never enjoyied the big family feeling that i might have like. The only relative i am really close is my uncle Fulvio, the youngest brother of my dad. He is a great guy. 

    I admire your mom too....she is an incredible strong woman....imagine how many times she must have felt the insticnt to hold him, kiss him and tell him the truth....admirable indeed....

     

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~HUGS~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

  • raft said on Nov 10, 2006....
    Ginger: You've pretty much hit it on the head for me. Then again I'm a first child. Responsability is sort of ingrained.

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