• anonymous said on Jun 22, 2006....

  I'd be pissed that he did it secretly. Actually I'd be beyond pissed.

• rocknchick00 said on Jun 22, 2006....

  Wow! If it was me, I would be questioning how much I could trust a man who would do this without asking. For 2 people who agree to do this, that is great, as long as the info is protected and/or destroyed. But there's something very wrong with him stealing your privacy and dignity like that, even if he only planned to view it himself. With something that important, there has to be informed consent. I'd have a serious talk with him and decide what the future should hold if it was me. Good luck.

• lidstrom82 said on Jun 22, 2006....

  celestialspace, I've commented on something similar on other blogs, and here's the deal: porn is a dangerous thing. It might seem like a harmless outlet for guys (and sometimes girls) to masturbate and let off some steam, enjoy pleasure without STDs of pregnancy, or even to satisfy natural urges secretly from traditional/religious restriction. But the problem is that porn shows off people in sexy way for a thrill - it's not a real relationship, it's not a living, breathing person with feelings. It's a magazine page. Or a sex video. Or Internet pages. Sex to you is sharing pleasure with your bf. I'm willing to bet that he is more hot for you because of the porn. That increased drive may seem fun at first, but at the expense of displaying your body for anyone to see? The worst part about porn is that it makes a guy selfish. Either he will respect women LESS because he is satisfying himself with them on a page, without arguments or other inconvenient things - like a committed relationship. Men are visual too, and favorite porn pics/videos eventually get burned into their heads. And when they have that idea as "the ideal sex" in their head, they will compare any real partners they have. Your bf seems to have a thing for porn. If it has made him film you without your permission, to enjoy for himself, THAT is inconsiderate of you, selfish for him, and violates trust. This IS a big problem. After all, it shows there's something about real sex with you that he isn't getting. Why else would he film it and masturbate to it? It seems apparent that porn is a higher priority to him than your trust or your love. Now that he's done that, he could make copies of the tape, give it to friends, or use it as leverage against you if there's a messy breakup. I'm not trying to scare you, but there are stories of men who could not have sex with their wives unless there was a porno mag on the pillow next to them - the porn addiction was so bad, the man couldn't climax because of his wife - it had to come from porn. It's heartbreaking that such a beautiful thing as sex was perverted into an airbrushed photo. Don't let him convince you that you should be flattered that he's turned on to your body on video. He lied by doing it without asking. He is enjoying you when you're not enjoying him. And that's not good. He's got bad habits that could destroy any marriage he's in, for life. I can't tell you exactly what to do in this situation, but he betrayed your trust and you're upset at what he did. If you leave it alone, it will only get worse. Check yourself and what you believe about trust and sex outside of marriage, and stay strong with that. Porn is not as harmless as it seems, and it's not right that you on video is just as fun (maybe more fun) for him as you in person.

• anonymous said on Jun 22, 2006....

  I personally have found watching the odd bit of porn with my partner quite stimulating- for both of us......We filmed ourselves on more than one occasion- it enhanced our relationship and I definitely don't regret any of it. we've been together for 15 years now and have 2 children together- we still have an extremely active sex-life. Filming you without your consent is very dubious- he would seem that he doesnt appear to have much respect for you as an individual??? What to do about it would depend on who you are? If you intend to remain in this relationship then you need to confront him and address the situation- it doesn't automatically follow that he would use the film for any other purpose other than his own gratification but there is always the chance that he may- if you feel able then turn the tables on him and film him in some extremely uncompromising situations- ones he really wouldn't want seen by any one else......? Then again how do you know it hasn't been put out over the Internet already??????How well do you know this man????obviously not as well as you thought?

• silverwhisper said on Jul 01, 2006....

  celestialspace: your boyfriend violated you by recording you. what he's done is completely unacceptable. nab the tapes and keep them for yourself. and i recommend confronting him about it, immediately. ed

• mysterious said on Jul 25, 2006....

  Yes, it would be advisable to talk it over with him, like what's going through his head, etc. Mind you, in my opinion, he should have asked for your consent in the first place and whether it's agreeable to your or not is all up to you. For me, it's a big NO-NO, main reason because of the "leakage" aspect of such things through tapes, internet, etc. Trust between the two of you is a big factor.

• WeirdWorld said on Jul 27, 2006....

  I havnet read your blog, i am here for a reason. I am sorry that i abused you, actually we ended up being at cross-purposes. You were talking about something else and i was talking about something else. The thing is that 7/11 is the day when a series of bomb blasts happened in my country, and i didnt know what 7-11 is for you, anyways when i did try to search on the net, it all came to the blasts only.So i hope you understand what i wrote, it hurts my feelings also, my people dying is not something i like. And it was Islamic mitliants only, no one else who caused the blasts. And i am really sorry for writing the last message to you, I AM NOT SORRY ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE I WROTE TO YOU. We both agree to disagree, but do that atleast with your eyes open and not shut(and prejuiced). And please dont try to belittle my country or my religion, cause i dont know yours(religion) but i know a lot of history, of religions included.But one thing you sure dont know anything about mine. I dont want you for a friend i rather prefer you as an enemy cause i sure as hell i hate you, but i was wrong and i am saying sorry. I put a "i am sorry" addressed to you, but your dear friend TheNakedProfessor deleted it. So i thought i would say it personally.

• celestialspace2001 said on Jul 28, 2006....

  I'm Catholic. I confess everything on Sunday. I start all over again on Monday. I know that you believe in reincarnation so I hope that next time you come back to this world it's as nospace's mate. His speech was inspirational, defending the rights of the individual in this world. What on EARTH do you have against that? You should be rushing over to join us, not staying in your secure little place and bashing America just because you're too scared to help us protect the rights of individuals. That would totally screw up India's social system, wouldn't it?

• celestialspace2001 said on Jul 28, 2006....

  By "his speech" I meant The Naked Professor, of course, not noplace, who only whined and insulted. Caste not, and ye shall not be caste. By the way, I'm considered a very sexy redhead and I want to make love to The Naked Professor. Yoo hoo........Professor?

• nospace said on Jul 28, 2006....

  What your BF is doing is probably illegal... My heart goes out to your undeserved expoitation... That being said... TNP only defended the rights of those he agreed with...that's what I had against that. I believe in protecting the rights of all individuals, even those I don't agree with, such as TNP...He had every right to say what he did, and even block me; I don't care. But it is also my right to defend myself. My only problem is the "with us or against us mentality" being displayed. (BTW, I love the US; check my blog "America the beautiful" from a while back...basically says that alot of positives about the US get lost in the heat of the moment on this site...) Anyhoo.... Hope your cituation with your BF resolves to your satisfaction, so you and the prof can get to makin' babies... peace and love... (ps: its great to hear about someone who loves their feiry, red hair...)

• hotaka said on Jul 29, 2006....

  I once jokingly suggested to my girlfriend that we do the same thing, knowing full well she would never go along with it. Basically, I am very turned on by her body, and the rest of her as well. I love being close to her and the intimacy that leads to love making, and everything right through to when she dozes off to sleep in my arms. But I think it's just that I love everything about being with her that made me think of the idea. In the end, no video or photographs would ever be able to capture the feeling of being together with her. I guess that's why porn doesn't interest me. Why look at other people having sex? It can not ever compare to the feeling of being with the one you love. It's like looking at pictures of food when you are really hungry for some home cooking. The only positive thing I can say about this is that at least it was videos of you and not someone else. But in your place I would certainly feel robbed of a very private and intimate moment. Something must be said to let him know how you feel.

• EliteFilth said on Sep 16, 2008....

  What he's doing can be considered an 'invasion of privacy' and a whole host of other things if you so wish to go and make that call to police.
  However bear in mind they dont really care, they think its funny and as usual will probably ask to see the tape.
  I cant say I have ever taken candid shots, as I have always asked my sexual partners if thats ok. Most have said thats fine and I've always given them a copy of the pictures.

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