I am hopelessly clueless when it comes to being adventurous in the bedroom!!!!!  Not that I had a problem getting pregnant!  But I really could use some ideas on what things to do that or how I could readjust my thinking to be somewhat adventurous with my husband.  I've listened to all the things he's wanted and I've learned to be spontaneous about doing certain things for him...but I can't help feeling like I want to be exciting and *active* during our interludes to where I am having mind-numbing sex.  It gets me going to see movies where people obviously have that passion.  I know my hubby and I had that sort of passion before we were married and in a sexual relationship.  When we first ventured into the sexual realm after dating for several years, we were like rabbits!!!!!!!!!!!!  Granted, it tapered off some because of having our daughter, but when we do make love I find that I want to have more energy and go crazy moving around in bed.  Does that sound funny?  Maybe I'm thinking of only a fantasy.  But to me, I envision love making as somewhat in between cuddling and having that raw passion where we both can't keep our hands off of each other.  Honestly, it is so subdued with that for us.  I please him, and then he pleases me.  Then we have intercourse and that's it.  We both end up satisfied, feel like we were able to spend quality time together and all, but I can't help that there is something we are missing.  Am I wrong?  I don't even know *what* it is I want.  I have had several inhibitions in sex from the getgo, and have learned to let those drop, one by one.  That's helped in letting me enjoy myself.  I don't know what else I need to do.  My hubby talks about wanting me to talk dirty to him and try to initiate etc. and I just am sometimes at a loss on how to go about it all.  Am I pathetic?