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What Does Adversity Do To you?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil,without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning! to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.

The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity. ..........boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot,it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
(from a forwarded e-mail)


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  • rhmagee said on Oct 30, 2006....
    I am more like a steam turbine! :-)
  • brown_sagittarius said on Oct 30, 2006....
    Hmmm...small turbine...so it will fit to the pot.... -) Thanks for dropping by Mr. Magee.
  • rhmagee said on Oct 30, 2006....
    No, a rather large one that would never hope to fit into some smaller pot luck. And by the way your welcome. )
  • gingersoul said on Oct 30, 2006....
    Brown......this is really an interesting post.....
    Recently I am thinking about the adversities in my life a lot....
    I thought for some time that they indeed broke my spirit and my heart....i let myself go too much  and cried over my past life too many tears....
    I thought it was the end of my strenght and i had become a carrot..soft and weak...
    Then even more adversities poured on my head....
    But when I met an old friend of mine few days ago...he looked at me and hold my hands and softly told me.
    "You are still strong as a mountain and soft as a feather. You didn't change that much. You became more woman, more full of your feminine spirit. I admire you for this".
     
    So, if i have to believe my friend... i am the coffee bean.
     
    I am glad....because i love coffee.....:-)
  • secretlife said on Oct 30, 2006....
    ahh ginger -i think so often i am the carrot........soft and weak and one day i will just melt away .....having turned to pure liquid at last.  But of course then everyone will say, no secret, you are strong...
     
    i don't know if it is possible for anyone to know how we feel.  sometimes we feel the carrot, other tiems the egg....when all the while, we wish we could always be the coffee....
     
  • missb said on Oct 30, 2006....
    Hmm...actually I don't think I know which one I am.
     
    Some would think I'm like the carrot, came in strong but wilt after hardships.
     
    Some would think I'm like the coffee bean for changing things.
     
    I need to think about this more about myself. So, thanks Brown :)
     
    Cheers!
  • Lioness said on Oct 31, 2006....
    Hi! Wow, what a post, it makes me think of  how my life has been through the years. Life teaches us many lessons. Sometimes we laugh, sometimes we cry. I would like to think that I am like the egg, slowly getting strong in times of trials. A person once told me, if she were in my situation, she'd give up. Everybody feels pity hearing this and that situation. But I don't take those comments as a downfall, I take it as a challenge to show them that "I can". Cool post Brown..
  • gingersoul said on Oct 31, 2006....

    Secret..........for how i perceive you..... yes, you migth be a soft carrot on the outside but i do believe yo have an iron core  that support this fluctuating carrot shape...and as you say, some day we are carrots, some other day we are coffee beans......at the end it's the way we react to the boiling water that life poures over our head that matters....today, i feel more an egg, for istance.......

    But remember...carrots are absolutely necessary for a perfect Italian minestrone...LOL

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