I'm not out to bash the overweight, but I am talking about how I have to see my husband put on the weight needlessly each day, complaining he can't lose weight, when all he has to do is make some reasonable life-changes that he's too lazy to do!
When I first met him, he was chubby, but not too bad. Even now he's not grossly large--but he complains about how his existing clothes are tight and how he feels fat. He's got no real motivation to work out at the gym our homeowner's association sponsors free to residents, and he doesn't keep himself from eating extra portions of the food he finds satisfying. It's maddening sometimes to see him on this roller-coaster of pain. I feel badly for him, but tell him that I would like both of us to go through this together and start getting both our bodies in fit condition. I am not a skinny rail, but I do take care of myself and am always striving to just shed some extra loose skin as a result from having our daughter a few years ago. I try to eat healthier so it makes him want to eat better, but while he even gets me healthy foods, he doesn't really respond likewise for his own habits.
Lately I've been thinking how much nicer it would be to have him in bed as a slimmer, more muscular man. Maybe it would make me more adventurous to see him really take care of his body and have him impress me. Now it's more like "what you see is what you get." It's not fair that I work hard to get myself to look the way I want to project myself to him and others, yet he doesn't two whits about how other people thing about him, nor does he try to keep his clothes clean or wrinkle free in public. So many times we'll go somewhere and he'll really need his shirt ironed but says it's ok just as it is. Or he'll have some holes in a shirt but he wants to wear THAT SHIRT because he likes it--even though he's got several more that are clean and fresh looking. I give up sometimes, I really do. Living with a man can make a woman crazy!
