I came to a very grim realization the other day. I don't like my daughter very much. Yes, I lLOVE her immensely. Yes, I think she's beautiful phsyically. Yes, we have a few nice moments.
However, with a sense of dread, I realized that she is NOT a nice person. In fact, she borders on being exactly like my ex. She is mean to most people, including her few "friends". She has no compassion for other people. We saw a horrific car crash the other day. I was upset , and her direct quote was "who gives a shit?". (Yes, she's twelve years old.) I don't know what to do. Every day I see more and more of my ex in her. I still love her dearly, but she is not a likeable person. I try very,very, hard. I am overly nice to her, yet she continues to amaze me with how mean she is to me and everyone around her. I try to tell myself she is a pre teen and they can be pretty harsh to their moms, but she is mean to EVERYONE. I was horrified by how she treated my mother the other day. I can't take her to counseling, because my divorce decree says both parties must agree to counseling, and my ex won't agree. Does anyone have any advice? I am so devastated!!!