Recently I came under fire by some SoulCasters.
I went to dance today and while warming up I found those comments creeping out of my computer and into the studio. I wanted to pull my ankle up to my head but found myself busy trying to push out all thoughts about writing and SoulCast. “Why am I even thinking about this? What am I, obsessed? This is ridiculous!” Finally, as we started the routine, there was no more room for SoulCast critics where double turns are involved.
It did make me question what the hell I was doing this for. In the beginning it was supposed to be about the money, but it’s not lucrative. Clearly I’m not winning any popularity contests. So why should I put myself out there, especially if it’s going to come back and bite me this way? And I was reminded of this:
“…know this is not what you believed it would be. Feel your mistake like a steel-toe o the chest.
Decide, anyway, not to cower. Put your mind to it.
You will do this and you will be good at it. You will give up to the outside everything on your inside. You will reverse your skin like a sweater pulled over your head.
You will show her, them, all of them, every last one of them how human you are. You will force them to see that you are exactly the same. You will.”
-Pretty Little Dirty by Amanda Boyden
What I endured was a part of the price you pay for broadcasting your soul on SoulCast. If you write about intimate parts of yourself and your life so that people will know the real you, expect that someone will assume they can tell if you’re a bad person too. It doesn’t make them anywhere close to right, but they have the right to their opinion. After all, if you came here to share, it’s implied that the sharing goes BOTH ways. So I accept. I will continue to put myself out there and be called names because of what I want out of the bigger picture: for what it means to be a writer and a person.
MikoFabulous posted on Oct 03, 2006
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aeschylus said on Oct 03, 2006....
Miko ...
You're doing fine. I looked at your blog and didn't see what you were referring to, but one thing you have to keep in mind is that there are probably over 20,000 soulcast members out there, all supposedly fighting for some sort of "top spot." Just take the attitude you are doing and hang in there.
Unfortunately, there are one or two twits out there with multiple personas playing a stupid game. Your blog is your blog. Your space, not theirs. Block or delete as you see fit, especially when it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Personally, I generally delete my own posts a week or two after putting them out there just because I don't like the clutter.
I also looked at your posts' content. You're evolving. Just figure out what works for you.
aeschylus
bai ming sheng
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sunsethue said on Oct 03, 2006....
hey girl... just want to tell you that it is not you or greendischarge that made me go into hibernation... it's something that is happening in my real life... something i am still learning to deal with... it's kinda hard and painful so i had to retreat... just for awhile... to heal...
i don't let these insensitive bloggers affect me... they are not that important to affect me... and i am not a cry-baby... i am dealing with something and that takes time... time away from blogging since this is not my whole life... keep your cool... don't fight with them coz that is exactly what they want... you are bigger than those morons... just write... do your thing... i am just around...
take care...
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silverwhisper said on Oct 03, 2006....
miko: ignore 'em. their comments only have as much power as you choose to give them.
ed
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MikoFabulous said on Oct 03, 2006....
Aeschylus: The funniest part is that some of these attacks were launched on other people's blogs. They were directed at my comments, what I write about and about me as a person.
Btw - I move some of my uninteresting blogs to "draft" so that I still have them but only my favorite posts remain viewable as part of the collection that represents my work as a writer.
Sunsethue: I am really sorry to hear that things have taken a turn for the worse. I really thought you were discouraged. I never thought you were a cry-baby. I figured that your condition might have worsened and that if people were aggrivating you, you wouldn't want to blog anymore. I mean why stress at a time like this? I just felt bad. But I hope you're able to take care of things and that when you come back I'll be just as fearless and still publishing my mind's outpourings! In the meantime I will be thinking of you.
Ed: I know that's what they want: for me to get upset, feel hurt, take it personally, LET IT GET TO ME. I guess I'm exposing my cryptonite by admitting that I'm really (over) sensitive. It's a good and bad thing to be: it makes you really caring towards other people but also too caring of other people's opinions. I think it's important to seperate what you put on the page (or rather screen) from who you are in your body, in your bed, in the morning ~ i.e. the person you are when you wake up every morning.
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aeschylus said on Oct 03, 2006....
I agree silverwhisper ...
Unfortunately, some comments turn to action and actions can affect "in real life" ... in addition to safety, the expenses that can be incurred. And I am personally dealing with that problem right now. I don't appreciate the safety issues, but I also don't appreciate the added expenses and the compromise of my personal business that had NEVER been public.
It's one thing to be a general irritant doling out ridiculous insults. Quite another to distribute information that doesn't belong on a public forum (especially anonymous as SoulCast is), and wasn't obtained via a publicly posted means, under the guise of a "professional."
And the reason for my signature to remind people ...
aeschylus
bai ming sheng
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silverwhisper said on Oct 03, 2006....
miko, it's important to put people's comments in the right context. you wouldn't take advise on personal hygiene from a homeless person, would you?
ed
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missb said on Oct 03, 2006....
You're on the honeymoon phase, dear :)
I was too. But it's just bad that you also got to know some of the bad people. Just ignore them. Soulcast is just like real life for me. Some people get along, some don't. And there's always bad people. That's what makes life and Soulcast colorful :)
Keep writing!
Cheers ;)
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GreenDischarge said on Oct 03, 2006....
Waahhh, mike-unfabulous. Oversensitive is an understatement, you poor pathetic thing. Give me power; block me. I will not go away.
I only criticized your cry-baby post about being removed from the featured page. What makes you think you are special. You are nothing. If you were something, you would have a thicker skin. Go kiss some more asses. And please block me, lemming.
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secretlife said on Oct 03, 2006....
miko
i'm feeling some of the same things you are.
if you open yourself up, which i'm sure for most of us was part of the draw here, then you expose yourself to criticism and perhaps judgements.
It's really ok though.
You're strong and you're smart.
Did your mom tell you to 'consider the source?'....that's what i do.
I admit i ignore an awful lot.
Because who has time for such small things? such small minds?
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MikoFabulous said on Oct 03, 2006....
Yeah Ed, I like the metaphor. Good one!
MissB: I've always found, in real life, that I'm one of the those people you either really like or can't stand. There are very few that stand in the middle ground. If the only thing you can say about me is that I'm just 'nice' - I regret that I haven't exuded anything about myself at all. Even a negative adjective beats plain, old 'nice'.
Secretlife: The majority of people aren't critical and rude, maybe because they wouldn't enjoy the same fate either, but I agree there will always by those people.
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gingersoul said on Oct 03, 2006....
Miko,
face it.....SC is made of people and not everybody gets along.
i am having one of this subtly unnerving experience right now. i dont' say with who and why.
I just take it as it comes.
Think, frictions like this happen in real life too...so why not here? Here is just more evident because it's easier to be rude and craving for spotlight when all you have to do is writing and then move over. The primadonna type dont even take the time to tell you why he/she is treating you in that way...the rude type let you know it too well...
But I know the people i like and appreciate.
The others..well, i let them do what they like.
I don't have time for primadonna.
So you just filter who you like and forget the ones you don't like.
There is a lot of people who likes you, it seems.....:-)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~HUG~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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blueyedtiger said on Oct 03, 2006....
Mik, I must apologize for the way I responded as well... The comment I had made was not intended for any specific person, and I admit it was probably a little rude, but its the truth. Every one does need a good bit of urging to get where they need to be in life. A slap in the face just makes someone jump away from what they are currently thinking about, and wonder why they were hit.
Please accept my apologies.
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MikoFabulous said on Oct 03, 2006....
Gingersoul: Life's like that, you can't get along with everyone. I just wanted to put myself out there and say: you know what, you may not like me now, but I'm going to keep on writing and eventually you'll see that you and I are not so different. We're all just human.
Blueyedtiger: I think it was unfortunate that you replied right after GreenDischarge so it sounded like you were agreeing with his disses against other people. Now I see what you were trying to say and I think it's an excellent point, so peace man.
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SoulCastMistress said on Oct 03, 2006....
miko...
mwaahhh!!!
*hugs*
SCM
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sigroid75 said on Oct 04, 2006....
yes i think it is envy.
i posted about water or coke, sharing to people
what i learned about coke from the internet,
but it turned out i was called lame and an
adsense whore.
i was also called a faggot and some kind of weirdo.
hahaha oh well, life's like that. you can't please
everybody, no matter how pleasing u are.
take care dear.:-)
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blueyedtiger said on Oct 04, 2006....
Isnt there a way to delete a comment someone has made on one of your own posts?
From Sigroid75...
i was also called a faggot and some kind of weirdo.
hahaha oh well, life's like that. you can't please
everybody, no matter how pleasing u are
If you really are hurt by that then delete the comment....
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blueyedtiger said on Oct 04, 2006....
Isnt there a way to delete a comment someone has made on one of your own posts?
From Sigroid75...
i was also called a faggot and some kind of weirdo.
hahaha oh well, life's like that. you can't please
everybody, no matter how pleasing u are
If you really are hurt by that then delete the comment....
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blueyedtiger said on Oct 04, 2006....
Isnt there a way to delete a comment someone has made on one of your own posts?
From Sigroid75...
i was also called a faggot and some kind of weirdo.
hahaha oh well, life's like that. you can't please
everybody, no matter how pleasing u are
If you really are hurt by that then delete the comment....
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blueyedtiger said on Oct 04, 2006....
Whoops.... sorry -.-
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aeschylus said on Oct 04, 2006....
Miko ... and those following this thread ...
Unfortunately I had to do a bit of research of my own on this subject the past week. I'm like everyone else, I like to pull in and not have to see or deal with stuff. Then circumstances have a tendency to force you to look at stuff you don't want to see.
So I spent the past few days hassling with company execs and government bureacracies ... Yuck ... but I did manage to educate myself a bit more. Without babbling on too much, here's a good link in case you want to expand your peripheral vision a bit, just in case you need to make sure you are a bit safer online. It's easy to forget how vulnerable you might be when you get involved in a project or a goal.
I started the research at the advice of a friend who told me to read the new law that went into effect in January 2006 (signed by the twig) called H.R. 3402. I'll let y'all do your own google (or whatever engine you use) on that.
I actually talked to the office of the Rep who initially (?) sponsored the bill, and to the Judiciary Committee office (again, YUCK, politicians). Their excuse is that the bill is now law, they don't have to explain it, go to the Attorney General's office. I'm scheduled to talk to them tomorrow. If that conversation is interesting at all, I'll post the TTY transcript.
But for the purpose of this discussion, here's a good link to get an overview:
Cyberbullying on the Internet
Hope you take a look at it.
aeschylus
bai ming sheng
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GreenDischarge said on Oct 05, 2006....
*POOF*
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blueyedtiger said on Oct 05, 2006....
I cannot believe that someone would actually go through all that trouble to label someone who is a "cyber bully".
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