• gingersoul said on Nov 07, 2009....

  Fallyn......not all the men are able to express their love through poems and flowers, music and romantic gestures...
  
  My ex husband was one of them....he was extremely passionate and we had wonderful sexual chemistry but he never dedicated me one single poetry if not those boring Hallmarks cards..
  
  Yes, he never forgot one single Valentine Day and i always had my long stem red roses and chocolate boxes...he never forgot one single b-day or our wedding anniversary..
  
  Don't get me wrong...we had tons of romantic moments, and impromptu expression of passion.... 
  
  But generally he was expressing his love in other ways....working hard, building or fixing things for me, taking some decisions instead of others, working around the house, helping me with my flowers beds...stuff like this.....
  
  When we went to counseling before the divorce the guy told us that we had two completely different ways to express our love to each other: he was a Doer, i was a Talker. And we hadn't evidently found a way to mingle them. 
  
  So if love is there, Fallyn, learn his way to love you and don't feel that he doesn't give you flowers because you don't ignite a fire in him...
  
  Just because he doesn't recite Shakespeare under the moonlight it doesn't mean he doesn't feel that fire......
  
  
  

• Mr.Strange said on Nov 07, 2009....

  Stars are fun, and inspiring.
  
  Astrology in the idea of fortune telling dates back to the Greeks, The stars have shifted many times over since then.  I wouldn't worry about that stuff.
  
  Friendships can last, Love lasts, sex...well I think as time goes on what were looking for changes.
  
  It's usually a question of motivation and setting down terms that are easy to live with.
  
  Me and Finn...we had rules and restrictions at this point.  We just live our lives, work together when we can, and not worry so much about it.
  
  The things I really like is active things with her.
  We do Calisthenics, Tennis, Jogs, Walks, Yoga, Chanting, Singing, Dancing...and of course random physical acts of love.
  
  When you get to place where you can just be yourself and your partner can be themselves.  Knowing as time goes things change, and you just enjoy the ride together.  It's a wonderful thing.
  
  Ginger, as for being a Talker and a Doer...I smell quack all over that.  quack.
  
  We as people have so many ways of doing things.  In matters of love, we should always remember that nothing in this life is permanent.  To kiss loves sweet lips is pleasure incarnate, why not simply enjoy the moments?
  
  I think of love in my life as an always open contract.  If I come to that point where I truly love someone in all aspects of that word.  They will forever hold that piece of me, and hence can have some time with the physical me any time they ask.
  

• Fallyn said on Nov 07, 2009....

  ginger... the problem isn't that he hasn't  or can't....it's actually something he does do... and has talked about....and when we weren't together.... i've seen him do for other women.
  it's that he doesn't for ME. ....
  
  mr. strange.... i wasn't even talking about the typical stuff in particular..... just the romantic gestures in general.... the little kisses and a random touch...... etc.
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 07, 2009....

  perhaps he's feeling pressure knowing you'd like those expressions of love?  Sometimes the expectation to provide them kills the inspiration to give them.  He does know that you would like to have them, right?  In any case, maybe some space for him would be all it takes.

• queenparanoia said on Nov 07, 2009....

  again all ic ould say is... just let him love you the way he knows... at least he loves you... appreciate that love... :-)

• Fallyn said on Nov 07, 2009....

  uni..... you have no idea how ridiculously horrible the last few days have been.....
  
  i'm better now.
  completely.
  
  
  
  
  queeni.... good advice..... *sigh*
  

• Hegemone said 12 days ago....

  Well, since I'm not much for pondering this kind of stuff, I have to admit, I'd be confused as all get out too.  I guess that's why you have to pick and choose what you'll believe, and what is a crock.  Good luck though, I hope you're able to figure something out one way or the other.

• cuppajava said 12 days ago....

  the funny thing about star signs is this - why can they be right on certain days of the week and not others ?

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