She is just the sweetest girl.
At barely 21, she has a job, a full paid car, an apartment and after an engagement of two years she got married few months ago.
Let me tell you, she scares the hell out of me.
I can't imagine being this "productive" in such a short period of time.
I mean.......at times i would yell at her:
"Are you ever going to have some serious fun in your life?"
Ask her stuff like:
"Where do you forget to park your car last night?"
"Did your girlfriend called at 3 in the morning and come to pick you up fro a wild drive in the city?
"Did you ever swim naked under the full moon?"
"Did you kiss the boy at 5 pm and that other one at dinner time? And both are friends and both are going to be pissed off at you?
Stuff like that, you know.....I mean, just few of the things i was doing at her age......;-)
She didn't do anything of the above.
She comes to work each day with a smile on her face. The first to arrive, the last to leave. She works hard and good. She leaves each day at the same time to have lunch with his newly wed hubby and she never stays too much at the phone with him during work. She wouldn't feel right doing it.
Her brand new hubby is only 2 years years older than her, half owner of a small construction company, he is used to live alone since age 20, and earns ten times more than i was earning when i was his age.
She broke our ears withe all the details about her wedding...her white dress, her flowers, her maid-of-honor dresses, her bossy mother-in-law, her whining mom, her trouble with the photographer...
She picked everything in the tone of white cream ....pretty safe choice...
But she is like a vanilla ice cream.
After all she says she can't stand dark chocolate...lol..
They had as honeymoon present a 10 days cruise in the Caribbean...well...of all the thing she could worry about (like...i need a bikini, what places we are going to visit, cant forget my cell, did i properly wax?) she was only worrying about this:
"Its going to be tornado season, we don't have an insurance"
OMG....girl! Who cares about insurance during her honeymoon??
Get wild, roll in the sand, drink some Margarita on the deck, make sex in the water like the dolphins.....
No, she didn't anything of the above.....
She went back with her pretty pictures... she bought the usual stupid souvenirs and got classically sunburned......;-)
Well, they moved in his apartment one month ago and all of a sudden she is starting to see the first little cracks in this perfect dream she had dreamed since she was a little girl.
But she is too sweet to complain.
So she tell us about her little daily disillusions with a smile.
"Well, i never knew boys could be this gross"
or
"He barely carries his plates from the table to the kitchen counter"
or
"He is making a huge mess anytime he showers and never cleans after".
Me and Debbie listen and exchange wise looks.
She doesn't know how to cook...but she is dreaming of being able one day to cook for him a complete and delicious dinner.......with dessert.......the dessert is very important in this culinary dream of hers...
So now she started to ask me, Deb and Julie (the three foodie of the office) suggestions and recipes.
"Do i have to put the salt in the water before or after is boiling?"
"How long to i cook the potatoes?"
"How long to boil an egg?
See in which deep trouble this poor girl is?.....lol..
Also, she is really naive.
If you know me, i just can't resist the tiniest opportunity to deliver a sexual innuendo, a naughty punch line, a spicy comment...
Debbie follows me in this path but our sweet cubicle neighbor just blushes like a cherry pie when we say something too sexual and sometimes she says:
"Guys, this is not very office appropriate"
She says they haven't had sex before the wedding. But that things are doing "good".
No more she explains, no more we can ask.
She is just this open blank canvas that could be filled with so many things......so young and pretty and sweet... and yet so boring, predictable.
She scares me and she bores me.
Then today all of a sudden she got in tears in front of her computer.
"What's wrong?" we asked.
She looked at us with those big, brown, plain pretty eyes and whispered:
"Oh, I just received my first email with my new last name. It's so pretty"
.
Well, i am a cynical doll but even though i had to go and hug her....:-).
"I bet you will always remember this moment, isn'it?"
She wiped her tears of joy, got up and went to the restroom.
Deb and I looked at each other.
"I give them one year top of this marital bliss" she said grinning.
Deb is even more hard core real than me.
I nodded and turned my head.
But while i was writing my report i couldn't help remembering my first marital bliss, that indeed lasted for a long time...for many years indeed....and how happy i was and how i was trying to cook for him a delicious dinner each night... ..
So, i said to myself:
"I wish you all the luck one can master in this matter of the heart, Sweet Plain Jane. Maybe you will never travel to Timbuktu or never leave Texas again in your whole life, maybe in 20 years you will still work in this company, and you will never pat the sea turtles on their nose, but, maybe, you will be wiser and smarter than me and will keep your well detailed and planned dream lasting for a long, long time"
Did i tell you she dreams of 3 kids?
gingersoul posted on Nov 04, 2009
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wishyouwerehere said on Nov 04, 2009....
Gingie, this made me sad, because I can remember those dreams, and what happened later in life ... and yet, I wouldn't trade it for the world. Sometimes, life is strange that way. You change one step along the path and it can alter the whole journey. -
Fallyn said on Nov 04, 2009....
this about made me cry and i'm not sure exactly why.
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Hegemone said on Nov 04, 2009....
This really strikes a nerve with me Ginge, and I can't quite put my finger on it. It's so sad that this girl may never really experience some vibrant, wonderful things ... and I keep wanting to say 'Well, if that makes her happy though, let her live her vanilla life.' but at the same time, I don't get the feeling that she's going to be happy. On the outside, sure, but on the inside, it feels like she's just going to be such a fragile, tender, pained person. I hope that her dream does make her happy, inside and out though.
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GrapeKoolaid said on Nov 04, 2009....
Reminds me of a story about a big fish from a little pond passing a little fish from a big pond.
I've met many a big fishes from small ponds. They seem to have an air of confidence that is common to the ones that I've met. Like their weltanschaung is a bit clearer than mine, or something like that.
Sometimes I envy the blissfully ignorant.
Not to say that your co-worker is, but you know what I mean.
A beautiful post, full of heart and wisdom.
I love reading you.
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JennyRotten said on Nov 04, 2009....
Sometimes I wish I that I was that sweet and niave...... but most of the time I really don't :-D
Good luck to her, I say. To each her own....
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Twylarants said on Nov 05, 2009....
Everyone is being so nice about this that I hate to throw in a monkey wrench, but that's me...I'm just a realist. I predict this young woman's husband becomes bored with the picture perfect life she's planning and goes elsewhere to find some excitement. Sounds cruel and cynical, I know, but he seems like a typical 23 year old guy to me...sloppy, a little lazy, and she seems like an overachieving perfectionist. Rarely do the two mix. I hope it works out for her, though. Maybe, if they're together long enough, some traits of each will rub off on the other.
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alabamagirl said on Nov 05, 2009....
I don't think I've ever had that "picture perfect" life. Maybe it will be a happily ever after. They say ignorance is bliss. -
Alyss said on Nov 05, 2009....
Such a pretty romance and like you I wish her the happiness to last a lifetime.
TBH she reminds me a little of me at that age before life and love taught me otherwise. I hope she never suffers the disillusionment of dreams shattered and love lost.
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travelr712 said on Nov 05, 2009....
you think it'll last a whole year? -
MsStar39 said on Nov 05, 2009....
How sweet, May the dream never end.,
It seems as if they have started out during everything right.
I only hope that they have their happy ending
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starchini said on Nov 05, 2009....
hmmm...idk what to say, other than, "perfect" people bug the shit out of me and I wanna dangle Remi over her until he spits up all over her pretty pressed blouse. Then I wanna watch as she tries not to be disgusted and "calmly" seeks out something anything to wipe it off with. Ah a tissue, I watch as she just smears it around and try not to smile thinking of her thoughts of "Oh, God, this is gonna stain, I dont want to be rude but I need to go to the bathroom, im going to smell like baby formula the rest of the day, I wonder if my other blouse is still hanging in my car" OH THE HORROR!!!
*rubbing my hands together with an evil grin*
Seriously though, I think what bothers me the most about this type of person is that they just seem so damn fake. Like its all for show and she just acts that way in effort to make herself seem superior. But in her mind shes just as dirty and perverted as the rest of us... It just erks me. There was a girl like that that I went to HS with. She "Acted" perfect, but perfect she was not. She was more of a snob that looked down upon anyone that wasnt as "perfect" as she was.
Anyone who doesnt believe in the 5 second rule is a snob in my book : )
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starchini said on Nov 05, 2009....
But I do wish her facade lasts an eternity and I hope that she achieves her goal of getting everyone to believe shes perfect : ) -
Fallyn said on Nov 05, 2009....
i believe i really do know people like this.... they do seem happy for an eternity... and some of them aren't.
it all depends.
i know i used to be very much like her.... not in the relationship department... but before that.
anyway, i'm glad i'm not that person anymore.
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ellamae14 said on Nov 05, 2009....
wow, this is soo beautifully written. Anyone who's been young and ideal, can relate to this. Thanks ging. i guess I can't fault your cynicism about happy ever afters. but I still believe in them, i beleive everyone have their own happy ever after, just have to be open and let God lead the way. Have a happy life my friend. Thank you for this. This reminded me of the important things in my life. -
Me-Myself&I said on Nov 05, 2009....
i feel sorry for her. where was she raised? the world in itself will shock her into learning.... bust her bubble. bless her heart.
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MissMimi said on Nov 05, 2009....
I hope her dream lasts a long time. I wish her the very best of luck. She's gonna need it.
I was like her when I was that young. Not that I was Miss Perfection, but I had dreams of a happily ever after with flowers and sunshine and sweet nothings. What they don't tell you that marriage is, is leftovers for dinner, monthly bills, and dirty diapers.
I share Twirlie's cynicism.
And I wish my youth was more like gingerpeach's. This was another amazing post, ginger. You write with a wonderful honesty that is so appealing. Loved it.
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queenparanoia said on Nov 06, 2009....
holy shit... she's only 21????wow... seriously... wow... although i met girls like her. theyre the perfect daughter, the perfect wife, the perfect everything...how luck i am not to be like them... -
gingersoul said on Nov 06, 2009....
Dear Scastsers... she went to work today with yet another little disillusions...She said she will have to spend the whole wek end alone because he will go golfing with his buddies .....I told her......so what? Go shopping, watch a movie, sleep late, talk with your friends.....She said she was feeling sad...and she thought he would have chosen her over his buddies......Oh, sweet Plain Jane....don't you just want to hug her....or break her head in two?.... ..lol... -
queenparanoia said on Nov 06, 2009....
ginger: i'll get her drunk then go to a club, then go shopping with his money, then go to a spa with his money or go to new york or vegas with his money...
this is just sad.... more sadder is i knew someone like this!!!!
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Fallyn said on Nov 06, 2009....
ginger, god, i can so relate.
i want one of those guys that all they think about is you.... .but you know? i've dated a couple guys like that and it got old REALLY fast.
dammit why can't there be a happy medium?
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