Wow. I was shocked to realize that I have been doing online dating on and off for more than 3 years. When I first started out, it was soo much fun I didn’t want to stop. The winks kept coming, the dinner dates, the phone conversations. I think I was making up for the high school and college years where shyness prevented me from doing much dating.
Eventually after so many months, it got old. That was when I settled for my last ex, even though I knew he was wrong for me. Took me two years too long to untangle myself from that dead end relationship. I put my profile back on two sites and things have been sloooow.
There have been some pretty interesting and even one fun weekend in between. There is CD who almost ran me out of his place even though he had invited me. Granted I broke one of the cardinal rules of dating, which is meeting at the person’s home for the first date. There was JT who I had soo much fun with. Of course that is to be expected when we started drinking at dinner and didn’t stop till it was time to go home around 3am.
Recently there was D. He has been winking at me for a few months and finally sent me an email the other day once he subscribed. We chatted on email, I gave him my number to call me. Frankly, I’ve lost patience for the initial email exchanges, so after we exchange a few emails, I give the guys my number to call me. Or some of them would give me their number right off the bat. With D though, he texted me at work even though I had told him to call me after work. We texted back and forth a bit and I asked him to call me after work. Which he didn’t. The next day he texted me around the same time. I was busy so I texted him back to call me after work. Which of course he didn’t. So I decided to take the initiative and call. I got his voicemail, and I was disappointed that it was one of those prerecorded so I didn’t get to hear his voice. About an hour later, he texted me apologizing for missing my call and asked can he call me later. I didn’t bother responding to the text. It’s been a week with no emails, texts, and definitely no phone call. Another one bites the dust.
Currently I am talking to S. His emails have sort of been short but not abrupt. So today I gave him my number to call me, if he wants. He emailed me back with his number also and asked me to call him anytime.
So here I am, debating if I should let him make that first call. I did give him my number first. Or should I go ahead and call him tomorrow? He seems like a fun guy…but shouldn’t a girl let the guy make that first call….as proof that he is into me? He reached out to me first online, if that matters.
