Ah, now to fill you in on what happened with the Daytona, and also with his damn cell phone.
He got starry eyed and WANTED both, at different times mind you, and he wouldn't settle for anything
less. With the Daytona he withheld information that would have made me
say no to buying it, and it crapped out and died 2 months and $1400
later. With the cell phone, he lied to me, took money off his paycheck
that we desperately needed for bills & medical things (I distinctly remember canceling 2 doc appointments because of this), claiming he had a short pay week
even though I kept asking him why he worked so many hours and been paid so shittily. Things just didn't add up in that respect. That idiot
decided he'd rather have me thinking he was cheating on me than admit
he took money to buy a new cell phone. He claimed he got the extra
money for the phone from his mom ... and then the lie came out when his
mom handed me $20 and said she was paying my husband back for what
she'd borrowed from him.
Once she handed me that $20 I knew he was lying, and it all came out,
and ensued in a huge argument. Besides that, he KNOWS I would have insisted on paying her back, so if he hadn't have gotten caught, what would he have done with the money that was supposed to be 'repaid'? He'd have kept it and bought shit for himself. Slimy ass wad. Guess what the amazing part is though ... $215
later, his phone is a piece of shit.
It was a piece of shit about 4
months after he got it, totally short life span, and it's been a piece
of shit ever since. Oh, then we can't forget the $250 radio he decided
he wanted to put into his truck, even though we had agreed on a $100
limit purely because the truck was in such rough shape and we
(supposedly 'we') didn't want too expensive of stuff in there. He was
gone for like 4 hours, and comes back and had spent $250 of the $500 he
and a couple friends earned from cutting wood. We needed that $400
additional for bills and paying other people, and somehow my husband
decided that he was more important.
His ass better believe that radio is coming out of the fuckin' truck.
Quite honestly, after reviewing his track record with this kind of
stuff, I'm a little pissed off at his behavior. I definitely see a
pattern (he wants stuff, he goes out of his way to get it, and it winds up being a piece of shit and a waste of that money), and it just sort of reinforces that shit with this truck is
going to make life hard. I very nearly feel like ruining this
opportunity for my husband out of spite, just to see him not get what
he wants, considering he more often than not does get what he wants. I
won't do anything rash, no worries, but he is going to be made to
understand he's not going to get his way purely because that's what he
wants. He will only get his way if it is the most fiscally
possible/probable/smart decision.
I dare him to challenge me on this one, because after looking back and really reviewing his decisions, and knowing now that he does not have control of the money so he can't simply take any and spend it, well, he's gonna have a damned hard time going behind my back and doing it anyway. Beyond that, if he does try to do it with this, he's going to move back to the farm and we'll have done with the whole thing. I'm tired of playing around and him blowing through money like it's air.
Grrrr, time to speak about a different topic because what's REALLY happening here is that I've got so many thoughts flitting through my head that they're all crashing, not properly processing, and I'm just getting flustered and jumbled. Time to let this one rest.
Hegemone posted on Oct 29, 2009
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uniquely-ironic said on Oct 29, 2009....
Any time you have to hide a purchase from your partner, it's a bad one. That they all blow up in his face should be a wake up call for him. We all make emotion based purchases now and then, but doing it consistantly is unfair to you if it makes covering bills hard if not impossible. He needs to grow up. -
Hegemone said on Oct 29, 2009....
Uni - Totally needs to grow up, and while I know those things are in the past, and I thought he may have grown up a little and be past doing that .... the way he's acted the last day or so, I'm seriously rethinking it and I'm trying to be prepared for him to do something stupid, which is just horrible in my book. I shouldn't have to be prepared for stupid activity like this on his part. -
uniquely-ironic said on Oct 29, 2009....
You're having to prepare for his bone headed move is exactly why in my 15 year marriage we never had a joint checking account. We divied up the bills, were responsible to pay them, would put cash aside for large joint expenses and if there was anything left we could spend it as we liked. We very rarely argued about money. -
CreativeWoman said on Oct 29, 2009....
I hope he grows up for your sake. Hang in there.
CW
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Hegemone said on Oct 29, 2009....
Uni - Yeah, I mean ordinarily we don't have much issue because if he wants something and we don't have the money, he simply gets told no and that's the end of it. This is an angle that sucks because he does need a vehicle and he'll try to use that against me to sway my opinion on the matter. I'm pretty sure if he'd try to go behind my back and take money out of our account, that'd be the end of our short marriage, that's for sure.
CW - Me too, thank you.
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UnicornForm said on Oct 29, 2009....
:) SMile babe and know that..everyday its gettin better. -
MsStar39 said on Oct 29, 2009....
He is still like a big kid and you are the mom. he needs to grow up. -
simplyconfused said on Oct 29, 2009....
Sounds like my dad. Though the odd time what he gets is a piece of shit, but a lot of the time we don't often use it much. Boys and their toys damn it! -
dyingman said on Oct 29, 2009....
"...That idiot decided he'd rather have me thinking he was cheating on me than admit he took money to buy a new cell phone. ..."What does it say about me that if I were you, I'd rather he had the affair. It would seem less stupid. If you blow $1400 on a whore... well... was she a good lay? Maybe I could understand that.$1400 on a phone? What on God's green earth does it do to be worth that much? If I'm going to spend that much on a phone, it better be a good lay.Deepest sympathies.... -
Hegemone said on Oct 29, 2009....
UF - Well I'm trying to do just that.
MsStar - I completely agree.
Simply - It does feel like he just wants something else that he can goof around in and abuse, sort of like a self fulfilling prophecy ... get a piece of shit because you'll just kill it anyway. Ugh.
Dying - Oh, no, the $1400 was for the car, not the phone($215). The point was not that I'd rather had him lie about something different, but that he shouldn't have lied at all.
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hairbrushedhubby said on Oct 30, 2009....
Er, I showed this to my wife, and she suggested that you go and get a hard wooden hairbrush and use the flat side on him.Tell him if he acts like a child he will be treated like one, also you take charge of finances. -
Hegemone said on Oct 30, 2009....
HBH - Interesting theory, maybe it'd work. Oh, and I am already in charge of finances, I'm just trying to do this as diplomatically as possible so I don't look like the fire breathing monster who said no and made him do something he didn't want to because he married me and handed over his soul. Lol.
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