• anonymous said on Oct 29, 2009....

  Perhaps if you embraced your husband's pornographic interests (working your newly "shared" interests into your daily text messaging, which now would be less romantic, and more lustful), you might find yourself having sex more often. Just a thought...in the end you may be surprised by how many men are turned on by a woman who gets off on porn...I know I am. Also, why the opposition to bringing another woman into the marital bed? Is it: (1) the fact that you are not bisexual at all; (2) you worry about STDs; or (3) you are concerned about jealous emotions wrecking your newlywed bliss? - A Porn Addict

• anonymous said on Oct 31, 2009....

  One further thought. It might help me to know what types of porn your husband indulges. Keep in mind, the porn of today is not porn of yesteryear. Today the sheer number of porn generes and fetishes available online boggles the mind. A proper diagnosis is imperative! Help me to help you, because I promise you this: I'll bet your mortgage that one day the "sweet" texting and the breakfasts in bed WILL END, BUT THE PORN WON'T! - A Porn Addict

• SeanRenaud said on Nov 02, 2009....

  What's the problem really?

• electronicmonkey said on Nov 02, 2009....

  I just posted on a similar topic today. I don't understand why willing, able, attractive and sexually available women (like us), still have to share a roof with porn. My fiance and I have been together for two years and we have sex about once or twice a week. There's literally nothing I won't do for this man, yet he still feels the need to watch porn every couple of weeks. I've tried asking him several times about his fantasies but he says I do everything he likes. It's like, "Then, WTF?" Hell, he won't even watch it with me! At the end of the day, I'm left to conclude he either has some hidden fantasy he's not comfortable sharing or simply has a wandering eye that's only safely satisfied online. I. DON'T. GET. IT.

• dyingman said on Nov 03, 2009....

  Once every three weeks?
  
  That's so infrequent compared with his extracurricular activites (if you know what I mean) that he seems to relegate your activities (which you tell me are eartgh moving) for "special occasions".
  
  Does he have a Madonna-slut dichotomy thing going on?
  
  He fixates on porn with plenty of sluts and naughty girls and bonds with you?  Or does he talk dirty and scream filthy names in the midst of rapture? 
  
  Maybe he's got a fetish addiction.  He CAN'T easily get off without it and it's too embarrassing to share?  Maybe he "takes care of business" in a way that is tragicalluy different from sex and therefore it's difficult to climax any other way.  That is, he's addicted to solitaire and it's a struggle to break the habit because sex isn't what he has trained his body to do.
  
  After three weeks, his body craves actual female companionship to teh point where sex is just as good.  You;re willing to do anything but he may not know HOW to ask for what he needs.  (Does he need the pressure only a fist provides?  Could you cope with weaning him away from his favorite partner even if such activity doesn't directly provide you with much excitement?  Can you get him going and switch methods when he's "primed"?)
  
  
  
  

• anonymous said on Nov 03, 2009....

  Dyingman (which I hope isn't true): A fetish addiction is exactly what I was hinting at in my earlier comment. Perhaps hubby has a secret taste for "shemale" porn, which I confess I indulge with the same degree of frequency as pussy porn. Lastly, I echo your point about "once every three weeks." When I first read those words my immediate reaction was: My goodness, MTPA may be in a slight state of denial about the situation at hand.

• anonymous said on Nov 03, 2009....

  Also, it may be that a threesome is exactly what hubby craves!

• starchini said on Nov 03, 2009....

  Is he really a porn addict or just a guy that likes porn?  Maybe hes just lazy.  Some men think its easier to jerk off than to get on top.  I dont know, if porns the issue, id be more concerned about infrequent sex.  Does he have a heart condition?

   

• anonymous said on Nov 03, 2009....

  I wouldn't venture a guess, as I don't opine on medical conditions. Nonetheless, at this juncture I am strongly leaning in the direction that hubby is not sharing his entire sexual persona with MTPA, and the only possible reason for not doing so is out of conviction that his tastes won't be shared. On this point, I assure you, I am speaking from experience!

• D6fer said on Nov 04, 2009....

  does he know you know?

• anonymous said on Nov 11, 2009....

  so why dont you just tell him you done all that you can do and tell him its the porn or you if he cant understand what he has got he will never . they say you never know what you got until its gone .

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