• uniquely-ironic said on Oct 28, 2009....

  Being poor isn't fun, but it is by no means a reason to be unhappy.  Sure, having more makes it easier to be happy, but you all have your health, shelter and some food.  It's pretty typical for young families to have to really stretch a dollar when they're first starting out.  Stick to the basics, look for ways to increase the income and decrease the expenses, it will get better.

• Hegemone said on Oct 28, 2009....

  I agree with Uni in that while being broke isn't fun, you can't let it get you permanently down.  I think you've got a healthy attitude that things may be bad now, but that doesn't mean it'll always be that way, and until then you're going to dig your heels in and do what you've got to do to come out on top.  I hope things work out for you guys sooner than later and you can both be happy and accepting of your situation.

• starchini said on Oct 28, 2009....

  Yea uni, im still beating my head against the ceiling trying to figure out how to make more money. 

  Thank you hege, I can always count on you to fluff my feathers : )

• sweetsoul said on Oct 28, 2009....

  Without knowing either of you, one of the reasons it may bother Phil more than you is because traditionally it is mainly a man's responsibility to provide for his family. That responsibility may be weighing a bit harder on him than you. Traditionally, a woman's responsibility (how she's judged by society) related to her ability as a mother and takes care of her home.
   
  I know you're young and probably don't buy into these traditional roles...but Phil may have...even if intellectually he knows it's not his responsibility alone.
   
  Just a thought.

• starchini said on Oct 28, 2009....

  no that makes pretty good sense.  its quite the opposite really, i didnt think Phil "bought" into those roles.  I was raised that way and told  thats how it should be but it didnt bother me still, I mean, nothing is perfect.  But it hadnt occured to me that that could be it.  Thanx.

• MsStar39 said on Oct 28, 2009....

  Star I am sure that things will eventually improve.
  It bothers a man more because he wants to be able to
  care for his family.
  
  I am sure that it bothers him most that he can't  drive, that means
   a lot to a man.
  

• hairbrushedhubby said on Oct 29, 2009....

  Hello Starchini,

  You have the right attitude and it just shows what a caring and lovable person you really are.

  I heve been married 34 years now and I am retired, have no savings, no bank account, no pension, we just live on what my wife earns on her 2 day job.

  Would I change anything? not at all.

  I have been truly blessed by God in having a Wife that is everything to me, 3 grown-up children that have allways been a blessing to us, and a roof over our heads and food in our bellies.

  We have had loads of ups and downs in our lives, even losing our home because we could not make the mortgage payments.

  Throughout our married life we have had friends and relatives good enough to help us out with food and/or money at the most dire times and expecting nothing in return, and we live by the same code, anyone who needs help can call on us and we are there for them, many a stranger has sat down and ate at our table, and we also have at times been able to help someone financially.

  You just carry on doing what you are good at, being you, things do get better sometimes it takes longer than you think, but it does.

  Just remember love, honesty, a kind heart, and a helping hand to others will allways see you through, oh yes, above all, Pray if you are a believer, it has never let us down.

• Italia21086 said on Oct 29, 2009....

  Just some suggestions for you. Clip thoses coupons, and shop the sales, when it comes to groceries. Its surprising how much money you can save. You have animals right so Im assuming they eat dry food, I never buy pet food without a coupon. Have a high gas or electric bill? Go online there are grants you can apply for through your state, and they will pay whichever utility company you choose a sum of money. Especially being as that you have a baby. Last year when our gas bill got out of control, and I was out of work,  they payed $800 of it. try making big meals you can freeze and eat at a later date. Chilis, soups not to hard to make and cheap.

• starchini said on Oct 29, 2009....

  Oh gosh MsStar, Phil is an auto body guy, thats one of our businesses.  Think of how much most men enjoy their vehicles and multiply that times a gazillion.  Thats about how much Phil loves all his vehicles.  But you know what, big deal, im a fancy kinda lady and i miss manis and pedis and getting my hair done and new clothes, but im not cryin about it. 

  Hairbrushed, you and your wife sound like some pretty fantastic amazing sweet generous people, id like to have you over for dinner and a cocktail sometime : ) And yes, im a big believer in the power or prayer

  Oh Italia honey, your preachin to the choir, whatever meat we eat its cuz Phil shot it, the fruits and veggies are in our deep freeze from Phil's garden, my papers are shredded from clipping coupons...although one thing you mentioned, the grant thing for the utilities...that hadnt occured to me.  Ill have to look into that.  Thank you.

   

• UnicornForm said on Oct 29, 2009....

  aw. Smile, you have everything you need, remember?

• starchini said on Oct 30, 2009....

  yes i do unicorn : )

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