• submissiverose said on Oct 22, 2009....

  even though we don't talk every day, even though we'll probably never meet and we're just words on a screen to each other, you're one of my best friends.
  Life gets in the way, we all know that. Life gets in the way of our D/s all the time and we've had to learn how to overcome it, i know you do such a great job fitting in work and time with your Daddy.
  Somehow, nobody seems to manage to work friendship around the interruptions of life.
   
  i don't trust people easily, i don't give anything until i know that it isn't going to be taken away from me.
  but you have my friendship, and you always will. i'll always be just an email away whenever you feel like this, whenever you're lonely or feeling isolated.
   
  you're doing such a brave thing letting go in such a physical way tomorrow. i wish you all the best. you'll do an amazing job and make your Daddy feel very proud. but i hope you're proud of yourself, too. as a person with a past myself- it's important we realise that we're not who we used to be. none of that defines us now.
   
  you're amazing and beautiful and that's why everybody here at Soulcast loves and reads and admires you.
  nothing is going to change that.
   
  all my love,
  -rose. xXx

• Mascon said on Oct 23, 2009....

  Hi girlygirl, I have been long away and have recently started lurking again. I write a lot, sometimes to myself sometimes to others. I have scraps and bits and probably entire novels scattered about a few hard drives and they are all pieces of me. I know how you feel about getting rid of your journal and I don't think you should. EVER. It is a part of you, for better or for worse and though it is hard for you to read now, you don't have to and it may not always beso hard to read. Put it in a box and bury it away in an attic somewhere. Just let it lie, but don't destroy it. You can already see its value as a comparative text. It shows you even today how much you have changed and grown and improved your life. Written parts of us are too important to throw away. In my great grandfather's attic I once found the journal of his great grandfather that was written at the time of the American Revolution and told of his life in those days. It was an amazing find and an amazing read. Not that your journal should be saved for the future, but destroying it is final. Putting it away allows you to revisit and to evaluate your own growth. Destroying it destroys a part of you, and no part of you should ever be destroyed, the sum of those parts is who we truly are. And there you have my never humble opinion.
  

• Girlygirl said on Oct 23, 2009....

  Rose- Thank you so much..that means a lot to me. I consider you one of my true friends as well. And yes, I know what you mean about it being hard to work everything in..I"m trying..and thank you for your support.
   
  Mascon- It's so good to hear from you..and that is very cool about your great grandfather's journal. I will certainly give your ideas some thought. My problem is that journal could ruin me if anyone ever found it, it would ruin my relationship, the furture I see for myself, I'm not sure I would want to take that risk, and becuase of htat I would eventually have to get rid of it anyway. But YOu gave me a lot to think about.

• pusscat said on Oct 23, 2009....

  Hello my dear girly.  I know I haven't been round very much but I have reading so I would know when to comment so to speak :-)
  
  I agree with mason but understand your fears.  Think of it all in logic terms as far as the journal ever being found.  I have often thought how I would feel if things of mine were found that are associated with my D/s lifestyle.  I came to a conclusion.  This is who I am and always will be.  If I had a journal that also told of my journey through life, not just he D/s part, I too would not want anyone to find it but, why should they?  Why would anyone find it now suddenly just when I'm planning on burying it?  It is our own paranoia that has us thinking like that.  Put that book away safely.  No one is going to pry amongst your things just like they haven't done so far.  God help us, when we are all pushing up the daisies, all those things that we were afraid of really won't matter at all :-)  Whilst we are alive, don't lets destroy anything that is part of us. . .
  
  BTW - I think I told you this before but your Daddy really is quite a wise man isn't he?....
  

• Girlygirl said on Oct 23, 2009....

  PC- lol yeah he is a very wise man..it sometimes amazes me... Thank you for commenting...the comments have given me a lot to think about.

   

• pusscat said on Oct 24, 2009....

  Apologies to my dear friend Mascon for misspelling his name (still have a bad finger and, as I usually touch type, keep catching the wrong keys with other fingers or missing them out completely and not pressing down hard enough on Cap Lock lol!)

• AlleyCatMomma said on Oct 27, 2009....

  I guess I'll be the one to say toss it. I have been in that spiral of self hate and loathing. i have put my sins and ugliness onto the page and everytime I saw it I felt it again. My heart would rip again. It's great to get it out and maybe you should just get it somewhere you won't look at it but personally getting rid of that shit helped me move onto to a much better place. I can't always linger in the past. i can't always be reminded of how fucked up I was i need to move on.

• Girlygirl said on Oct 28, 2009....

  Alley- it's good to have both sides of an argument lol...I'v really been thinking about whatever said..and weighing the dangers of keeping that journal ( if my bf- who I plan to eventually marry- ever found it i would be done)..so I can't realistically keep it for too long ( he is soo the snooping type)...but then there is a lot of me in it. We will just have to see...

• ame_thyst said on Nov 03, 2009....

  Only you can decide. But when I had something from my previous life before I met my Dom and I really didn't want to get rid of it, when I did it was like a huge weight was lifted. Maybe with words it's different, but I can understand why you would want to get rid of something like that, and in my case, it was good.

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