I recently came to the realization that my greatest motivator is anger. All the major hurdles I’ve overcome in my life have been because I got angry with the status quo and decided to change things. I got mad at paying rent in a complex that was turning for the worse and so I went out and got a house. Got mad at driving a clunker and realizing that should I croak today, all the money I am trying to save would go to my family that is already way too deep in my pockets. I got mad at settling on an unhealthy relationship and was finally able to walk away.

One most important thing to note is that none of these actions were at the spur of the moment, per se. I used my anger constructively to get out of some uncomfortable situations. Once I got mad and decided to buy a house, it took me almost a year and a half of intense research and changing real estate agents before I landed my current house. It took me almost 9 months to trade in my car that my brother wrecked. And it took me a whole two years to get out of a relationship that I knew going in the man was not right for me.

Another thing that I realized is once my anger gets me going, doors I never saw before would start opening. I would learn new things about myself and about life in general. My anger didn’t leave me where it found me. It took me to a much better place and taught me to harness the strength within.

As I find myself at a crossroad again, I find myself evoking on this anger to get me going since all sort of rational talking with myself have not motivated me none.

I am angry that I have not realized my full earning potential. I thought at my age I’d be making 6 figures. What is even more maddening is that this is still a big possibility even with the current economy. Granted I now realize the route I took ended up being a detour, I am now angry enough to start doing what it takes to get there. A few things in my favor are that I’m in school to get my MBA. I also have experience in my field and once I get the MBA and become certified, I’ll be able to realize my full earning potential and beyond. Even though I’d rather realize this dream yesterday, the realistic time frame that I am giving myself is 5 years or less.

I am angry that I don’t have a social life. As a Libra, I thrive around people. I’ve thrown a few house parties that have been limited to my family members and a few close friends that turned out to be a blast. I like to entertain and would love to have friends over sometimes. I’ve also impressed myself by how many people I know. Take this past weekend, I volunteered for an event and met a really hot celebrity whose current movie is still out in the theatres. Being shy as I am I ended up putting my foot in my mouth and missing out on an opportunity to get to know another human being…who would have ushered me into a whole new world. So, I am mad that every time in a social setting I am presented with an opportunity to network and establish business and social relationships, I shut down and end up making a fool of myself.

Yes, I know money and having tons of friends is not everything, nor should it be the path to happiness. But not having money reads to misery, and having friends that I can count on one hand does give me the blues, especially if they are not in the same state or when they are in relationships which means am not high up on their priority list. SO ya, I am MAD. The road ahead is not going to be easy. I am going to be stretched to a whole new level to get where I see myself in five years, financially secure and a social butterfly.

What are you mad about and are you doing anything about it?