• Mascon said on Oct 23, 2009....

  Hello,
  
  I haven't been on the boards in a few months and have only begun lurking again recently. I am happy to offer you my opinion. You ask what would I do if I were your dom, well that's not the right question here. The question is what will you do? You have professed to be a slave so should you not accept whatever makes your master happy? Are YOU able to do that? Should you not suck it up and be as pleasing to your master as possible? If that is not a path you can take, that does not make you a poor slave it just points out some problems in your relationship.
  
  I recognize that your master has promised you one behavior and delivered another, that is inconsistent and not a great trait, but remember we dominants are also all humans and make mistakes along the way. What you have to decide is whether this kind of person is one you can continue to serve and aim to please.
  
  You clearly have no like for the third woman in your relationship, but that seems to stem more from your master's behavior toward her than the woman herself. Although it is evident that she tries to undermine your relationship with your master as well.
  
  Does your master read your blog? She should, and you should continue to pour your honest feelings into it. There is clearly an unhappy situation in this triad of personalities that will only sustain itself as long as you are willing to submit to it. So you have to ask yourself can I submit and live to please or is this injustice being done to me more than I can bear?
  
  You ask what other doms would do. I think most would not admit to finding themselves in this situation as most consider consistency to be of utmost importance and take the promises they make to their submissive as seriously as the submissive's pledge to serve.
  
  But in the end, this comes to a question of you and use. Will you submit to be used in this way? I do not think you will be able to change the way these other two relate to each other, that relationship seems well established. They seem to be enjoying the staus quo of this triad while you seem the unhappy party. It is not now about your domme dear girl, but about you.
  
  You need to speak openly with your master if you cannot be used like this. Then she will need to make her decision as to which relationship is more valued to her. I wish you the best of luck.
  
  M
  

• AlleyCatMomma said on Oct 27, 2009....

  I tend to agree with Mascon that you need to look inside yourself and see what you really want and what you can really take. Are you able to be a complete slave and allow your master to handle the other girl as she sees fit or is this something you really can't abide. The answer really does lie inside yourself and only you know the answer. I also agree that you need to be completely honest with bot yourself and your master. *hugs* i hope that everything can be resolved.

• MLM'sPretty said on Oct 28, 2009....

  Mascon- everything you said is very true and i have now realized that.... of course it is the hard way that this has come about... i will be writing a new post momentarily on my discoveries... would love for you to take a read and give me some more wonderful insight... thank you!
   
  Alley- im trying to look deep within seem to very clouded right now though

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