I stopped the conversation when my husband claimed that his dad should have gotten a better 4 wheeler. That 4 wheeler was not bought brand
new, it was just a good opportunity that arose. Had it not come along,
there would not be ANY 4 wheeler. Further, his father bought it, he
didn't, he should be thankful he gets to use it in the first place. I
did not say any of this to my husband because at the point in time he
said that to me I was ticked at him in the first place, and it just
would not have gone well. Instead, I chose to tell him, 'OK, you know,
you're not going to like ANYTHING I have to say to you on that note, so
let's just completely wash away the rest of the day and put it behind
us as if it hasn't happened. We have more cleaning to do.'
I had to let it go, because otherwise I'd have torn into him and made
him feel tiny purely because he frustrates me so much with this stubborn, ignorant attitude he gets. Granted, some of it he did need to hear, he was already
in an irritated mood and so was I, so it wasn't the right time. As we
have left it now, we haven't discussed it since, and OFHG and I decided
that TFYO can't help my husband with anything if TFYO has to work later
in the day. It'll just be better that way because my husband has this
very keen way of, well, making things last a whole lot longer than they
needed to to begin with. He gets it from his dad. I hate to admit it,
but it's true. Also, he doesn't know when to quit. He doesn't take
that 4 out of 5 tasks for the day have gone badly, so maybe he should
just call it a day and try tomorrow, he just keeps going, keeps getting
more frustrated, and keeps spreading more damage.
I wonder how things will be tomorrow when my FIL sees the shredded tire
on the trailer, especially considering we forgot his spaghetti, and
that my husband dawdled so we didn't get to the store because of the
shredded tire episode. I'm hoping that maybe by taking him the
spaghetti tomorrow it'll soften his mood just a tad. I don't know what
it is, but it always seems that when my FIL is in a fairly amiable,
good mood, my husband has to find a way to shit on him. It's as if
it's ingrained into his very being, and it drives me insane because it
creates so many problems that don't need to be. My husband thinks he
knows best. My FIL thinks he knows best. Maybe between the two of
them they converge on some points, but otherwise, they're totally
opposite and it's more of a detriment than an asset.
Ah, but it's not my problem for the moment. I'm just going to put my
head back up in the clouds, get ready for bed, and face whatever is to
come when it gets here. Good night all!
Hegemone posted on Oct 17, 2009
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UnicornForm said on Oct 17, 2009....
g night, walk on them clouds girl.and help him up -
simplyconfused said on Oct 18, 2009....
Good choice in not tearing into your hubby. XD And good luck with tomorrow and hopefully the spaghetti softens your FIL =p -
Hegemone said on Oct 18, 2009....
UF - Yup, will do. :-)
Simply - I'm hoping the spaghetti helps a great deal. Guess it's time to get on with it already.
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pickersplock said on Oct 18, 2009....
It must be a male thing.Blame someone else for whatever happens.My personal favorite is when Mr. P called me a t work to tell me it was my fault he locked himself out of the house because I hadn't bought him tupperware to carry his lunch.He often rides the crazy train of thought.Just wanted you to know you're not alone. -
husbandhater said on Oct 18, 2009....
Hege I think your husband and mines were cut from the same cloth in heaven. I'm glad we missed that boat. Tehheh tehheh. Take a breath and I hope everything goes well with the fil. Have a goodday honey.Pickers it is a very MALE thing. All of their problems were caused by other people and other things but what they really need to do is go into the bathroom and take a look at the man in the mirror b/c thats who causes a huge amount of the problems. I loved this morning how hubby being late was my fault b/c he had to take the train instead of the car b/c I had the car going food shopping. Now had I not personally purchased the car he'd be depending on that same train to get him everywhere like he does everyday.But he also refuses to put back the gas he uses when he does use the car and it's my fault that the car is on empty b/c I choose not to fill it back up but it's not his fault b/c he didn't fill up the car with the quarter or quarter and a 1/2 of tank he used. -
MsStar39 said on Oct 18, 2009....
Hege the problem is that they are just alike, each one think that they are
right and know better then the other one, it's better to stay out of their way.
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speaking_up said on Oct 18, 2009....
There has got to be a pill for this sort of thing you could slip into their respective drinks to make them less itiotic. Imagine your heavenly sleep knowing you have solved the burden that ails you and interferes with your peace of mind!xxoo -
CreativeWoman said on Oct 18, 2009....
My husband is also a part of that dragging out tasks club. He underestimates how long tasks will take (a family wide trait) and tries to cram too many things into one day. He will do that whether it involves, work, fun or whatever. It is very frustrating.
CW
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cntlvmenuf said on Oct 18, 2009....
You are a very wise woman Hege. Holding your tongue for the sake of peace...it is a noble thing to do...especially since going the different route would have ignited the already volatile situation.
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bluegum said on Oct 18, 2009....
sometimes poor husbands just can't take a trick,if we was praised to the roof tops we would be just darlings wouldn't we .Blue. -
mixednuts said on Oct 18, 2009....
Blame the guys on everything! -
hairbrushedhubby said on Oct 18, 2009....
Well as a husband who is perfect, I can't see what all the fuss is about, ha ha. -
speaking_up said on Oct 18, 2009....
I gotta agree with cntlvmenuf re Hege....I want what she's got!|!! (GRACE) -
Hegemone said on Oct 18, 2009....
Pick - Definitely good to know I'm not alone. Ha, I could totally see my husband doing something like that.
HH - Heh, yeah, he's definitely good at pointing the finger elsewhere first, and then acting like a huge brat when I point out the other three pointing right back.
MsStar - Oh, I agree, and that's why I've chosen to wash my hands of the whole thing. Not my problem.
Speaking - If only there was such a pill! Wait, maybe I could get some horse tranquilizers ... no, no, that's too hasty, lol. But some days ...
CW - Definitely seems that this is a theme for men in general, lol, or at least a good number of them. I swear, if they'd just OVER estimate their time, they'd be so much happier tricking themselves into thinking they'd gotten everything done, or more (if it so happened they got done 'ahead of time').
Cnt - Yup, and it's hard to hold my tongue sometimes, but lately, it seems it's better to just do so and find a more creative way, or at least a better time, to spit it out.
Blue - Maybe and maybe not, lol.
Mixed - Oh boo hoo. Don't worry, you're excused ... for now ... muahahaha!
HHH - Lol I'm laughing about the perfect part! Just kidding, you may very well be, who knows? Maybe you're that guy who makes my husband pissy because he's not perfect? Lol.
Speaking - Well be patient, that grace is coming, and I bet it'll come sooner rather than later, building gradually and small until one day you realize 'BOOM', you've got it. Also, we can't have grace ALL the time, or else how would we KNOW it was grace?
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