I have no idea why, but I've transitioned into a very tranquil, thoughtful mood over the last hour.  I suspect it has to do with my mind being at rest finally after the last few hours.  Nothing epic happened really.  Had I not slunk into this mood, I might not even mention it.

One event was that my husband and I sat down and talked tonight.  The whole relationship progress thing we had going on has slowly been petering down to nothing again.  So I gave him a pep talk.  That is, I told him to knock it off and that I was absolutely NOT going to let him follow his usual pattern, especially after I've made so many concessions that I've managed to keep.  It ended on a good note, and that wound me up in bed early.  Darn it all.

The other event was really two wrapped into one.  I dug my heels in and spoke up to my dad about two things.  One being how he completely over complicates things, specifically meal plans.  The other being about the damn kitchen cabinets I reorganized months ago.  I finally got fed up a couple of weeks ago and told him we could put them back, just to let me know when he wanted to do it.  Earlier today, after a discussion about something unrelated, he had told me that he doesn't start certain projects because he knows they'll morph into much bigger projects quickly.  We were talking about how my sock drawer turned into a total dresser and closet cleaning extravaganza.

He made a snarky remark about the cabinets again as my husband was putting dishes away.  I let fly with 'Well, when are we ever going to change them back?  I've been waiting for you to tell me you're ready to for two weeks now, but you keep not doing it.  At this rate, because you never start a project, we're never going to do it.  That's why I took it upon myself to reorganize them the first time, and I guess I'm going to have to do it my damn self this time.  Lot of good you are.'  Surprisingly it did not start an argument, but I did get a rather taken aback expression.  Ha, he couldn't argue ... I'd called him on exactly what he had admitted to earlier in the day.  I love it when that happens.

So, see, nothing major bad happened, but I suppose at the time of each occurrence, it was a little stressful, but it didn't go as badly as it normally would.  I was confident, I didn't scurry away, I didn't make it worse by over reacting and everything turned out OK.  I've been working HARD at keeping my positivity and confidence up these last few days and it's really paying off.  The only thing I don't like is knowing that I'm just going to continue to be tested on this, by bigger and bigger events.  Then that's life I suppose, so I shall continue working hard to maintain it.

I've also been working hard at NOT letting my dad bait me into things.  I've not been letting him bait me into arguments.  I admit, he's been working my last nerve on quite a few things, but I've been gritting my teeth and just moving through the situation as if it doesn't bother me.  I've also been unresponsive to his baiting in relation to family matters.  I've not been inquiring about them and I've not been taking his bait when he begins to talk about them, like I usually would have.  I just let him say his piece, give an appropriate response that is not a question, and let it go.  It's damned hard, but it's sure paying off, and I hope it continues to do so.

All right, I have to admit, my tranquility IS being tested.  I'm gonna throw my husband out of the bed if he doesn't get the hell over on his own side and STOP throwing his fucking gangly ass legs all over my side of the bed.  There, it's out, I feel better.  Oh yeah, no, I would never literally throw him out of the bed.  I might throw his leg or arm back on his side, but not out of the bed.  I only let him fall out of the bed when he's awake, lol. 

Yup, that's what he gets for fighting over the blankets with me.  He learned quickly, and it's only happened once.  He wanted to play tug of war and after ten minutes I got tired of tugging, so I waited for him to give one good tug and I let go ... and he went flying.  I nearly peed myself laughing, and it caught him so off guard that he started laughing too.  Priceless.

Well, the computer just sounded the alarm that the computer battery is about done for ... guess I better wrap this up.  G'night all.