Being disinherited based on a mother's inability to love her own child (since birth, really) is wrong in my part of the world. After a good friend sent me some links, what POPPED out at me is that a will is more likely than not to be overturned if a spouse or biological child is excluded 'for the purpose of anger at the child."
I DO have actionable reasons to put the three little pigs (my siblings) on their butts (as drug and alcohol addicted persons they would be (and are) impulsive to sell mother's property to gain the money they need for their addictions. The main manipulator sister, an intelligent and money grubby gal (she frauded over $100,000 by hiding after graduating from university - and successfully alluded paying her STUDENT LOAN ENTIRELY (the time passed and the bill is written off). She spends much of her time scheming and I have no doubt she is scheming with mother's will right now (mother named her golden child executor of the will).
My poor addicted brothers don't have a chance up against her and her greedy ways.
So, after a week has passed now, and I have calmed down and thought about a few things - like, why should I - a child of a mother who excludes her from her own will as a final blow of the severe abuse I suffered as a child an adult - not take a stand and SPEAK UP on my own behalf. Why should I just go away like an abused dog or victim? Perhaps slow down the sale of the property (oh I can imagine the much knashing of teeth by the siblings with a hold up)...
What I learned after my local information (wills and estates judicial) research...I can even cause a court to overturn the will completely. The other factor in my favor is that if I assisted the deceased in her illness I have a good chance to win! I DID ASSIST HER UNTIL DAD DIED AND SHE MADE HER FURY KNOWN TO ME FOR HELPING HIM!
While dad was dying 4 hours away in 2007 I was running back and forth from city to city to also help mother by preparing weekly meals, cleaning her home, playing cards and entertaining her, etc. on as many weekends as I could. I didn't know that she resented that after these verbally abusive weekends with her, I would rush away to the other city to care for dad (oh how she hated that man!!! And they were divorced for 45 years!!!). I didn't know something evil was brewing within her - to finally blow at me and disinherit me in her will completely! She appreciated NONE of what I was trying to do to help her (and she was no where near as sick as dad...she lived two years longer!). I only stopped helping her because she told me to get lost. I would have continued to help her had she let me. Apparently this is cause for a will turn over as well!!!
Finally, the will is likely to be overturned if a child (adult or otherwise) of the deceased is financially in need. Hummmm, does my recent bankrupsy count? How about the fact I may lose my condo in January when my alimony runs out? The fact that my hydro is being cut off on Wed if I don't pay for it? Does this count as being in need? I think so.
Interestingly, the three little pigs (my siblings) hated mother as well, and avoided her as much as possible. She was a sharp tongued abusive and self-centered mother who assumed her children were their to serve her and her alone. She was NEVER a support for any of her kids (least of all me). The siblings all have addiction and emotional problems (myself included in that one) - and their behavior in a court will show IMMEDIATELY how greedy and cruel they are. They have no self-control or respect for authority. There would be outbursts that would make a fantastically dramatic Perry Mason show!
In other words, my information goes so far as too say I just might GAIN IT ALL!!
Here is a letter I sent two lawyers...do you think I am too emotional? Do you think a lawyer would step up to the plate to help me? From what I can see there are only two lawyers in my area specializing in contested will estates.
Here's my letter:
Dear Trevor (I love your name as it is that of my deceased son's!).
A friend forwarded me your website link and I am just curious if you can help my situation. It is about the will of my mother - a will that excludes me and me alone, out of four children. She died last week of lung cancer.I do not know what is in the will besides her condo; or whom her assets are distributed to besides her other three children (she has grandchildren too). I only know my name is likely only mentioned in no so nice terms as she wiped me out of anything (so my sister alludes to).I don't know how to get access to it to see.Mother never bonded with me since birth, although I tried to gain her love to the point of almost insanity.I am honestly only writing about principle, and to try to put a stop to my siblings from being the sole beneficiaries. The day mother died a horrible hurl of abuse and shunning came from my siblings; they say it is mom's wishes for me to be outed - and I was not allowed to the funeral.It's not like I am a criminal, or drug addict, or have done ANYTHING to warrant her anger other than what was in her own head.Since I am the child and adult now who bore the most pain and rejection from that woman throughout my 50 years I think these siblings need a lesson and eye opener about what is right and what is wrong. THIS WHOLE THING SEEMS WRONG (one sibling is addicted to crack, one is an admitted chronic alcoholic, and one is the intelligent golden child sister who was named executor (she is 8 years younger than me but most favoured).Mother parented from two fathers. It is clear to me my father is the reason she hated me so - she despised him LOUDLY since they divorced 45 years ago and I bore the brunt of her wrath (my older brother was quieter and not so much abused). Both of my parents obtained lung cancer in 2007. Father died broke and almost alone in December 2007. I was the only sibling who would assist him in his affairs and passing. These compassionate actions for my dad drove my mother over the edge. Even though she and my father were divorced for 45 years mother's bitterness was like a very crazy sickness for all of those years - even while she was married to her second husband, who sexually abused me and mother denied it happened all along.Can I stop the sale of the condo? Can I take this unfairness to court?I am separated since the death of my son; my alimony is about to run out, when this happens I will have to sell my own overly mortgaged condo...and I am unemployable due to some serious illnesses that have kept me hospitalized many times in the last 6 years. I am currently legally bankrupt.I can get some money together if required, but it will be a borrowed hardship.I could really use some of the money from mother's condo sale. But it is not my primary reason for writing. I'll find a way to live. No, I am just PISSED at how these siblings are carrying on with mother's hatred against me. FOR NO LOGICAL REASON!!!I don't really expect an answer, I am resigned to the fact that the siblings will carry on mother's bitterness and greed; sell the condo at the fastest price, then blow all of it all on their addictions, etc. But since someone sent me your link I thought I would ask these questions, and if any of the answers are in the positive - would you represent me?Could I count in a will that excludes me?Could I hold up the sale of her property?Can I have a voice in court?I should mention that the two younger siblings are going to also inherit a large sum from their biological father (the one who sexually abused me) when he passes.I'm just asking. And if I can hold it up at the very least, pay your firm for the work out of the will assets, it would send a message that I really do matter as a daughter, and neglected member of this severely dysfunctional family.If any of the above is in the positive, I will provide you what information I do have (which isn't much other than names and cities of the parties).END OF FIRST LETTER********************************************************UPDATE 2ND LETTER (more concise and real legal arguments)After doing some research here are some other factors that will help a court make a decision in my favour:1. Until I did the unforgivable act of assisting my biological father in his illness and death, I was also running back and forth to Vernon to assist my now deceased mother by bringing meals, playing cards, entertaining and cleaning (and taking her verbal abuse all the while).2. I am in bankruptcy currently and in severe hardship. I will lose my condo and car in January when my alimony runs out I expect. I am ill and just came out of hospital with COPD complications for 20 days at Kelowna General Hospital.
3. I did no deed to hurt my mother that would warrant her final blow, other than try too hard to gain her love and support. I did send some emails over the years LOUDLY expressing my pain over her rejection and abuse from childhood on.4. I was molested by her second husband, brought charges against him finally last year (which went no where due to no family support or agreement, and his unwillingness to take a lie detector test). This was another big reason for mother and half sister's shunning of me out of the will and their lives.END OF SECOND LETTERSo, what do you think? Am I wrong to speak up against the unfairness and final blow by my own mother? Does it just look like I AM GREEDY and a SORE LOSER?I really don't care about the outcome, but I sure would love to sit in court and watch the circus! And I would sure like to have a voice for the first time in my life regarding my mother and her singling me out in so much lifetime abuse.
And, in all honesty, it makes my heart thump wih glee to see the three little pigs reactions by a property hold up or even better, the will overturn!!!!
