Also just found out another tidbit of news. I mentioned that on the
2nd my MIL was going in for a biopsy on a couple of lumps in one of her
breasts? Well, she just texted me and told me that they were cancer
free, so she's in the clear. That is good news. Now hopefully they
can relax a little and maybe be a little more watchful about it.
To be
honest, I sort of want to talk to my husband about something similar.
He's got a few moles I'd like him to talk to the doctor about. He
works outside and gets a LOT of sun exposure, and does NOT wear sun
screen. I am scared to death that he'll get skin cancer, and those
moles really scare me. They aren't rapidly changing, or changing much
at all. In fact, he's had them for years and they've barely changed at
all. STILL, it's a risk I don't know that I want to take. Getting him
to go to the doctor though ... I'd probably have better luck ripping
his toe nails out with rusty, dull, broken pliers.
I think I'm gonna
research a few stories involving men and melanoma, so he'll see the
reality of it. If anybody else has any suggestions for where to go to get info like this, beyond the official cancer website, I'm totally open to it.
Hegemone posted on Oct 07, 2009
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mixednuts said on Oct 07, 2009....
MIL is cancer free!? Outstanding news!!!!!!!! -
CreativeWoman said on Oct 07, 2009....
I'm glad your MIL is cancer free.
Hege, as much as you love your husband, the bottom line is that he is responsible for his own health. Next time he goes for something unrelated, maybe you can suggest he show those moles to the doctor. That's up to you though.
Don't look for bad to things to happen. Remember from the meditation, "I refuse all negative thoughts." :-)
CW
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Twylarants said on Oct 07, 2009....
That's great news about your mil, Heggie. About your husband's moles, if he's had them for years with no change in the size, shape, or color...if they don't itch or bleed, I wouldn't be too concerned. My mother died of melanoma so I'm checked every 6 months but never have new moles and the few I've had for years still look as they did when they first appeared.
My husband, on the other hand, is dark-complected and never had any moles. A strange discoloration appeared at the top of his ear about 7 months ago but he's so much taller than I am I never noticed it. 2 months ago he complained that it itched, bled, became scabby, grew darker and more irregular...scared me to death.
It turned out to be basal cell carcinoma, cancer, but the least serious of the skin cancers, thank God. He's having it removed Friday using a new technique that scrapes it off a little bit at a time. It takes hours but they biopsy every scraping to be sure all the cancer cells are removed. It's the least disfiguring way to remove something on the ears, neck, and face.
My friend just had one removed from the side of her nose and you can barely tell she had anything done.
If you notice a mole changing at all don't take any chances. Explain to him how serious skin cancer is and how easy it is to have it checked out.
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secretlife said on Oct 07, 2009....
hey hedge, my husband has lots of moles too- and about 10 years ago (he is 54) he started making a yearly visit to the dermatologist.they do routine checks of the whole body. and they'll put your mind at ease i'm sure.so far my husband has been lucky, but you have to watch them, and some of his are in obscure places that he can't see himself so you can help to check if that's the case w/him.wearing a hat or sunscreen will be emphasized again by the doc- until they get thru to him. and believe me, they will. -
wombat said on Oct 07, 2009....
Good news with your MIL, and thanks Twyla for the informative post. (glad it was caught and treatable) And also, I like CW's last comment! -
Hegemone said on Oct 07, 2009....
Mixed - It is indeed great news.
CW - Oh I'm with you in not looking for negative thoughts, but I do want him to have them at least checked out, after having read more info about melanoma and other skin cancers. I think this is stemming from reading up on it in conjunction with his mother's scare. I don't doubt it'll be something I'm not worried about soon enough. I usually go to the doctor with him (he usually can't remember half of what the doc says, so it works out, and it's no trouble for me), so I want to mention it to my husband so he's comfortable with it, and see if he wouldn't mind me mentioning it to the doc. For me, just knowing the doc has had a look will ease my mind, which will be a whole lot easier than just convincing my husband he should wear sun screen.
Twy - See, that's one of those things that I wonder about, because they do get itchy on him. But yes, I do want to at least have the peace of mind. There isn't a lot of cancer in his family, but his grandmother and I think one other family member did pass away of it, and so it's something I at least want to keep aware of. Glad to hear your husband will be getting rid of his soon. I'm sure that'll be a relief beyond just knowing that it's the least serious.
Secret - I'm definitely hoping that the doc can get through and maybe we can do something at least so it's not a concern. He does have a few moles that are in places he can't easily see, and I kept an eye on them before, but here lately I've been really keeping an eye on them.
Wombie - Definitely good news, and I too am thankful for Twyla's informative comment and CW's comment. Something that everybody should keep in mind.
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simplyconfused said on Oct 07, 2009....
it's good to your your MIL is cancer free. ^_^about your husband, scare him with what could happen, and get it checked out. It's better to be safe than sorry! -
UnicornForm said on Oct 07, 2009....
cancer jsut killed one of my freinds...:(Glad to hear shes ok, your MIL , is she a MILF?i donnt blame your bo. -
UnicornForm said on Oct 07, 2009....
cancer jsut killed one of my freinds...:(Glad to hear shes ok, your MIL , is she a MILF?i donnt blame your bo. -
fragglesrock said on Oct 07, 2009....
Glad to hear she's ok. I think it's a great idea to have your husband checked out, just as a baseling for something for the doc to compare back to later if need be. Why are men so stubborn about sunblock??? -
Hegemone said on Oct 07, 2009....
Simply - That's how I feel, for this particular thing, better safe than sorry.
UF - Sorry to hear about that. (((HUGS))) I'm glad my MIL is ok too ... not that I judge this stuff, lol, but no ... I'm pretty sure she's really really far from a MILF.
Frags - Know what's sad? Lol, I hadn't even thought of that. That might be a pretty convincing reason for my husband to go along with it, just to give the doc something to compare to in the future, should the need ever arise, since he works outside so much. Their stubborness about sunblock amazes me, I swear.
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pusscat said on Oct 08, 2009....
So pleased about your MIL hun, it's such a worry when you're just waiting isn't it?
Like you said, it is amazing how stubborn people can be about sunblock and not just men. Ask your GP practice if they have any leaflets and then if they do, show them to your hubby. No messing, no beating about the bush, let him see what cancer does. Tell him he owes it to you to ensure he is by your side for years to come.
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cuppajava said on Oct 08, 2009....
Hi Heg,that is good news about your MIL - a site that I have found very helpful for my own needs is www.medhelp.org - they have all sorts of forums and discussion groups about loads of things,and they also have a 'panel' of doctors who can be contacted for information -
Hegemone said on Oct 09, 2009....
PC - It definitely is torture playing the waiting game, especially when many people involved are very emotionally driven. I'm glad it's over with though. As far as my husband, lol, pleasant enough surprise ... he completely went for it, agreed to have 'em checked out, and even asked me to mention it at his next appointment. I nearly fainted, lol.
CJ - I'll have to check that site out for sure so I can get more info, because while my husband has chosen to be agreeable about getting it checked out, I don't want him to back out of the decision, so I might look for some back up material to really show him the reality of it. Thank you. :-)
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