My boyfriend who wouldn’t go away is turning into my ex-boyfriend who still won’t go away!
I met him online and at that time I was worn out of the dead end dates I’ve been on. There were no sparks, he was the most boring of all the dates I had but he was the only one who persisted in contacting me. His mode of communication was IM and texts. After so many movies and dinner dates, we somehow started hanging out and not long thereafter we were having sleepovers at my place since he still lived with his parents.
My ex was more of a warm body than a boyfriend. He was not emotionally there, he had anger issues though none were directed at me, and he was a narcissist to say the least. I remember us watching Guess Who when Ashton Kutcher’s character called his fiancé almost 13 times when she was mad at him. He told me he would never beg a woman to stay with him since there are more women than men. I knew I should have left him then but I had somewhat become dependent on him and the thought of being alone scared the bejeezuz out of me.
You can only be in a wrong relationship for so long before you realize you are doing a disservice to yourself and the other person. And there comes a time when the pain of staying in that relationship is greater than the pain of leaving. So I told my boyfriend we should breakup. He insisted we should be friends and I agreed. Only thing is the line between friendship and dating got murky and we were back to dating again. I called things off with him like four or so times, before I finally had it on New Year’s Eve. We had planned to spend it together and watch fireworks but he called last minute pretending like he didn’t know we had plans and saying he won’t show up. That was it. What was the use of being alone in a relationship?
My ex didn’t think I was serious. He went from acting like he don’t care, to threatening me since he had invested so much into relationship, like I hadn’t, and when all that cajoling didn’t work, he resorted to his tried and tested way of insisting we should be friends…but this time I would have none of that. And don’t you know it he went all Ashton Kutcher on me, something he said he wouldn’t do! He texted me, called my home and cell phone and emailed me. The last thing I told him was for him to stay away from me. He did, for a few days but then was back to emailing me. Since I changed my cell, he wasn’t able to text me, thanks God!
So anyways, my birthday is next week. I had forgotten I had actually programmed my birthday on his iPhone when he first got it so it must have popped up. He sent me a package today, emailed me and tried to IM asking me if I got my present with a smiley face to boot. Whereas I’ll admit my ego was stroked, I refuse to fall into the friendship and playing nice trap with this ex again. He sent me gummy bears since he knows I am a sucker for them and a gift card to a spa. Awwwww.
Too bad he is shit out of luck…and I can see right through this one. Being my mother’s daughter, I am keeping the present and not sending a thank you card or an acknowledgement. Any communication from me would just be an invitation for him to come showing up at my door….and the way things are going he might even end up in my bed. So I am keeping mum.
Or maybe I should just return the stuff? He has the tracking information so he knows I have received it…would keeping it and not saying anything send the wrong message? I dunno how else to tell him it is over and contrary to his argument that we can be friends, we can’t because that line always keep getting crossed and I am tired of touching the iron to see if it is hot. I know it is.
