• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Sep 22, 2009....

  
  (((warmest embrace)))
  
  May you have peace soon, tbs♥.
  
  I will write you a PM, later in the day, sweetie.
  
  
  
  

• Hegemone said on Sep 22, 2009....

  (((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
  
  TBS, I can't even begin to know what you're going through, but I too hope that soon you can have peace in your heart and to feel like you can breath again.
  

• queenparanoia said on Sep 23, 2009....

  {{{{HUGS}}}}

  i remember what happened because you know ive been reading you. and here is my advice...

  we made mistakes in the past. we can't go back and change them. what we can do is we forgive ourselves and learn from the mistakes we made in the past.

  i hope you find peace in your heart tbs... i'm sending you positive thoughts...

• secretlife said on Sep 23, 2009....

  hiya sweetie
   
  so much pain in this life-  sometimes it feels as though you just can't breath for the weight of it. 
  this baby you can't hold honey.  this baby is gone and there's no going back no matter how much you want to.
  but if you allow yourself to heal.  if you allow yourself to be forgiven.......if you remember that you are worthy and special and human.........you will have the chance one day to hold another baby.
  you don't deserve pain.
  you ARE worthy.
  you don't have to "pay" anyone back for any "sin".......
   
  lift up your head.
  stand tall.
  push back your shoulders.
  breathe.
  simple things.
  put one foot in front of the other.
  reach out for help when you need it.
  forgive yourself.
  believe.
  YOU ARE WORTHY.
   
  Sending you love and positive thoughts from someone who believes fully in your goodness.
   
   
   
   

• wishyouwerehere said on Sep 23, 2009....

  TBS -
   
  I can't even begin to guess what you are going through, only that your pain cries out so clearly.  I will add to your prayers that God will help bring you comfort and consolation.
   
  Love, Wish

• Mr.Strange said on Sep 23, 2009....

  What ever you are willing to give you will receive.
  
  If you believe it, it is real.

• nekros said on Sep 23, 2009....

  I can help you, tbs230. My genes will give you the most beautiful bundle of joy you will ever seen. It cannot replace the one you lost but will give you another chance of true happiness.
  
  Come to me. Allow yourself another chance in the joy of creating life inside you. To feel the seed of life flowing, filling and growing in your fertile womb. I'm ready, willing and able to give you a child. 

• WriterCarlDobbs said on Sep 23, 2009....

  I lost my dear wife of 24 years 2/1/2 years ago.  I know your pain.  I wrote this poem three days after her death to try to come to terms with it.
   
  I also joined a blog site called Dailystength.com and looked into the category of Bereavement.  This can help.  God bless you. There is no easy way around this.  We must go through it together.  Feel free to write me. carlmdobbs@aol.com. I'm 53 and we have 4 kids.
   

  To the Rare and Radiant Maiden.

  We can do nothing to persuade the sun

  To reverse his course in this wintry sky.

  We can't make downward the direction of up

  We can't make what’s Gospel a meaningless lie.

   

  We can't change the course of a fierce, mighty wind.

  Atone a mean man who has stumbled and sinned.

  We can't make a frown, the Cheshire Cat’s grin.

  No.  All we can do is to heave a grand sigh.

   

  We can see the side of the coin that was tossed.

  We can take grasp of the line we have crossed.

  We can surely mourn for the love we have lost

  And give to my lover a solemn good-bye.

  And let her sweet echo still our sad cry.

  We can let her sweet echo heal our sad cry.

• lordsprop said on Sep 23, 2009....

  im new around here.........but your post cut my eyes............... sorry about that. Everything is gonna be fine. you just believe............ But if i my ask, whats the pain all about...... God knows best

• Mr.Strange said on Sep 23, 2009....

  Nekros...
  
  you funny bastard...
  
  lol
  

• starchini said on Sep 23, 2009....

  .....  :  / I cant possibley imagine how horrible it must feel to have lost a baby...Your prayers will be answered....

• Mr.Strange said on Sep 24, 2009....

  Things in the past can not be changed...
  
  If you want to make new things happen you must expel your pain.
  
  I find laughing things off is a very useful technique.
  

• gingersoul said on Sep 24, 2009....

  Nekros.......you are an idiot....
   
  Tbs....i often found that there is something deeply comforting in not letting go our pain...
   
  It seems strange but its true....pain defines us, as well as happiness...
   
  In your not letting go this painful episode you might be showing a difficulty in accepting your present more than an impossibility to forgive yourself for your past.
  I hope you can see deep inside yourself.....be able to close that door and smile again.
   
  You owe it to your present you, Tbs. 

• Mr.Strange said on Sep 24, 2009....

  Ginger are you ready to lose pain as a definition of who you are?

• gingersoul said on Sep 24, 2009....

  Allan......there is a psycological mechanism that bring us to walk old paths even though we know where they will lead us....its a reiteration of the pain but its also a process that allows us to remain in a sort of comfort zone...we know the boundaries of that zone.....
   
  Sometimes the old pain triggers so suddendly that we found ourselves back in that zone without even realizing it...
   
  Sometimes we even decide of going willingly back to that zone...
   
  I think Tbs's pain is so deep and strong that she can't help herself...but maybe it could be useful for her not thinking that she is defined only by that pain...
   
  She is more than that now...
   
  Pain defines us. We are what happened to us and what we chose to be after what happened to us.
   
  If i am willing to lose pain to define myself, you asked?
   
  I don't think i have to or i can lose my pain.... but i have to learn to live with it...
   
  Actually I don't believe you can lose pain......it will always stay with you but you can learn to understand it and control it.
  Artists sublimate it, religious people channel it, violent people use it as an excuse...  
    
  My wish for Tbs is that she could find a way to live with it.

• nekros said on Sep 24, 2009....

  I'm an "idiot" with a heart that's ready, willing and able to give.

• MsBradford07 said on Sep 24, 2009....

  Oh my God, I wish I could there for you and help you through this. I have never lost a child, but I know that this type of pain will never really go away, but you have to find comfort in knowing she is in a better place.  I will keep you in my prayers.

• Mr.Strange said on Sep 24, 2009....

  Ginger, I will offer you an opportunity to walk your path with out pain...I have helped three people on here.
  
  Finn
  Wish
  Unicorn
  
  I have gotten better and quicker at the process if you want freedom, I can show you how to get it.
  
  Currently working with
  
  Food
  and
  Ame
  
  I can help you help yourself.
  
  Nekros...are you ready to get on with something new in your life?
  

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