warning- this is a controversial topic. in no way do i condone the use of knives for injuring anybody. in no way do i think that sharing blood is ever a good idea. in no way am i trying to excuse the abusive behaviour of anybody. if weapons, and knives in particular, frighten you, this post is not for you.
i also need to stress that ANY and EVERY submissive has a right to say no. they do not have to do ANYTHING that makes them uncomfortable or frightened. true and willing submission is NOT brought about through fear.
well, strictly speaking i'm obliged to do a post tonight, after an online play session, (geez, i got lazy for a bit in the middle there huh?) but i thought it'd be about time to talk about something i haven't explored in my journal before.
knife play.
Yes, it strikes fear into every new submissive's mind. Yes, it makes the hard limits list almost as soon as people find out it exists. Yes, it's been banished to the deeper, darker and more extreme realms of BDSM.
Is this necessary?
Of course, there's extreme scope for things to go wrong in knife play. Used improperly, lasting scars can be left, infection can set in, not to mention the possibility of losing the use of parts of the body. There's a lot of 'room' for the Dominant to abuse their power and really do some damage.
Most people have an aversion to weapons of any kind, and so when people mention combining D/s and weapons- they're straight out. Really, not many people believe that the submissive is in control at all, and so of course are going to shy away from the possibility of a weapon being used on this vulnerable party, 'consensual' or not.
It's almost going back to the most basic of human instincts. Thing can cause pain, stay away from it. Person holding thing that can cause pain, stay away from them.
As knifeplay is so dangerous, and as there is a lot of room for people to be stupid and hurt each other, it is not a very commonplace occurrence in BDSM.
However.
There is an element to knifeplay that is completely D/s, M/s, whatever you want to call it. and it's relatively safe.
it's the psychological element.
In the online scene i just did with Master, He did not describe cutting me.
In the scene i've done in real life with a knife, He did not hurt me in any way.
In each scenario, it was traced on my skin, it cut away clothing. Never did He let it break the skin or to injure me.
In each scenario, i had to come to terms with the fact that He *might* choose to cut me. He could end my life if He wanted to. it's taking His power to the extreme, just to show me for a moment, let me taste how much trust i have in Him. showing me that i am His possession, that He has a right to do whatever He wants to.
it's a very powerful, intoxicating feeling.
if He ever chooses to cut me, i know it will be an intense experience for both of us. but i know He'll handle it with the same precise loving care that He does with anything dangerous. He's very protective of His toy and i'm very grateful for that.
so, kinky 'casters, knives or no?
Hard limit, been there done that, or soft? Would you accept cutting or just psychological play?
Why, why not?
