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Topic that came up while talking to my friend.  

Yes or No?  Do you think men are capable of loving?

I think they in fact are capable.  There are however, the odd guys who don't seem to be, and I find give the outlook they can't.  I stand where I am.

Yes, or no.  Explain your answers to, I'd love to see the input!


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  • secretlife said on Sep 14, 2009....
    yes, i think so.
    when they're ready to love.
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 14, 2009....
    Thank you =)  2-0! =D
  • UnicornForm said on Sep 14, 2009....
    I think men love. Just when they allow a certain person in their heart for some its hard to let anyother women in.
  • JennyRotten said on Sep 14, 2009....
    I think men can definately love, sometimes even more completely than women.
    I just believe the whole stotic, blokely, manly culture can sometimes stop men from expressing themselves the way that perhaps women want them too. That said, i guess many women have the same problem as well.
     
    Nobody wants to get hurt....
     
  • hairbrushedhubby said on Sep 15, 2009....

    being as I am one of those under discussion, If you were to ask happily married women that question, I am pretty sure they would answer yes, because one reflects the other, the same as if you were to ask unhappily married women they would say no.

    So why ask the question about men? Does it not follow then that you should ask men if women are capable of love? Or are they just here to make men unhappy with coments like these.

  • Hegemone said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Oh I full well believe that men can love, but I also believe they have a harder time expressing it in common ways that everybody can interprit, for various reasons.
  • MoonLiteRide said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Yes they can. 

    I personally don't think there is a distinction in the sexes between how a woman and a man can feel.  I do know there are men who can't appear to love anything and I'm sure there are women just the same. 

    Some men are reluctant to show how they feel due to perceived pressure from society but I believe they do feel it just as much as women.
  • mixednuts said on Sep 15, 2009....
    I love women sooo much, but there are all of these rules that are thrown up ( money, age, etc,etc,etc.!
     
    I love women when I wake up in the morning, at lunch, at dinner and all of the time! If I wasn't a guy I would be a lesbian :0} ( hard wired female lover=me ). It's the way that they think and act that I love! Women should rule the world!
  • Mr.Strange said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Men are you human, Humans have emotions.

    So yes men can love, men feel love. 

    I feel love.

    Does our society respect men who have emotions and rather then hide them embrace them?  No.
  • MoonLiteRide said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Mixednuts, dude ... that's lust!  I know, starts with L, has four letters.  It's confusing.
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Thank you all ^_^

    I for sure agree that men can love.  As stated above, I was asking this because a friend of mine is losing the faith that men can even love.  I just wanted to see how many agree, and so it seems that is everybody.  I'm trying to convincer that indeed yes they are for sure capable!

    I do hope nobody will think of me as discriminating of  men in any way shape or form.  In no way did I mean to seem like that.  Again a friend is just in the state of mind they can't, which I do not believe.
  • mixednuts said on Sep 15, 2009....
    I do love women MoonL.R, but the LUST does grow after you get to know *one better.
  • mOOn_platOOn said on Sep 15, 2009....
    O
     
    It's not men. Your friend is focused on men because she wants a man.
     
    No one can love - unconditionally. At least, not a lover. Your child, up to a certain age, yes. But not everyone.
     
    And then there are sociopaths of all genders. They feel little of anything.
     
    Can we experience ecstasy? Sure. Happiness. Yep. Satisfaction and friendship? Absolutely. All quite temporarily, in most cases.
     
    Women form chemical attachments to mates in ways that men do not. Hunger, yearning, differ in the sexes. Men have long succumbed to the notion of a monogamous model, much against their nature.
     
    The taming of men goes on from day care upward, where aggressive behavior is "bad" and feminine approaches encouraged.
     
    We're less likely to spill our guts because our social position is one of sexual repression.
     
    O
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Thank you for your input mOOn ^_^
  • ABOVE_TOP_SECRET said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Love outlasts sex
  • mixednuts said on Sep 15, 2009....
    ATS is correct!
    When you can't be with your special someone the love continues to grow. Sex is nice, but sex and love are not the same!
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Agreed!  Also ... Life without sex is inconvenience, Life without love is tragedy.  My favorite quote. ^_^
  • moonriver said on Sep 15, 2009....
    are we (men) capable of loving?
    definitely yes.
    the capability is there.
    the option is there.

    the problem with most men is that we're too lazy to rise from our football-tv-beer lethargy, from our post-orgasm stupor, so we can exercise that capability, that option, to the degree that a lot of women expect.

    extraordinary is the woman who can dissipate this lethargy and banish it from the man, not just for a week, not just for a month or a year, but for periods asymptotic to infinity. 

    asymptotic. that's the key.
    asymptotic is my type of woman, my type of love.

    (just got home from a looong night's work. i think i'll go lethargic and stuporous and soporific today... :-)

  • sweetsoul said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Personally I find the question almost offensive. The idea that men, in general, can't love is ridiculous just as much as the idea that women, in general can't.
     
    Clearly your friend's question is based on her experience with specific men and she's generalizing it to all men. That's a shame. Certainly won't improve her chance of finding one who can love.
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 15, 2009....
    moonriver - Thank you I agree. ^_^

    Sweetsoul - It for sure can be, I plan to have her read comments, and perhaps it will help change her opinion.  Thank you ^_^
  • wolfafterurazz said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Yes, explanations can only be shown...............cummer
  • the.food.critic said on Sep 15, 2009....

    Are men capable of loving? Loving as in thinking about just one girl, or guy for that matter? As in wanting to spend as much time as humanly possible with that one person? As in dreaming about that one person almost every night? As in changing their own dislikes for soemthings into likes just because that person likes those things? If that's what you're referring to, then this man is capable of love. Bit if not, then maybe I'm not. What say?

  • gingersoul said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Oh please, what kind of question is this?.....lol.....

    Yes, men do love......they are human being like us girls, if i recall well.....;-p.

    The question maybe should have been another one: do men show their love in a different way than women?

    I like Strange question too...

    Moon........asymptotic, uh?........you do work hard....lol...
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Its a question from one of my friends, she is convinced they don't love, silly eh?  I myself never said they can't, I did say there are some who seem like they can't.
  • moonriver said on Sep 15, 2009....
    simply, i'm so glad we agree.
    that's always a good step towards world peace.

    ginger
    , i work hard, play hard, write hard, sleep hard...
    did i mention work hard already?
    what else can i say?
    i'm a hard kind of guy.
    are you asymptotic?

  • gingersoul said on Sep 15, 2009....
    Moon....are you kidding? I was born asymptotic......lol...
  • wolfafterurazz said on Sep 16, 2009....
    Men love through their dicks,,,,,,,which are controlled by women.........so ladies its all up to you...................Can we love?
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 16, 2009....
    the.food.critic - =O I did not see your comment sorry!  Looks like you are capable XD  I don't think there is one REAL definition of love but.. it's the same thing.  Love is a simple but kind of complicated XD

    wolfafterurazz - Hmm.. I see I see ha ha =p 
  • wolfafterurazz said on Sep 16, 2009....
    simply I was just kidding around unless you want to test my theroy~wink~
  • Mr.Strange said on Sep 16, 2009....
    I like how thought provoking this was...I will learn from your example

    Simply  great job.
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 16, 2009....
    Thank you Mr.Strange. ^_^
  • Rhapsodize said on Sep 17, 2009....
    YES, I believe that they choose to love the woman who chooses to love them, no matter how much they don't show their love.  It is realistic that men are not going to show their love on a regular basis like women do.  We women need to keep the love flowing.
  • Taffy000 said on Sep 17, 2009....

    Some men are capable of it.  A lot aren't.  :~)  I think that the men who define a woman by how much she weights or what color she is aren't capable of love.  Men who accept women with a few rolls around the gut & still call her beautiful are definately capable of love. 

    I was lucky I grew up with a loving father who liked to oil my scalp.  I'd sit down in between his legs & he'd use a brush & comb & part my hair in sections & apply oil to my scalp.  There's nothing as loving as a father doing that for his little daughter.  My boyfriend ALWAYS holds the storm door open when we're leaving my house so it doesn't slam into my bottom.  That's true love!  He's volunteered to come over & "clean up" my yard.  That's love! 

    Other men have passed me over because -----I don't know why.  I don't think they are capable of love.  Love means thinking of the other person before yourself.  Love is not thinking of what you can get or what you can look at. 

  • Taffy000 said on Sep 17, 2009....
    Wolf - I have heard studies that say that men do express themselves in the way you describe.  Women are different.  They need to feel the emotions before they can surrender to a man's physical desire BUT for a man that physical desire leads to a stronger bonding...Lucky for me I understand that and like it!!  I haven't had as much sex in 7 years of marriage as I've had in the past 2 months with my new beau!
  • simplyconfused said on Sep 17, 2009....
    wolf - as temping as an offer...... I think I'm going to pass =p  

    Taffy - Thank you for your input and I agree. ^_^, also I love all the studies people do!  There always interesting, and I can actually believe that.
  • anonymous said on Oct 09, 2009....
    Can men Love? Nope, perhaps some generations ago they did, but now I truly feel that they don't. There are those that like the "package" of a wife, kid etc. but no matter what the age is............they still love to hang out with their buddies and never seem to grow up.
  • simplyconfused said on Oct 10, 2009....
    anonymouse -- who are you? :O :O =p  .. and thank you for your input. ^^
  • anonymous said on Oct 11, 2009....
    or we can all never grow up and hang with freinds but love like we did when we were young without walls, borders or discrimination
  • simplyconfused said on Oct 11, 2009....
    anonymous - Thank you. ^^

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